Anonymous
12/07/2023 19:27
Subject: Could this be ASD? Something else?
I disagree with the PPs who say it can't be autism because the social is okay.
My DS was kind of like yours - hit all the milestones but had some quirks that were never really taken seriously by providers but we felt were just a bit more extreme than what other kids did. Some match your descriptions, and some don't, and I'm not saying this to get into "maybe it is/isn't because the profile is/isn't the same." I'm saying it because we always felt there was something more there and were basically dismissed as anxious parents and really not given many tools to understand his behavior or our own frustrations with some of his behavior.
Fast forward, and at about age 9, he started having a really hard time at school and his behavior got really bad. Really restrictive about things like clothes and eating in ways he had not been previously. We got a neuropsych eval and an ASD diagnosis.
I don't actually think anyone would/could have diagnosed him at the age of your kid. At this age, I think there is a lot of "wait and see." You could get an eval, but you could also try approaching the symptoms and issues more than focusing on diagnosis.
I also knew a fair bit about ASD and other SNs from some of my prior work, and I suspected ASD but did not entirely feel he fit what I thought of as ASD. Now I understand there is a whole other world of ASD that I really didn't understand. I still think my kid is a bit of an oddity - he has a bunch of different symptoms that are kind of minor in some ways but add up to challenges, and he doesn't really fit with some of what I read about ASD and other SNs.
Anyway, I guess what I'm suggesting is that you work on learning more yourself through books and research about how to approach whatever issues you're seeing. I do really, really wish we had tried some feeding therapy earlier because it is now even harder. Otherwise, I don't know that we would have done much else in terms of providers - except changed how we approached things. I would look into ASD and anxiety.
My DS was kind of like yours - hit all the milestones but had some quirks that were never really taken seriously by providers but we felt were just a bit more extreme than what other kids did. Some match your descriptions, and some don't, and I'm not saying this to get into "maybe it is/isn't because the profile is/isn't the same." I'm saying it because we always felt there was something more there and were basically dismissed as anxious parents and really not given many tools to understand his behavior or our own frustrations with some of his behavior.
Fast forward, and at about age 9, he started having a really hard time at school and his behavior got really bad. Really restrictive about things like clothes and eating in ways he had not been previously. We got a neuropsych eval and an ASD diagnosis.
I don't actually think anyone would/could have diagnosed him at the age of your kid. At this age, I think there is a lot of "wait and see." You could get an eval, but you could also try approaching the symptoms and issues more than focusing on diagnosis.
I also knew a fair bit about ASD and other SNs from some of my prior work, and I suspected ASD but did not entirely feel he fit what I thought of as ASD. Now I understand there is a whole other world of ASD that I really didn't understand. I still think my kid is a bit of an oddity - he has a bunch of different symptoms that are kind of minor in some ways but add up to challenges, and he doesn't really fit with some of what I read about ASD and other SNs.
Anyway, I guess what I'm suggesting is that you work on learning more yourself through books and research about how to approach whatever issues you're seeing. I do really, really wish we had tried some feeding therapy earlier because it is now even harder. Otherwise, I don't know that we would have done much else in terms of providers - except changed how we approached things. I would look into ASD and anxiety.
Anonymous
12/07/2023 15:58
Subject: Could this be ASD? Something else?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are posting on the Special Needs Forum. You are going to get answers that direct you toward evaluation. Is that what you want? If you prefer reassurance, post on the General Forum.
Generally yeah but her kid is still withholding and not eating. Nobody is going to be like oh totally normal.
And he can be aggressive - attacking his parents and sibling. I would be more worried about this part TBH. Your poor daughter! No one should ever get “attacked” by a sibling.