Anonymous wrote:if your husband was born here he is not "from Ghana"

I am 100% Race Indian, but not from India, born in USA. Race and where you are from are 2 different things.

This. Your husband is confused.

Anonymous wrote:DD was born in Fairfax, lived in Ashburn for 9 years, moved to DC for 4 years and is now moving to Roanoke where my family is from. I lived in DC for over 20 years prior to moving to Northern Virginia and back to DC. She’s asked us where does she say that she is from when she moves to Roanoke. Her dad says she is from Roanoke because my family roots are from Roanoke. His reference point is that he says Ghana when asked where he is from though he was born in America. I would say she could say she’s from Virginia (Northern Virginia) but lived in DC for 3 years. FWIW I still say I am from DC.

Massive eyeroll

She is from Northern Virginia but it's fine to say DC or "moved down from DC."

She's not from Roanoke and it will be confusing and weird if she says she is. People will ask what part, or what school she attended.

Say she’s local. People ask this here when they think you are from another country. Im asked this rather frequently and I reply I’m a local. Sometimes they say okay, other times they ask where I’m originally from. I don’t launch into the entire thing of how I lived in Arlington for a few years after college in NC but grew up in NJ… they are asking my nationality and usually because they are from a different country and hoping to make a connection. Maybe they think your daughter is also from a different country and this is why you are asked.

Northern Virginia

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if your husband was born here he is not "from Ghana"

I am 100% Race Indian, but not from India, born in USA. Race and where you are from are 2 different things.

Op here. Thanks PP. I know a few people like yourself and a few like him. From his perspective he’s the only American born child and his parents came to the U.S. just over a year or two before he was born. But all of the relatives outside of his immediate family are back in Ghana. I’ve noticed people often ask where our last name origins are from and for him, that includes his first name.

he never lived in Ghana, right? he is not from Ghana. since he hasn't sorted his own situation, he is not a good person person to advise your daughter on this topic.

If the kids in her school ask, I’d assume she’d say she just moved there from DC. She’s a kid, that’s where most of her memories are from at this point and what she probably considers home.

When she goes to college and people ask where she’s from she’ll probably say Roanoke by that point.

I lived in NY til I was 15, then lived in PA until college. When people ask where I’m from (meaning as in hometown) I say I grew up in NY and PA.

Anonymous wrote:“The dc area”

+1

She’s definitely not from Roanoke.

She can say whatever she wants. Other kids asking her are likely asking from where did she move.

Anonymous wrote:if your husband was born here he is not "from Ghana"

I am 100% Race Indian, but not from India, born in USA. Race and where you are from are 2 different things.

+1
I would be so disappointed to hear Ghana but not the ensuing Ghana accent, which I love

She's obviously from Virginia.

Anonymous wrote:Ghana is where his family is from. He’s not from there. She’s obviously not from Roanoke, yet. She’s never lived there.

This.

Is she asking where to say she’s from when other 14 year olds ask? She can say DC or Northern Virginia, whichever feels more accurate to her.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is she? Are we talking childhoods years?

Op here. 13 years old turning 14 this year.

Poor kid. Why do you keep moving her?