Anonymous wrote:I don't think there is an A here.
Yes, fair to be a little annoyed (you), yes fair to be moved by the spirit (DH), probably genius to stay home and get an invite where yo don't have to work (neighbor), but it's christmas, and everyone in this story is probably doing the best they can and it will be funny in a year.

Very well said!

Anonymous wrote:All of you telling the OP she is not nice don’t have neighbors in your house on Christmas Day.

Not true.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of you telling the OP she is not nice don’t have neighbors in your house on Christmas Day.

We do. We have an elderly woman who lives across the street and is alone and when I saw her a few days ago I invited her. She’s a bit quirky but she will be entertained by our six grandchildren ten and under. Party starts in an hour and I’m all set!

I'd rather invite someone to a big gathering than a small one so other people can help to entertain the guest. I think it's fair to be a little annoyed that DH didn't clear it with you. I was annoyed when DH invited someone to stay with us without asking me first because we had home projects going on, and clearing those up before the guest arrived on short notice meant loads more work for me when I already had work deadlines to meet.

He was not Put On The Spot
But yes, since now he has invited them, they come.

So I would drop it since it's Christmas, but your DH is the AH in my opinion here since neighbor is a jerk to not spend Christmas with his family. It's fine if he doesn't want to, but then he can't expect a pity invite because he is alone!

Anonymous wrote:All of you telling the OP she is not nice don’t have neighbors in your house on Christmas Day.

We do. We have an elderly woman who lives across the street and is alone and when I saw her a few days ago I invited her. She’s a bit quirky but she will be entertained by our six grandchildren ten and under. Party starts in an hour and I’m all set!

Your DH should have asked but it’s best just to grin and bear it. It’s Christmas and you are keeping someone from being alone even if he did have another option. Be gracious and hit the mimosa early.

All of you telling the OP she is not nice don’t have neighbors in your house on Christmas Day.

You are NTA. If it was a regular day and he was coming, that’s one thing. But this is your holiday too and you’re not obligated to sacrifice your comfort and enjoyment to be with someone you don’t really care for.

Anonymous wrote:I’d be maybe a little annoyed but ok with it. It’s Christmas.

Me too. 🎄

It’s fair to feel annoyance, but regroup and go with it in the spirit of Christmas, and you won’t be the a-hole.

YTA

I would be annoyed about this too op.
I feel like saying you don’t have Christmas spirit is gaslighting (prob from the same boomers who don’t feel the obligation to help with their grandkids but expect their kids to be an endless well of energy ). There’s no obligation to entertain people just bc it’s Christmas. Ofc if someone has no place else to go then it’s a nice gesture but does not sound like the case here.

Really exuding that Christmas spirit Op.

Welcome the neighbor into your home. It's only for a short time. Be gracious and show your kids how to be gracious, too.