Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.

I'd say there's no need to protect your daughter's confidence because she isn't the only one who knows this information. Tell your friend immediately before someone gets seriously hurt.

I would stay out of this.

My son's friend was doing the same thing and I told my son I was telling the mom and he had 24 hours to decide if he was going to tell his friend so he could tell his mom 1st.

I told him that another mom had called me about it.

He told his friend moms knew and he told his mom before I did. But the mom called me freaked out of course.

Kids doing think buying and selling to friend is "drug dealing".

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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous gmail to school counselor. School counselor must notify the parent if it’s really worth reporting.

This.

There’s your answer. Principle and counselor.

If this is basically a business then the cats out of the bag. I’d circle around w your daughter too and say the same as a good reminder. Her and her friends won’t be able to keep a secret that’s literally not a secret

Your friend’s kid is dealing drugs. With the fentanyl crisis, you’re lucky no one has died yet, as it is extremely unlikely that a teenager has access to a steady supply of “legitimate” drugs. There have been cases in this area where “nice” kids (barf) have been killed in drug shootouts. This isn’t going to end well - tell the school or the school resource officer if they have one. I wouldn’t tell the mother because the daughter is traveling with a crowd with guns and teenage impulsivity. They could come after your daughter.

Anonymous wrote:Anonymous gmail to school counselor. School counselor must notify the parent if it’s really worth reporting.

This.

Anonymous gmail to school counselor. School counselor must notify the parent if it’s really worth reporting.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.

If this is true, a lot of people already know.

You need to explain to your daughter that you have to report it. If your friend isn’t trust worthy, I would go the school counselor route. Or the principal, or someone you trust to protect your child and take a report without attribution. Since there are so many people involved, it should be easy to do.

If there is a FB group just say you found it when checking in on your daughters social media, or that it was suggested to you by FB and needed to tell the mom.

true story: the algorithm once suggested a really weird Twitter account to me where a man was soliciting prostitution. Literally a five min review of the account gave me all the info I needed to realize it was a friends husband. The picture he was using was a real picture of him but zoomed in on his shoe to anonymize it. Well, I recognized the shoe and realized it was a picture I had taken and texted to the group chat. So the algorithm connected us.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.

If this is true then you need to tell the parent

OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.

Anonymous wrote:Fake gmail account. Be brief, don't sound like yourself. Keep in mind that maybe your child's friend will know immediately the only possible person who could have told their mom.

No, don’t do this. If it’s that serious that you need to tell her, then you sit down face to face and tell her this news. It would have to be a life or death situation where you are fearful for this kid’s life. Otherwise you stay out of it.

Anonymous wrote:If it's pregnancy, suicide, dropping out of school, anorexia, or a physically abusive relationship, blow up your childs world

+1
Or anything harmful, like drugs....

Definitely tell your kid your going to do this and the consequences of not doing this. Get her on board with helping her friend. Have her there when you tell your friend if she wants to be there.

Does the girl need help? Then you need to break confidence with your child (tell your child in advance). It’s possible the other child is looking for help and doesn’t know how to get it and needs an adult to intervene. Possibly she knew your daughter would tell you and hopes you act.

Anonymous wrote:Why did your DD tell you? Was your child expecting you to sit on the information? Have a conversation with your child and then make a decision if you're going to speak to your friend.

Sometimes people like to get things off their chest? Or maybe subconsciously her DD was hoping for intervention.