Anonymous
12/13/2023 18:36
Subject: Re:Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow- my husband of 25 years thinks less than 3 times minimum per week is sexless. Still cheated too.
That is a lot for a long marriage.
My husband of over 25 years also thinks that we should have sex at least 3-4 times a week (every other day is more like it) and when we don’t - he’s a monster to live with. Irritable and annoyed until he gets it. I’m exhausted.
Does he get you there every time, or is it more duty sex and he doesn't care as much about your pleasure (cause the latter would kind of suck).
Anonymous
12/13/2023 18:15
Subject: Re:Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow- my husband of 25 years thinks less than 3 times minimum per week is sexless. Still cheated too.
That is a lot for a long marriage.
My husband of over 25 years also thinks that we should have sex at least 3-4 times a week (every other day is more like it) and when we don’t - he’s a monster to live with. Irritable and annoyed until he gets it. I’m exhausted.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 18:04
Subject: Sexless marriage
Get earplugs for snoring and get back in same room
Anonymous
12/13/2023 17:41
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
How often exactly does he reject you when YOU unambiguously initiate sex?
DP in a similar situation, and I never reject but am usually rejected. Makes me feel unwanted. It sucks.
Have you tried picking up more chores?
I do most of the chores.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 17:33
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
How often exactly does he reject you when YOU unambiguously initiate sex?
DP in a similar situation, and I never reject but am usually rejected. Makes me feel unwanted. It sucks.
Have you tried picking up more chores?
Anonymous
12/13/2023 16:50
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:This is not sexless. That is defined as no sex for 10 months or longer. I had a sexless marriage: literally nothing for 7 out of 10 years.
Wrong. Sexless marriage is defined as less than 10 times in a year. Once every two months is a sexless marriage.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 16:26
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
How often exactly does he reject you when YOU unambiguously initiate sex?
DP in a similar situation, and I never reject but am usually rejected. Makes me feel unwanted. It sucks.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 09:26
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
How often exactly does he reject you when YOU unambiguously initiate sex?
+1, how often do you initiate?
Anonymous
12/13/2023 09:26
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
Is there a question?
That is a low-sex marriage, not a “sexless” one.
Where do you think he’s getting laid if it isn’t with you?
"Many mental health professionals define sexless marriage as less than 10 times a year.
Dr. Rachel Becker-Warner, a relationship and sex therapist from the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota, defines it as “any partnership where sexual intimacy occurs 10 times or less within a year period.”
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sexless-marriage#TOC_TITLE_HDR_1
So OP would be correct to call her marriage sexless using this standard.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 09:23
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you enthusiastic about sex? I think my wife is attractive, but if she's not into it, I'd rather spend my time doing something else. And I'm happy to put some effort into making things fun for her; but only if that effort is well received.
If I try to flirt and she doesn't flirt back, I'm not going to be a pest about it.
And they say only women can be needy and whiny…
He sounds generous and considerate to me!
It's the Internet. Miserable people shit on others so they can feel less bad about themselves for a moment.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 09:13
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
How often exactly does he reject you when YOU unambiguously initiate sex?
Anonymous
12/13/2023 08:54
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am resentful and never initiate it. He never does either - tired, early meetings etc. I had a very high sex drive but with him I feel like 66 y old now
Op - I am you.
Is a bummer. The resentment is the killer
Does your husband watch porn?
Anonymous
12/13/2023 08:54
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.
We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.
He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids
Is there a question?
That is a low-sex marriage, not a “sexless” one.
Where do you think he’s getting laid if it isn’t with you?
+1 all of this, above. Also, is he gay?
Oh shut up.
Anonymous
12/13/2023 08:52
Subject: Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:I am resentful and never initiate it. He never does either - tired, early meetings etc. I had a very high sex drive but with him I feel like 66 y old now
Op - I am you.
Is a bummer. The resentment is the killer
Anonymous
12/13/2023 08:23
Subject: Re:Sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Wow- my husband of 25 years thinks less than 3 times minimum per week is sexless. Still cheated too.
You must be extremely beautiful and sexy.