Anonymous
01/05/2024 09:53
Subject: Any way to quell my mom’s anxiety?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I am not discussing our finances."
"Mom, you have asked that question several times. I'm concerned about you. Are you having trouble with your short-term memory?"
The only thing more hilarious on DCUM than the responses with a ridiculous 'script' for OP to reenact are the scripts that assume and accuse the older parents of having Alzheimer's.
Oh, it's the Script Troll again. OP is concerned about her mother having dementia. Did you know that the majority of elderly people will develop dementia before their death? It's a known statistic, and therefore, the question is valid.
Also, since you're probably also on other threads claiming that ADHD and autism are talked about too much, yes, those are more prevalent than people like you would ever think possible, and they merit discussion.
Anonymous
01/05/2024 09:47
Subject: Re:Any way to quell my mom’s anxiety?
Anonymous wrote:I think most people in the boomer generation had jobs where they had to work very specific hours. And jobs were much more about being in the office during those set hours than about what you actually did while there. It might be just too hard to grasp. But if you have not already, make it clear that your husband makes the same amount of money no matter when he works. Perhaps if you have just said he has flexible hours, she still thinks that means the pay varies.
This. Plus it seems like anxiety is a normal part of aging and you almost just have to live with it. You can shut down conversations but it’s hard to eliminate or decrease the actual anxiety.
Anonymous
01/05/2024 09:32
Subject: Any way to quell my mom’s anxiety?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We’ve actually been concerned about dementia for a while now, for other reasons, and this just adds to that concern.
Talk about burying the lede!
Will see talk to her doctor about this? Is it worth a conversation at a neutral time (when she's not talking about this)? "Mom, I've noticed lately that you seem to be repeating some questions, and you seem to have some increased anxiety about a variety of issues. These can be signs of a health problem - when was the last time you saw your doctor?"
Anonymous
01/05/2024 08:02
Subject: Any way to quell my mom’s anxiety?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We’ve actually been concerned about dementia for a while now, for other reasons, and this just adds to that concern.
If this is a change or exacerbation previous personality or anxiety, have her assessed.
If this is her, try not to respond or react. Change the topic. Move on. She won’t change now.