Anonymous
Post 01/13/2024 22:25     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:We have received incident reports 3 days in a roll from daycare related to my DD4 having conflict with a 4 year old boy in class. Day 1, one side of her face was red because he slapped her on the face. Day 2, her arm was scratched and she has a bumpy red patch that we have to apply anti-bacterial ointment to control itchy. Day 3 today, she gets pulled on long hair, and she fell on the floor with a bruise on leg. It is the same boy, and I saw my DD crying 3 days in a roll when I pick her up.

I know they are little kids. But, what could I do to avoid my DD getting hurt by that same boy. Teacher tells me that my DD either did not take her turn, or got in fight or conflict over toy with thay boy. And, she told DD should not take other kid's turn, play with other kids something like that. I try not to be a snowflake mom, but how come I feel like teaching hinting me that it was my DD fault for all incidents. The other boy is not hurt, scratched by my DD in all 3 incidents. And, my DD is the only one getting hurt and crying.

I tell DD do not play with that boy. One mom tells me to report to administration because that boy hurt her son before in the class. What would you do in my shoes?


There is no excuse for this. Send emails to director and ask for this boy to be removed from class. He's a bully and for all of you who says four year old cannot be a bully. Yes, They can!
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2024 20:53     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
The post is a year old. Hopefully everyone has moved on.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2024 20:41     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Was the main teacher away on vacation or out sick the week of the incidents?

Often a change in staffing can mean the difference between these kind of things getting prevented or not.
1SWMom
Post 01/13/2024 20:12     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
I would ask my child to be switched to another class or find another school.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2023 11:43     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:She may be exploring what it is like to poke the bear. See how far she can push his buttons before he snaps. They are finger pointing at her, but they know that repeat incident reports especially back to back fall on them. They need to step up the supervision and step in earlier.


It very well could be this. Especially given the teacher's feedback. Yes the boy needs to work on his regulation skills regardless but what PP describes above happens often. Ask the school to supervise the two more closely and keep them apart.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2023 11:32     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:Ask the administration / teachers to encourage the children to play separately if they come into contact with one another. Say that you are concerned that things seem to be escalating and that you're worried that she could come home with even bigger injuries.

Have compassion for the other child. It's possible that the child is autistic (even if the parents or teachers don't know it) and that it's difficult for the kid to deal with big emotions.

We were in a similar situation and it's tough. Kids who can't control their emotions don't totally respond to the logical talking to that parents / teachers give them. Administrators won't kick a child out (unless it's just ridiculously bad). We ended up pulling our kid out with a month left in the year to go to another school. We just ate the cost and moved on.


So the other child should be allowed to repeatedly harm and injure others if they have an autism diagnosis? I think not. Also, three days in a row of injuries is the staff not doing their job-they know it is an issue and should be intervening and deescalating.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2023 23:22     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Tell your kid to stop being mean to other kids and maybe they not hit her.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2023 23:14     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If it's the same child then he is a bully. No child should be allowed to choose a child to pick on every day and it sounds as though this kid what the other child has done. I would question why the teacher is putting the blame if the child that is being hurt.


Oh my lord. The 4 year old is not a bully. For heaven’s sake.


Of course he's a bully.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2023 20:10     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:If it's the same child then he is a bully. No child should be allowed to choose a child to pick on every day and it sounds as though this kid what the other child has done. I would question why the teacher is putting the blame if the child that is being hurt.


Oh my lord. The 4 year old is not a bully. For heaven’s sake.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2023 18:30     Subject: Re:Incident report with same kid for 3 days
That is bad- the instigator needs extra support. You should call the school and tell them its unacceptable.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2023 21:39     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
You poke the bear you get eaten alive
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2023 18:55     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:First, as a mom of 4 girls, you will always have problems with the #boymoms in the class. They’ll laugh and say “ohh boys are so rough and tumble.” No, they are allowing their sons to learn how to take advantage of girls. Lack of consent starts NOW with boys. You cannot trust the daycare here.

Document with pictures the injuries and have your attorney write a letter to the other family and daycare. Put them on notice. If the child isn’t removed from the daycare, keeps putting legal pressure on them.

Thank god for all girls schools.


Yeah I mean how is that boy not locked up already? He should wear a pin with “probable school shooter” on it with a dunce hat. What even is society without #allgirlsschools? Lead the charge PP.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2023 15:12     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
First, as a mom of 4 girls, you will always have problems with the #boymoms in the class. They’ll laugh and say “ohh boys are so rough and tumble.” No, they are allowing their sons to learn how to take advantage of girls. Lack of consent starts NOW with boys. You cannot trust the daycare here.

Document with pictures the injuries and have your attorney write a letter to the other family and daycare. Put them on notice. If the child isn’t removed from the daycare, keeps putting legal pressure on them.

Thank god for all girls schools.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2023 15:06     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Anonymous wrote:Daycare needs to be handling this issue much better than they are. They shouldn’t be disclosing any information about the kid, for starters. Moreover, they need to be the ones to keep the two of them apart. Ask the director and teachers what the plan is for keeping the kids separate.

Four year olds are not developmentally capable of being bullies, not in the true sense of the words. Some young kids are more aggressive than others and need to learn not to do that - but very few four year olds have outstanding emotion regulation. They’re four.


Ridiculous. A four year old understands very well that hitting frequently gets him or her what they want.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2023 15:02     Subject: Incident report with same kid for 3 days
Daycare needs to be handling this issue much better than they are. They shouldn’t be disclosing any information about the kid, for starters. Moreover, they need to be the ones to keep the two of them apart. Ask the director and teachers what the plan is for keeping the kids separate.

Four year olds are not developmentally capable of being bullies, not in the true sense of the words. Some young kids are more aggressive than others and need to learn not to do that - but very few four year olds have outstanding emotion regulation. They’re four.