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Anonymous wrote:Why did you tell her you had a date and ask her to babysit? That is 100% guaranteed to trigger most women shortly after a divorce. Her reaction is so obvious that it's almost like you did it intentionally because you like playing games with her.

What?’! The woman is already dating for God sake. And she started dating as soon as the divorced was final and OP waited a year. Come in now …

+1. Ways the man’s fault. Some of the women here are incredibly dumb they will defend what’s not defensible as long as it is a woman who is put on the spot

Op is omitting details. Sounds like mom has been dating during OPs custodial time whereas op is dating during his own custodial time and asking mom to babysit during it.

Another defense of the woman lol...incredible

Why did you TELL her that you were asking her to take the kids because you had a date to go on? You were inviting drama. It's ridiculous but you should not have done that.

Hopefully things will calm down but wisen up. And you really should be using your time with the kids to spend with the kids, not on dates.

OP, I hate to tell you this, but you will NEVER have another relationship with a woman that will not be tainted by your ex and whatever her attitude is.

And your kids will be pawns in it.

She's already shown her hand. Rather than admit to herself she is jealous and deal with that emotion, she is using her rights as a mother to make demands that would restrict your rights as a father to be punitive, because you have the audacity to be thinking of eventually exposing HER kids to a woman you may have interest in.

Fair warning. No matter how old your children get, any of your future relationships (no matter how serious, to include remarriage) will never be free from your ex's influence, and how she influences the children.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

This. I would be devastated to see how much you are not putting the kids first already.

Divorced parents are allowed to date!!!

NP. This is absolutely true! But OP needs to stop ever discussing dating with his ex.

To the OP: I think you unfortunately fell into thinking that since your ex talks up her own love life, apparently a LOT, it was fine for you to mention dating; but OP, I hope you've learned now:

Do not even mention if you're dating at all.

Don't try to date at times when you have the kids, even if a person you want to date says that's the only night she can go out with you. (If a woman really wants to go out with you, she will work with you to find a time when you don't have your kids. If she isn't willing to do that, she doesn't care enough about the fact you have kids, and that makes her a non-starter for a relationship anyway.)

As for the custody mess your ex wants to start, if she's serious and not just posturing about taking you to court, you need to spend on a good lawyer now and nip this fast and hard. You say your ex thinks you got a promotion -- well, did you? Is she right? Do you and she not have a formal, written, court-approved custody agreemennt and money arrangments, OP? If not, you should have had that, and must get it together ASAP. Be willing to pay for an experienced lawyer if you want to get your ex to stop her drama. And don't add to any drama by talking about dating, ever. Do not introduce your kids to dates, either--not until it is VERY serious; they will end up talking about it in front of their mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

This. I would be devastated to see how much you are not putting the kids first already.

Divorced parents are allowed to date!!!

Not when they have the kids. It’s not complicated date on the weekends you have no kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

This. I would be devastated to see how much you are not putting the kids first already.

Divorced parents are allowed to date!!!

NP. He's welcome to date on his non-custodial days. Why not choose one of those instead?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

This. I would be devastated to see how much you are not putting the kids first already.

Divorced parents are allowed to date!!!

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

Go away!!!

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to date when you have the kids?

This. I would be devastated to see how much you are not putting the kids first already.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you tell her you had a date and ask her to babysit? That is 100% guaranteed to trigger most women shortly after a divorce. Her reaction is so obvious that it's almost like you did it intentionally because you like playing games with her.

What?’! The woman is already dating for God sake. And she started dating as soon as the divorced was final and OP waited a year. Come in now …

+1. Ways the man’s fault. Some of the women here are incredibly dumb they will defend what’s not defensible as long as it is a woman who is put on the spot

Op is omitting details. Sounds like mom has been dating during OPs custodial time whereas op is dating during his own custodial time and asking mom to babysit during it.

Your life should be a complete black hole to your ex-w.

Don't talk about dating, don't talk about anything in your life except something that happens with the kids.

Also, don't date while you have the kids, date on the days you don't have them.

Just because your ex is a psycho doesn't mean you have to be an idiot.

Keep your side of the street clean.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you tell her you had a date and ask her to babysit? That is 100% guaranteed to trigger most women shortly after a divorce. Her reaction is so obvious that it's almost like you did it intentionally because you like playing games with her.

What?’! The woman is already dating for God sake. And she started dating as soon as the divorced was final and OP waited a year. Come in now …

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Anonymous wrote:Every woman that files for divorce thinks that not only she deserve better but is convinced that her next man will be an upgrade. You can thank our culture of giving every woman a queen crown whether deserved or not.

He’s seldom an upgrade but she changes her priorities.

Anonymous wrote:Why should your ex babysit while you go on a date? Grow up! Get a babysitter. Or date when you don’t have the kids.

This. You’re infantile OP. And also, if you can’t figure out that divorced mothers still care who is around their children you are a few bricks short of a load. Do you have Asperger’s or high functioning autism perchance?

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you tell her you had a date and ask her to babysit? That is 100% guaranteed to trigger most women shortly after a divorce. Her reaction is so obvious that it's almost like you did it intentionally because you like playing games with her.

What?’! The woman is already dating for God sake. And she started dating as soon as the divorced was final and OP waited a year. Come in now …

+1. Ways the man’s fault. Some of the women here are incredibly dumb they will defend what’s not defensible as long as it is a woman who is put on the spot