Anonymous wrote:Maybe just be grateful for gifts that loved ones took the time to buy and wrap.

This is a place to vent. OP can appreciate the gifts and be frustrated at the same time. It is annoying as hell for people to demand gift ideas and not use them.

Don’t set your kid up to believe a wish list = shopping list.

I get that it's just bitter lonely people online today, sorry sad little ladies.

Anonymous wrote:Op - ignore the haters.

Can you give your kids IOUs? Let them know these items are coming, even if they’re not there tomorrow? I know not ideal, but maybe better than nothing?

Your in-laws are annoying.

Why? Her kids are getting plenty, just not everything. They are called wish lists for a reason.

Op - ignore the haters.

Can you give your kids IOUs? Let them know these items are coming, even if they’re not there tomorrow? I know not ideal, but maybe better than nothing?

Your in-laws are annoying.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a life lesson learning opportunity in the making

Yes, for OP.

I'm so sorry wish lists don't work for you. We have our kids make wish. lists, DH and I take off the things we want to get them and then forward the rest to the grandparents. They pick from there.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - I should have been clear. We had the kids make two wish lists. One for us with basically "high priority" items and one for other people to buy them. We do two lists so that they do get all he things they really, really want from us, and the other things are those "add it to your wish list" items that come up throughout the year and holiday season and we reviewed shortly before Christmas because they knew their grandparents were asking about it.

Oooh. I see. It's the ultra-spoiled version of "waah, I didn't get stuff I asked for". I hope you understand you're not allowed to vent about this, OP. Children can put all they want on their list, they're not getting it all. They get high-priority items if their families can afford them. The rest is extra, and therefore, not complaint-worthy if they're absent on Christmas Day. I thought the grandparents had missed VIP gifts!

I always forget DCUM has extra-special problems...

This is a random website that strangers read, it is literally the ONLY place that I can vent about this stuff. Get that giant pole out of your ass, sweetheart.

I don’t know if it bugs me when family doesn’t buy off the kids’ wishlist. We do the same thing, we have a wishlist for big ticket/‘must have’ items that we (the parents) will go off of, and then a second list for relatives for less exciting items. We never promise the kids that they will get everything on their wishlist, but we do try to respect their wish lists as much as possible for our gifts. If relatives have other ideas, that is fine.

What really frustrates me is when relatives don’t even read any of it. I ALWAYS include each kid’s clothing size, shoe size, and other pertinent information. But what do you know, my brother sent my son a shirt that is two sizes too small for Hanukah. At least my son isn’t super excited about the shirt, but can’t they at least read literally the first paragraph? I put he wears an adult medium right there.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I should have been clear. We had the kids make two wish lists. One for us with basically "high priority" items and one for other people to buy them. We do two lists so that they do get all he things they really, really want from us, and the other things are those "add it to your wish list" items that come up throughout the year and holiday season and we reviewed shortly before Christmas because they knew their grandparents were asking about it.

Oooh. I see. It's the ultra-spoiled version of "waah, I didn't get stuff I asked for". I hope you understand you're not allowed to vent about this, OP. Children can put all they want on their list, they're not getting it all. They get high-priority items if their families can afford them. The rest is extra, and therefore, not complaint-worthy if they're absent on Christmas Day. I thought the grandparents had missed VIP gifts!

I always forget DCUM has extra-special problems...

Wish lists aren’t demands - damn y’all are basic

Anonymous wrote:Maybe just be grateful for gifts that loved ones took the time to buy and wrap.

Anonymous wrote:Did they ask you to share lists? If yes that is annoying. But if they never asked for a list and if you sent it unsolicited that means they had their own ideas and didnt need or want to consult your list and thus you are the annoying one.

Yes I shared the wish lists after they asked. I thought that was pretty clear in my post.

I decide what we’re getting the kids and when other people ask me I only give them one or two ideas, not the whole remaining list. I generally know each person’s budget (from prior years) so I choose accordingly. I make sure everything is purchased that way.

Sounds like a life lesson learning opportunity in the making