Goodness. No possible solution.

Anonymous wrote:This forum is so full of ageism!

Why is your taste more legitimate than theirs?

Be a creative and generous hostess and figure out a way to serve your in-laws food that they will enjoy. You should be able to solve this, honestly.

I see no ageism? I see someone with taste trying to deal with people who have none wanting their meat well done. Not sure what age has to do with that?

Anonymous wrote:Hosting the in-laws again over Christmas and the memories came flooding back... a standing rib roast cooked perfectly to medium... but they absolutely refuse to eat any meat that's the slightest pink so DH urges me to keep cooking it until it's all gray... but I just couldn't do it, and when it was sliced, the predictable complaints began.
I guess I should just give in and keep cooking the life out of it this year.

Just make a lasagna and call it a day. Or is it that you like to wallow in this drama?

JFC. Just slice some off the ends for them and cook them until they’re well done and maybe stop acting like such a hateful brat.

Anonymous wrote:This is not a complaint but more of a preference. No one is right or wrong. However, I think that part of being a host as well as a family member, is about accommodating the guest/family member. Their request is not causing a huge interference for you if you cook their portion a little longer.

The Ins are absolutely wrong. It's a crime to treat a cow's sacrifice with such contempt.

OP, I wouldn't serve it. Save it for New Year's and make them lasagna or something that can be cooked correctly and they will still eat.

I just microwave their servings or pan fry them. Cut the roast in the kitchen before you serve it.

My mom is like this. We just throw hers on a skillet. What's the big deal?

Maybe you could try serving something that everyone agrees should be cooked completely - turkey, chicken, fish, ham, lobster, lasagna, stew, tacos, etc. Why plan on serving something guaranteed to make someone unhappy? If you repeat the standing rib roast, either your guests have to eat something they feel is hazardous to their health or you resentfully decide to “ just give in and keep cooking the life out of it this year”). There are lots of dishes you can serve, surely you can find something better than standing rib roast with a side of misery.

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Anonymous wrote:This forum is so full of ageism!

Why is your taste more legitimate than theirs?

Because I am paying, hosting and cooking. When they host they can (and do) over cook as they see fit. It's not ageism. My parents are just as old and know how to properly serve beef.

I'm a "cook it rare and then recook a slice for the in-laws" poster but this is a very backwards attitude to the concept of having guests. You know your guests' preferences, and intentionally cooking something they will not like and then berating them for not liking it is not hosting, it's bullying. Cook something you can all agree on, cook their serving differently, or stop inviting them.

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Anonymous wrote:This forum is so full of ageism!

Why is your taste more legitimate than theirs?

Because I am paying, hosting and cooking. When they host they can (and do) over cook as they see fit. It's not ageism. My parents are just as old and know how to properly serve beef.

NP - what an incredibly ungracious attitude to have as a host. They shouldn't complain; nor should you convey such disdain for their preference.

My mom is the same way. Meat has to be well done and the second it is done cooking, it has to be served and eaten. There is no letting it rest. As someone said, it is a lack of understanding of food safety. It took me many years of being a bad cook to realize I had to ignore everything my mom taught me about cooking meat.
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Add in very real health problems that she has translated into meaning she can eat no seasoning, including salt, and holiday meals are just not fun.

Your options are cook two versions - and then hear “oh you did not have to do that for me” over and over (which really means - you should have cooked everything like I want it) or everyone is stuck with dried out tasteless meat.

Anonymous wrote:This forum is so full of ageism!

Why is your taste more legitimate than theirs?

Because I am paying, hosting and cooking. When they host they can (and do) over cook as they see fit. It's not ageism. My parents are just as old and know how to properly serve beef.

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Anonymous wrote:My inlaws used to cut into meat and say "if there is juice left, it isnt done yet". I was like, dont you mean if the juices run pink it’s not done yet? Nope. Any juice. Their meats have always always sucked, overcooked to hell. Such a waste of food.

Not a waste of food if that’s how they like it

It's absolutely a waste of food. They could just buy beef jerky and eat that instead of ruining a nice roast or steak. For the entire family.

Anonymous wrote:Hosting the in-laws again over Christmas and the memories came flooding back... a standing rib roast cooked perfectly to medium... but they absolutely refuse to eat any meat that's the slightest pink so DH urges me to keep cooking it until it's all gray... but I just couldn't do it, and when it was sliced, the predictable complaints began.
I guess I should just give in and keep cooking the life out of it this year.

Just microwave their portions after carving and serve them their hockey pucks. Don’t commit crimes against the cow that gave its life for your meal.

Anonymous wrote:My inlaws used to cut into meat and say "if there is juice left, it isnt done yet". I was like, dont you mean if the juices run pink it’s not done yet? Nope. Any juice. Their meats have always always sucked, overcooked to hell. Such a waste of food.

Not a waste of food if that’s how they like it