Anonymous wrote:Who the eff would make their partner give up a beloved pet for no good reason? There’s something wrong with you, OP

Sounds like a sociopath or a narcisisst.

I think we would all choose the dog in this situation.

Good for this woman. I bet she's living her best life with her dog (AND possibly a nice man) instead of being miserable with pathetic OP.

Oh gosh. I’m laughing so hard I might cry. Of course she chose the dog!!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attention to single women in their 30s:

Dogs are not children. Having a dog does not make you a mother. Being obsessed with your fur baby is not giving maternal instincts, it's giving arrested development. I am not interested in women who make their dog the center of their universe.

I (M, 40) was dating a woman (35) who said that she and her German Shepherd are a "package deal" when we were getting serious and thinking about moving in together. I said she had to choose between me and the dog, and she chose the dog. Now she's late 30s and childless but with a giant, smelly canine.

Women, rethink your priorities if this sounds like you.

No one wants you, for real.

+1

Low EQ. Plus I don't trust people who don't like dogs.

Dogs 1, OP 0

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're being harsh. The dog lives with her. The dog is part of her family. Not a child (and I agree that wayyyyyy too many dog people are overly liberal with their dogs) but asking someone to get rid of their pet is excessive.

If she were bringing the dog everywhere, to stores, restaurants, other people's homes, I'd agree with you. But in HER home? I mean that's where pets are *supposed* to stay.

No indication that the escapee woman this troll tried to date considers her dog a child or her child, just that she wouldn’t agree to throw a dog away to please a loser.

Yep. He's blaming the dog when there have to have been other issues or else he would have had some flexibility about the dog. He's scapegoating the dog for something else.

He says they were about to move in together. I can't quite believe that if they were THAT level of involved and committed, he and she had not already been very clear about where they both stood regarding the dog. He just seems...jealous of the dog. Like he has to assert dominance over the relationship by making her choose.

I don't have, want or especially like dogs, myself. I loathe the juvenile "fur baby" and "dog parent" crap on social media lately. But even I would never dream of teling someone -- someone to whom I was so close, we were about to move in together, FFS! -- that "It's me or the dog." Only if severe allergies were an issue (and they can be debilitating and a deal-breaker, if the other person doesn't "believe in" your life-wrecking allergies) would it become a sticking point. But even then, there are ways to work with it IF the relationship is truly serious. Clearly this relationship wasn't.

Anonymous wrote:Attention to single women in their 30s:

Dogs are not children. Having a dog does not make you a mother. Being obsessed with your fur baby is not giving maternal instincts, it's giving arrested development. I am not interested in women who make their dog the center of their universe.

I (M, 40) was dating a woman (35) who said that she and her German Shepherd are a "package deal" when we were getting serious and thinking about moving in together. I said she had to choose between me and the dog, and she chose the dog. Now she's late 30s and childless but with a giant, smelly canine.

Women, rethink your priorities if this sounds like you.

Sounds like her priorities are just fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you're being harsh. The dog lives with her. The dog is part of her family. Not a child (and I agree that wayyyyyy too many dog people are overly liberal with their dogs) but asking someone to get rid of their pet is excessive.

If she were bringing the dog everywhere, to stores, restaurants, other people's homes, I'd agree with you. But in HER home? I mean that's where pets are *supposed* to stay.

I agree. I have pets, not fur babies. They stay home, and the canine walks outside (not in stores or restaurants). I cannot just ditch them to go live with someone. I am responsible for these animals while they live out their domesticated lives.

OP, lots of people have pets. I'm sure a lot of men and women get immensely annoying with their pet obsession, but your blanket statement is too general.

This. I have a pet, not a "fur baby" (barf). And I am responsible for that pet. I take that obligation very seriously. Removing a pet is a serious business, to be done only if necessary.

You stupid piece of sh**t, the dog does not want you either. Even a cockroach will stay away from you. You are seriously incredibly stupid.

I was with you until you said she had to get rid of her dog. You can’t just get rid of pets like that. Maybe if you had given the dog a chance, you could have bonded with it too. My DH was anti-pets until I got a cat and he loves her more now than me. Don’t underestimate the value of pets.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she made the right call. Telling someone to choose between you and their pet is a red flag.

+1 You suck, OP.

Better to be honest at the beginning. You and this dog owner should not have even gone on one date. If you are so adamantly not a dog (or pet) person, surely you could limit your dating pool to similary-minded women?

I can’t believe this guy is still on the market!

I don’t understand why she had to give up her dog.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she made the right call. Telling someone to choose between you and their pet is a red flag.

+1