Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 17:01     Subject: Enthusiasm
like a dead fish.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 17:00     Subject: Re:Enthusiasm
Dating 10 months, ages 41/46 and also hell yes.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 16:39     Subject: Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.


I don’t expect enthusiasm or necessarily even happily willing. Things would improve with just “willing”.


Mileage varies. If my wife is merely tolerating sex, it's overly complicated masturbation. I'd much rather she just say "no thanks" at that point.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 16:21     Subject: Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.


I don’t expect enthusiasm or necessarily even happily willing. Things would improve with just “willing”.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 11:50     Subject: Re:Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.
Is that what you think enthusiasm in the bedroom means?


Please describe enthusiasm vs performative.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 11:49     Subject: Re:Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.


Um. This is not what OP meant by enthusiasm and also, Yikes! LOL


Please describe enthusiasm.

Are u a dude and don’t know women are often performative?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 11:18     Subject: Enthusiasm
DW is somewhat enthusiastic but I’d love to see some improvement. Not unhappy but I wish she approached it like a prisoner just let out of jail …
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 11:06     Subject: Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:No. He's asexual and hasn't been remotely interested in sex for over 15 years. Plenty of sex at the beginning, but I think he did it just because he thought he had to. It's fine, I don't mind -- he's great otherwise.


Have you tried doing more around the house ?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 10:47     Subject: Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:Lots of thirsty people in the threads the last day or two.


Or one extremely frustrated person
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 10:46     Subject: Enthusiasm
Lots of thirsty people in the threads the last day or two.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 10:01     Subject: Re:Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.


Um. This is not what OP meant by enthusiasm and also, Yikes! LOL
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 09:57     Subject: Enthusiasm
My DH is probably the most enthusiastic bedroom partner that ever existed. He get's his own pleasure from pleasing his partner. 15+ years together and it seems to get even more enthusiastic as the years go on even when I don't think that's possible.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 09:53     Subject: Enthusiasm
Been dating 1.5 years and yes! We are in our 50s
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 09:52     Subject: Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:No. He's asexual and hasn't been remotely interested in sex for over 15 years. Plenty of sex at the beginning, but I think he did it just because he thought he had to. It's fine, I don't mind -- he's great otherwise.


Maybe he's gay or maybe he's no longer physically attracted to you specifically?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2023 09:50     Subject: Enthusiasm
Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.


this