Anonymous
12/30/2023 12:32
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
I’ve conceived both of my children via IVF. Not getting pregnant sooner was indeed hard. Second baby is coming in a few months and I am clearly pregnant in our family Christmas photo and we mention the baby on the way. What was I going to do, hide the pregnancy until we made a birth announcement? You can do what you want with the cards that come, but do you expect all pregnant people to go into hiding to guard your feelings?
Anonymous
12/28/2023 15:27
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
No, it’s resentment and it’s ugly. Woe is me isn’t a good look either. But the inference that she is better than her friend and more deserving is just ugly.
Look in the mirror. I’m betting you are not so perfect.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 21:46
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
No, it’s resentment and it’s ugly. Woe is me isn’t a good look either. But the inference that she is better than her friend and more deserving is just ugly.
np- she never said anything hateful about her friend and I’m not even sure she resents her. Certainly I don’t get that about her posts. She’s just crying out because it *feels* unjust to her that she isn’t pregnant. Presumably op is married and is in a *stable* situation to have children. But obviously she knows that doesn’t equal an automatic baby. It’s more a presenting her case to God sort of thing.
You don't think calling someone crazy 3 times in one sentence isn't hateful?
Of course it is. But you’re not speaking with rational people.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 21:44
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
No, it’s resentment and it’s ugly. Woe is me isn’t a good look either. But the inference that she is better than her friend and more deserving is just ugly.
np- she never said anything hateful about her friend and I’m not even sure she resents her. Certainly I don’t get that about her posts. She’s just crying out because it *feels* unjust to her that she isn’t pregnant. Presumably op is married and is in a *stable* situation to have children. But obviously she knows that doesn’t equal an automatic baby. It’s more a presenting her case to God sort of thing.
You don't think calling someone crazy 3 times in one sentence isn't hateful?
Anonymous
12/26/2023 21:29
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
No, it’s resentment and it’s ugly. Woe is me isn’t a good look either. But the inference that she is better than her friend and more deserving is just ugly.
np- she never said anything hateful about her friend and I’m not even sure she resents her. Certainly I don’t get that about her posts. She’s just crying out because it *feels* unjust to her that she isn’t pregnant. Presumably op is married and is in a *stable* situation to have children. But obviously she knows that doesn’t equal an automatic baby. It’s more a presenting her case to God sort of thing.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 06:55
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
No, it’s resentment and it’s ugly. Woe is me isn’t a good look either. But the inference that she is better than her friend and more deserving is just ugly.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 05:01
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
I'm sorry for your loss and your pain, OP. I wish you peace in 2024.
Anonymous
12/26/2023 04:49
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Exactly. The OP just needed to vent. We have all been there. We have all been envious and annoyed that someone else, someone we deem less worthy got something we wanted so desperately. Yes, even the people on here who claim to be morally superior, I’m looking at you! Have some empathy for the pain the OP must be feeling to have come to an INFERTILITY board on Christmas.
Anonymous
12/24/2023 08:40
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, seriously, just go to the reddit infertility sub. You'll actually get support there. This is not the place.
+1
You’ll just get the holier than thou cows like the apps.
Seriously. I don't think OP wrote anything that bad. I can't believe how mean people are on this board to those that are struggling.
Either you've been there, in which case extend some grace, or you haven't, in which case why are you here?
I'm sorry OP. I just saw a Christmas pregnancy announcement and it hurts.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 22:32
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
I think many of us here get, from experience, how hard it is. And if she had posted just that we would have sympathy. But it’s not a reason to write spiteful things about the other person.
There are people that don't deserve to have kids. They are often much younger, but not always. Then there is everyone else that waits, makes their life perfect and yet they end up screwed. That's actually the way life works.
But YOU don't get to decide who deserves what.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 22:25
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the whole hate someone else for getting pregnant thing.
It's not hate, why do people say this. It's a take your breath away reminder of what she desperately wants but can't have. Anyone who doesn't get this is just mean.
And she could have said as much without trashing someone she falsely claims to be her friend, essentially saying that unmarried people have less of a right to have children, and are “crazy.” The friend going through two fiance breakups does not make her a bad person, it makes her a person who has gone through some tough things.
Andhonestly? Better to have had two failed engagements than have even one failed marriage.
Totally disagree. She essentially has 3 failed relationships because, let's be honest, if you aren't getting married after 1 kid you aren't getting married after 2 kids. Never seen it happen.
Um, they’re still together, so how is it a “failed relationship”? And spare me with “because they’re not married.” Marriage isn’t exactly a guarantee of being together for life and being faithful, now is it? I’ve been happily married for 11 years but I don’t think my relationship is automatically happier or more solid than people who have been together for years but haven’t gotten married.
Anonymous
12/23/2023 19:58
Subject: Xmas Pregnancy Announcements
Anonymous wrote:OP, seriously, just go to the reddit infertility sub. You'll actually get support there. This is not the place.
+1
You’ll just get the holier than thou cows like the apps.