Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 17:02     Subject: Family wedding
OP you have too much time on your hands and too privileged of a life if you cannot give people grace and mind your own business. Go, enjoy the wedding and stop creating drama and chaos in your mind. Be grateful you can afford it and feel you will enjoy it and be grateful your life is so blessed.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 17:01     Subject: Re:Family wedding
I’m pricing airline tickets to attend my nephew’s wedding this summer and wish I had the guts to say nope, can’t do it! Would not go over well, but weddings have become insanely expensive for guests.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 16:34     Subject: Family wedding
MIL didn’t end up attending. Said she hurt her shoulder but my SiL said she likely just didn’t want to go and was anxious about it.
Other SIL didn’t attend because she gets nervous driving in the city doesn't like her husbands driving in the city.
BIL never replied to invitation or follow up text.
Other BIL (father of groom) is furious with family members for not attending.
The rest of us had an outstanding time! And he’s was so grateful we were there.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 19:40     Subject: Family wedding
Personally, I don't spend a lot of time worrying about things that are outside of my control. I definitely wouldn't spend time worrying about my spouse's siblings' relationships with each other. That's just way outside of my purview. Not sure why you are investing energy into this.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 19:26     Subject: Family wedding
Anonymous wrote:With six siblings how many niece and nephew weddings are possible? Probably a lot.



This. Personally I find it a little sad when siblings don’t maintain relationships into adulthood. But with six siblings, there could be 18+ nieces/ nephews. Graduations and weddings tend to all hit at the same time so I wouldn’t expect all to attend all the weddings.

I also find it odd that the SIL is so worried about this. OP, not your monkeys and not your circus.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 16:39     Subject: Family wedding
Anonymous wrote:Why can’t they drive 3 hours for a wedding? No need to stay over, just don’t drink and leave the dinner early.

Seems strange but I would let DH care.


Listen to yourself. They should drive 3 hours so they can spend less than 30 minutes witnessing an exchange of vows? No way. They should stay home. You are unreasonable. MYOB
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 15:50     Subject: Family wedding
Why can’t they drive 3 hours for a wedding? No need to stay over, just don’t drink and leave the dinner early.

Seems strange but I would let DH care.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 15:13     Subject: Family wedding
With six siblings how many niece and nephew weddings are possible? Probably a lot.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 15:12     Subject: Family wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.


I think they probably can't stand you.


Wonder why they continue to contact me telling me they miss me, or wait to see me when they visit.
And if that were truly the case, who doesn’t go to their nephews wedding based on one SIL.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 14:08     Subject: Family wedding
Anonymous wrote:My DH has 6 siblings. A nephew is getting married and two of the siblings are attending, (including us and our 4 kids with two SO) even though everyone was invited.
It’s 3 hours away for everyone, except one Hawaii sibling.
I simply cannot believe three of the siblings aren’t attending. It’s in a major city.
I’d be so mad.
One is a trucker and said he wouldn’t fit in, one thinks the city is a racket (no idea what she means by that) and the other - who knows.
It’s so very odd.


I think they probably can't stand you.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 14:07     Subject: Re:Family wedding
Plenty of siblings are not close and may have no relationship with the nephew. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 13:00     Subject: Family wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?



The “racket” just returned from a European trip.
The “trucker” does just fine.

I didn’t miss anything.

They were being polite. They simply don’t want to be around you and your lovely attitude.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 12:47     Subject: Re:Family wedding
If the aunt/uncle's attendance was important to the nephew and the aunt/uncle just didn't care to show up (rather than not being able to afford it), I'd feel sorry for the nephew. But, if the nephew is indifferent, I wouldn't think anything of it. I suspect there just isn't much of a relationship between them - and that's okay.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 11:57     Subject: Family wedding
My DH and I both had uncles who missed our wedding. One was a reasonable reason and one I felt was shaky, but whatever! Their choice. We still had a great day.

I would go out of my way quite a bit to attend a niece/nephew wedding. As your get older you realize you either see the family there, or at someone's funeral, and I'd much rather see them at the wedding.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2023 11:51     Subject: Family wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Wouldn't fit in" and "the city's a racket" are roundabout ways to say that it's TOO EXPENSIVE FOR THEM to travel, get a hotel, buy nice clothes and gifts, park their cars, etc, in that major city.

How on earth did you miss that, OP?



The “racket” just returned from a European trip.
The “trucker” does just fine.

I didn’t miss anything.


People are allowed to spend their own money on what they want. I’d rather go to Europe than a family wedding too.


I’d be pissed if a family member did this.


You'd be "pissed" if someone spent their own money in a way that doesn't benefit you?