Yes. And that is why at salary time I am told my salary increase is less. Cause they don’t think I need it.

Yeah I guess but it's creates zero issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Good brag. No one cares. Some value homelife over money. Who is raising your kids?

Don't be an ass hole.

Op - I am raising my kids. Hence my lower paying job. I make $140,000 and have a very flexible family oriented job. I do every drop off and every pick up. I do school field trips and doctor appointments.

DH has a high stress, high paying job.

The other element of this is that your husband's income is not yours -- there is always a risk that you will get divorced and then your HHI will be only your salary, which is lower than your bosses. Your bosses, of course, know this. so any sense of superiority on your part is really playing with hubris, IMO.

Op - I have no sense of superiority. Only thought of this because my boss and I (we are friendly) were talking about college and paying for it, etc.

Also I work specifically because I would never want to be completely financially dependent on my husband. If for some reason he were to die or we were to divorce I would need a steady source of income.

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Anonymous wrote:Good brag. No one cares. Some value homelife over money. Who is raising your kids?

Don't be an ass hole.

Op - I am raising my kids. Hence my lower paying job. I make $140,000 and have a very flexible family oriented job. I do every drop off and every pick up. I do school field trips and doctor appointments.

DH has a high stress, high paying job.

The other element of this is that your husband's income is not yours -- there is always a risk that you will get divorced and then your HHI will be only your salary, which is lower than your bosses. Your bosses, of course, know this. so any sense of superiority on your part is really playing with hubris, IMO.

Yes, both because of my previous job and because of DH’s salary. I don’t flaunt $ and in fact live pretty low key.

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Anonymous wrote:Good brag. No one cares. Some value homelife over money. Who is raising your kids?

Don't be an ass hole.

Op - I am raising my kids. Hence my lower paying job. I make $140,000 and have a very flexible family oriented job. I do every drop off and every pick up. I do school field trips and doctor appointments.

DH has a high stress, high paying job.

Do what you can to not be a complete arse about it, OP - they likely know, but the whole issue is that if you make them look bad, then crap will hit the fan.

My direct report’s HHI is way higher than mine. His wife is the general counsel of a big company and makes $1m+ per year. He’ll mention trips on their corporate jet and other perks that come with her income and position.

He’s a nice guy and does his job so his HHI is irrelevant in my mind.

He said he felt awkward in the beginning but he’s proud of her and how hard she’s worked to make it to the top, so now he just shares her role and their general income (ie, where they live, etc) just like any other fact about himself. Good for them, I say.

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Anonymous wrote:Good brag. No one cares. Some value homelife over money. Who is raising your kids?

Don't be an ass hole.

Op - I am raising my kids. Hence my lower paying job. I make $140,000 and have a very flexible family oriented job. I do every drop off and every pick up. I do school field trips and doctor appointments.

DH has a high stress, high paying job.

Anonymous wrote:Good brag. No one cares. Some value homelife over money. Who is raising your kids?

Don't be an ass hole.

Good brag. No one cares. Some value homelife over money. Who is raising your kids?

Anonymous wrote:I downplay what my husband does and make no mention of my finances. I occasionally get a look when someone asks what HS my kids will be going to (public but in a known "good" area so it reveals where we live). But I am very careful to not flaunt a thing. They don't need to know so I don't have to feel weird.

Same. Believe me, they know.

Anonymous wrote:What kind of person thinks OPs thoughts?

Everyone in her shoes, obviously. If I worked, I would think the same thing.

I am in a similar position to OP and I try to be discreet about it without trying to hide who I am. I also worry that it will be held against me for bonuses or other financial incentives. Looks like I’m not alone.

What kind of person thinks OPs thoughts?

Anonymous wrote:I work at a non-profit and my spouse works at a company that's turning quite a bit of profit, so yes, our HHI is higher than my boss. I know there are other people with highly paid spouses at my org, though. It's kind of a known thing that non-profits have a lot of people who can afford to work for less because they have access to money from a spouse or family inheritance.

Same with anything in the arts.