Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:56     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
My kids are teens and I’m surprised by this thread bc based on convos w friends and family w younger kids I would have thought Dr, Becky had outlawed CIO.

Op, I agree w pp the sleep pressure just in any there at 5am and would do checks.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:51     Subject: Re:For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Also for anyone wondering, my first woke up at 4:30/5 for many months (and we just got up and started our day) and eventually it sorted itself out. Despite sleep training he was a pretty lousy sleeper until 2-2.5. Now at 3 he sleeps better than a lot of kids who slept amazingly as babies.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:48     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
5am wake ups suck but imo you can’t ask them to cry it out for that. It’s morning. If it’s a baby, you can feed them and see if they’ll do a snooze.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:45     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
5am or later is morning. They’ll eventually push it back.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:42     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nah just let them scream their head off *eye roll*

Some of you people are seriously detached from your kids and it shows


OP here. It's pretty easy to be detached because we also keep the baby in a cage when they're not asleep, just to emphasize who's really in charge.


Itd be funny if it werent half- true (cage while sleeping) since almost everyone I know who did sleep training either has to cover their kids crib or drop the mattress to the floor and/or both and then escalates to locking the door from the outside so they cant get out later.

Only the truly compliant and/or high sleep needs kids aka your unicorns that sleep 7-7 from 4months until 5 years old do sleep training well. Those are also the kids who still nap through kindergarten


Seems pretty reasonable to assume most people you know who sleep trained didn't mention it to you because you're obviously extremely judgemental. Most people with these easy sleepers you speak of don't need to sleep train because... their kids are sleeping. Some people desperately need to sleep train because otherwise they and their children would be up at all hours of the night for years. Unfortunately I know firsthand. It's devastating to your life.


Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:29     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nah just let them scream their head off *eye roll*

Some of you people are seriously detached from your kids and it shows


OP here. It's pretty easy to be detached because we also keep the baby in a cage when they're not asleep, just to emphasize who's really in charge.


Itd be funny if it werent half- true (cage while sleeping) since almost everyone I know who did sleep training either has to cover their kids crib or drop the mattress to the floor and/or both and then escalates to locking the door from the outside so they cant get out later.

Only the truly compliant and/or high sleep needs kids aka your unicorns that sleep 7-7 from 4months until 5 years old do sleep training well. Those are also the kids who still nap through kindergarten



Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:11     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Don’t most people get up at 5am to exercise anyway? It doesn’t seem too early.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:06     Subject: Re:For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Anonymous wrote:This happened with my kid. I would just go into his room, get him out of crib, and lay down with him (we had a twin bed in room but you could also just do it on floor). I would lay him next to me with head in my arms and I would pat him and shush him with pacifier if needed and that would usually be enough to get him to doze until 6:30-7. All done with as little fanfare as possible, no feeding. It took a few months but he eventually stopped waking so early. It miss that bonding time now.


Same poster, adding to not let baby cry at 5-5:30am wakeup. That is a normal wakeup per pediatrician. You best hope is to try soothing ways to stretch it.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2024 14:04     Subject: Re:For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
This happened with my kid. I would just go into his room, get him out of crib, and lay down with him (we had a twin bed in room but you could also just do it on floor). I would lay him next to me with head in my arms and I would pat him and shush him with pacifier if needed and that would usually be enough to get him to doze until 6:30-7. All done with as little fanfare as possible, no feeding. It took a few months but he eventually stopped waking so early. It miss that bonding time now.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2024 14:57     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Anonymous wrote:Nah just let them scream their head off *eye roll*

Some of you people are seriously detached from your kids and it shows


OP here. It's pretty easy to be detached because we also keep the baby in a cage when they're not asleep, just to emphasize who's really in charge.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2024 12:23     Subject: Re:For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP here to add - instead of a 4-5 feeding, I would do a dreamfeed at 11pm or so. That way you can sleep from 11-6 or 7. Bliss.


I agree. I think the idea of CIO is to teach them that you aren't coming. Sometimes coming and sometimes not, for a baby who can't tell time, is super confusing. No wonder they are taking some time to settle when they wake up at 5:30 if the last time they woke up and cried it worked! Doing a dreamfeed, so the kid learns that they only get fed when you're the one waking them up seems much less confusing.


Yikes.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2024 12:19     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
So you just let your 4 month old baby cry until you want to wake up? Sounds like neglect.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2024 10:49     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
5am is a normal wake up time for many young kids. I cant imagine making them cry instead of just getting up for the day. Babies wake up early. I would not consider post 5am night time.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 20:59     Subject: Re:For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know, I know, this isn’t the thread for me.

But in case any prospective parents are reading this and thinking this sounds so normal and benign, please know there are other ways. Many of your peers and trusted professionals would never do this but won’t tell you for fear of seeing judgmental. You do NOT have to put your infants’ nervous systems through this type of turmoil.


I agree. I don't even know why some people have kids if this is how they want to treat them.


Lmao F off
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2024 15:12     Subject: For CIO, what do you do about wakeups after 5 am?
Nah just let them scream their head off *eye roll*

Some of you people are seriously detached from your kids and it shows