Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:35     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
If I didn't celebrate Ramadan and lets say I received an email with "Ramadan invite" I would probably not open the email. Playing devils advocate. OP is most likely Hindu, Muslim or Jewish. The school should have had a better message subject. Something like plan to come at 11:30 am for the Xmas show would have been a lot better.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:34     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Pop a Xanax and give one to the preschool admin.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:34     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.


It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.


It makes you and OP feel better to share the blame/guilt with the husband. But the kid wanted his mother to be there.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:31     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I totally get feeling upset about this but a note in the folder and an email home should definitely be enough. Part of having a kid in school is keeping up with this stuff. Are you listed first as the POC for your child? Unless you didn't pick up the call, I wouldn't expect them to call your husband.


The email was 2 weeks ago. Public.school don't do this s***
They can't just decide they won't be with your kid 2 week before. It doesn't work like that. The email also send it had an invite to the party but didn't mention they had to be picked up early.



Op here. Sorry at work now. So many typos. This is my second child. When the school has early dismissal it is generally better communicated. That's my point. In the email that was sent 2 weeks ago, the email body did not mention details about early pickup. It just mentions sending the invitation to the party. It would have been better if the email said early pickup because they are changing the childcare agreement. We have another early pickup just a few weeks ago for Thanksgiving party/ singing show.


So you should know that this event happens every year and been prepared. Not reading the messages is no excuse. Your poor kid was the only one with no parent there. How sad.[/quote

He is 4 and he was eating cookies. I'm sure he's fine. Not every parent can take off of work for these events. It sounds like she works from home.


Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:29     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:So your preschool had a lovely event that they invited parents to and provided cookies for. And you couldn't be bothered to open either and email or a paper that was sent home with your kids. How do you want contacted?! Sheesh.

I love that my kids' preschool does things like this. There is always one or two parents that don't attend and it's okay (well some of the kids cry). I doubt it was a Christmas party, it was probably called a holiday party, but either way, I'm sure they weren't reading about the birth of Jesus. It was likely some secular santa stuff with red and green cookies.

Also, if you don't celebrate, then you can't pretend to be super busy this time of year.


Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:28     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I totally get feeling upset about this but a note in the folder and an email home should definitely be enough. Part of having a kid in school is keeping up with this stuff. Are you listed first as the POC for your child? Unless you didn't pick up the call, I wouldn't expect them to call your husband.


The email was 2 weeks ago. Public.school don't do this s***
They can't just decide they won't be with your kid 2 week before. It doesn't work like that. The email also send it had an invite to the party but didn't mention they had to be picked up early.



Op here. Sorry at work now. So many typos. This is my second child. When the school has early dismissal it is generally better communicated. That's my point. In the email that was sent 2 weeks ago, the email body did not mention details about early pickup. It just mentions sending the invitation to the party. It would have been better if the email said early pickup because they are changing the childcare agreement. We have another early pickup just a few weeks ago for Thanksgiving party/ singing show.


So you should know that this event happens every year and been prepared. Not reading the messages is no excuse. Your poor kid was the only one with no parent there. How sad.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:25     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.


It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.


OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.


You aren't that bright. It's not the school that is sexist. The person called her, mom (OP), and said thier child is alone because YOU (the mom) isn't here. They did not call dad. They did not say the kid was alone because his dad also forgot. Women are the ones who do the blaming and then they complain society doesn't expect both parents to do the parenting equally. You can't win.


Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:24     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Stop screaming about sexism. Both you and DH dropped the ball on this one. Do a mea culpa and try to do better by your kids moving forward.

As someone mentioned earlier, this is going to be a long parenting journey for you.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:22     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
This is on you OP.
Who normally picks your kid up at 1230?
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:21     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Mothers get blamed for everything. Nothing new. Let her know next time to call dad. Their dad also has a responsibility to look at emails and the folder. Something tells me he didn't do both, but OP is getting blamed for doing the exact same thing.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:17     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:I can see how OP would expect to have more advance notice because it's not a party that happens outside of school hours. Preschool is a form of childcare even if it's half day.


OP is complaining that two weeks notice was too much, not that it was too little. She wanted the email to come the night before or day of.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:16     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.


It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.


OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:16     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
I can see how OP would expect to have more advance notice because it's not a party that happens outside of school hours. Preschool is a form of childcare even if it's half day.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:11     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:OP I totally get feeling upset about this but a note in the folder and an email home should definitely be enough. Part of having a kid in school is keeping up with this stuff. Are you listed first as the POC for your child? Unless you didn't pick up the call, I wouldn't expect them to call your husband.


I didn't pick up the call. The VM left said my kid was sitting by himself eating cookies because "you aren't here." Not because his parents aren't here, but me, mom. Dad wasn't called.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 14:09     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.


It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.