Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:33     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?




Not every decision is life and death. The point is knowing which are.

--Engineer.


+1. —Attorney.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:30     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?


Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP


PP you replied to. Sorry, I disagree entirely. Just because it's lowly fast-food, doesn't mean every item is the same. Just because it's a kid movie, doesn't mean there isn't a wide range of quality. It seems as though you care more about getting through the day, even if you don't enjoy it, than you care about savoring each moment. That's unutterably strange to me.

I actually don't know any people like you, OP. None of my friends or relatives are as impatient/impulsive and seemingly un-discerning as you. I agree that extreme personalities are always a little difficult, but in the case you're describing, I have to wonder if you're the extreme personality.

NP. Nope, it’s you. You’re the extreme personality. If you don’t know what you want from Chik-Fil-A, pull up the menu yourself, read it and decide. Don’t ask someone else to read it to you. If you have almost an hour to decide whether to go see “Migration” at 2:40, that should be plenty of time for the level of “discernment” needed. What you’re calling discernment is indecisiveness.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:28     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?




Not every decision is life and death. The point is knowing which are.

--Engineer.


The point of living is to live with freedom. Freedom to choose to make every decision life and death if that's what you want.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:26     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours


Please explain how giving people more than an hour to decide whether they want to see a specific movie is “rushing” them.


You're smart enough to figure this out, OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:24     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?




Not every decision is life and death. The point is knowing which are.

--Engineer.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:23     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
It’s a matter of time before someone declares ADHD. In 5, 4, 3…
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:22     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:OP, this is why I don’t let wishy-washy people in on any planning, including food orders. We got burned at the beach one too many times…by the time ILs and DH’s aunt were done talking about where to order from and actually got the order together, it was super late and Restaurant X wasn’t doing take-out orders anymore. That kind of thing happened a lot.

Now at the beach, I order family style and I tell them I’m taking votes on Restaurants 1, 2, or 3. If you don’t tell me your vote by 5 p.m., you don’t get a vote.


At the beach I order my own food, and the food of anyone who wants to order when I put my order in. Everyone else can fend for themselves.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:22     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours


Please explain how giving people more than an hour to decide whether they want to see a specific movie is “rushing” them.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:21     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
I watched a guy examine each of the four remaining jars of peanuts on the store shelf. I can only imagine how long this would take if the shelf wasn't nearly empty.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:20     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours


Not op but how long does it take to decide whether to see a movie? She gave them an hour advance notice? And do you really need to hem and haw over the chick fil a menu????
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:20     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?


Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP


PP you replied to. Sorry, I disagree entirely. Just because it's lowly fast-food, doesn't mean every item is the same. Just because it's a kid movie, doesn't mean there isn't a wide range of quality. It seems as though you care more about getting through the day, even if you don't enjoy it, than you care about savoring each moment. That's unutterably strange to me.

I actually don't know any people like you, OP. None of my friends or relatives are as impatient/impulsive and seemingly un-discerning as you. I agree that extreme personalities are always a little difficult, but in the case you're describing, I have to wonder if you're the extreme personality.


The kids wanted to see a specific movie, and asked for it by name. Would you like to attend is a yes or no question that can be answered within 5 minutes. Then they had more than an hour to actually decide, then said no, then grumbled about wanting to go? No. Come on. My kids wanted to see a specific movie, I didn’t have the idea to go see “a movie” to “get through the day.” Chick-fil-A was asked for by name from a birthday kid who could have ordered from anywhere, and that’s what her 6yo self wanted.


Why do you care of someone grumbles? That's on them. You gave them an hour. Move on. Same with Chick-fil-A. Why are you ordering for your husband? Put your order in and move on.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:18     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:16     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Op I am like you, I usually choose the path of least resistance even if it’s not what I personally want to do. One DC is like me and the other DC and DH are more fussy/picky/finicky. The easygoing ones often end up doing what the fussy ones want in terms of dining and entertainment to avoid frustrating debates and conversations.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:12     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?


Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP


PP you replied to. Sorry, I disagree entirely. Just because it's lowly fast-food, doesn't mean every item is the same. Just because it's a kid movie, doesn't mean there isn't a wide range of quality. It seems as though you care more about getting through the day, even if you don't enjoy it, than you care about savoring each moment. That's unutterably strange to me.

I actually don't know any people like you, OP. None of my friends or relatives are as impatient/impulsive and seemingly un-discerning as you. I agree that extreme personalities are always a little difficult, but in the case you're describing, I have to wonder if you're the extreme personality.


The kids wanted to see a specific movie, and asked for it by name. Would you like to attend is a yes or no question that can be answered within 5 minutes. Then they had more than an hour to actually decide, then said no, then grumbled about wanting to go? No. Come on. My kids wanted to see a specific movie, I didn’t have the idea to go see “a movie” to “get through the day.” Chick-fil-A was asked for by name from a birthday kid who could have ordered from anywhere, and that’s what her 6yo self wanted.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2023 14:11     Subject: Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow
OP you sound very annoying forcing everything on everyone.