Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he sees himself as a victim. Not a fan.

Well aren’t you the Judge, the Jury and the Jailer!

Twice divorced is a red flag. Don't waste your time.

It really depends on the person. Sometimes people have a young, brief marriage or brief rebound after a divorce, with a longer, “real” marriage. I would hesitate if the person had kids by different partners. But you have to listen to what they say.

I would also hesitate if I felt the person didn’t show insight as to why they acted as they did, and I would look at how they treat you, of course. Any red flag would wave more than maybe someone with one or no divorces.

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Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

So nothing is his fault?

Exactly.

Anonymous wrote:Run

Date fine marry hell no

Who says OP wants to get married. People usually don’t date with an intention to get married. They date to get laid.

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

That’s a hard no. He’s not taking responsibility for anything.

First marriage was in his mid20s

Was he young for the for the first marriage? I likely wouldn’t even think of it as a real marriage tbh.

I foolishly got married in college to my high school boyfriend who promptly cheated on me. It is the sign that I was an idiot and immature in college. Got married again in my 30’s, been married for 18 years, with kids, etc. If we get divorced it would be a completely different situation. Don’t feel like the first indicates anything about my decision-making and how I Manage relationships or view commitment as an adult.

I would.

Ofcourse. I have one marriage and one long-term relationships behind me. The person I'm dating has two marriages behind him. We area good fit and have fun, but no need to get married.

Run

Date fine marry hell no

Get the exes cell phone number.

If you don't have better options and not interested in having kids then you got nothing to lose, get a favorable pre-nup as its a risky decision.

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

So nothing is his fault?

Anonymous wrote:Would you do it? He’s 46 with one kid. Very successful, responsible, hard working, good looking, well educated, great taste/cultured, wants to pay for everything, makes good decisions (except the marriages I guess).

May check all boxes but ability to be a good partner. May be wisened up by now and would want to avoid third divorce. Overall rate of divorce is higher in third marriages.