Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 14:37     Subject: Not selected. How to shake off the disappointment

I remind myself it's a marathon, not a sprint. A colleague got promoted over me and I was so jealous. Of course, I congratulated him and kept it professional.

He got laid off. I didnt. Of course his severance package is probably better but I guess for now, ill enjoy having a job during the holidays.

I dont like the feedback you received because telling someone to work on their leadership is effing vague. Your mgr should be setting you up for leadership opportunities, including a promotion. No harm in looking externally discreetly
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 13:33     Subject: Not selected. How to shake off the disappointment

It's OK. There are always people "above" and "below" you.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2023 13:17     Subject: Not selected. How to shake off the disappointment

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the PP for the encouraging words.

And no, I did not post about this a week ago. I found out today that I have not been selected.

If they made valid points and didn’t hire someone less qualified over your head then treat this as a learning experience.


Yep - this exactly. OP, if you think they saw some potential in you, maybe you can ask for training to fill the gaps that held you back.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 21:55     Subject: Not selected. How to shake off the disappointment

Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the PP for the encouraging words.

And no, I did not post about this a week ago. I found out today that I have not been selected.

If they made valid points and didn’t hire someone less qualified over your head then treat this as a learning experience.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 21:27     Subject: Not selected. How to shake off the disappointment

Anonymous wrote:Well you’re not on the 95th floor of the World Trade Center on 911 with a great job.


Stop drinking and get some help.