Anonymous
12/15/2025 11:33
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a household manager for 12 years and have been recruiting, screening, and placing them with families for 6+ years through my agency.
It depends if this will be a nanny/household manager hybrid role or strictly household manager, but in general the duties encompass everything to keep the home running and organized outside of actual deep cleaning (which is housekeepers/cleaning lady duties). Typical duties includes:
Errands
Organizational tasks (cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage)
Booking appointments
Managing routine home and car maintanence
Groceries/stocking household items
Meal prep
Planning and booking (vacations, kids activities, vendors, contractors, etc)
Seasonal tasks (Christmas cards, gift shopping, wrapping, decorating, making sure kids have seasonally appropriate gear)
Vets/grooming appts/feeding/walking pets
Sorting and donating clothes/toys
Managing family/school calendars
Packing lunches/laying out clothes for the next day
Generally putting things back in their places
Laundry
Can you provide more details? I am trying to see what exactly each task includes. For example, laundry: does it include folding, hanging, ironing, dry cleaning drop off pick ups, putting sheets on the beds?
Meal prep -- did you cook all meals for the family?
Laying out clothes - I presume this is for children only? Or were you to prepare the outfits for the adults?
Cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage - why these tasks were not done by cleaning lady/crew?
Thank you!
You know, do a little of your own work. PP wrote a 14 point list and you want her to expand? I guess this is why you need a household manager...
Anonymous
12/15/2025 10:39
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a household manager for 12 years and have been recruiting, screening, and placing them with families for 6+ years through my agency.
It depends if this will be a nanny/household manager hybrid role or strictly household manager, but in general the duties encompass everything to keep the home running and organized outside of actual deep cleaning (which is housekeepers/cleaning lady duties). Typical duties includes:
Errands
Organizational tasks (cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage)
Booking appointments
Managing routine home and car maintanence
Groceries/stocking household items
Meal prep
Planning and booking (vacations, kids activities, vendors, contractors, etc)
Seasonal tasks (Christmas cards, gift shopping, wrapping, decorating, making sure kids have seasonally appropriate gear)
Vets/grooming appts/feeding/walking pets
Sorting and donating clothes/toys
Managing family/school calendars
Packing lunches/laying out clothes for the next day
Generally putting things back in their places
Laundry
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What does meal prep included? Do you also worked as a full time chef, making 3 meals per day? That sounds like a lot of work for $130,000.
As house manager you also manage the staff- the repairman, landscaper, chef, and transportation people. So you manager the schedule and call them when you see a need.
If the family is seeing repairs not get addressed and they need to tell you to handle it (mental load), you will be fired.
You need an owner operator mindset not a check the box one.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 10:36
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this a job in modern day America? Sounds like a natural fit for me after staying home to handle all this and more for my family. How much do they make?
Ours $300,000 a year plus benefits, approximately.
We are very lucky to have such a lovely human working for us that we consider family now as well.
This is not normally the case.
Average pay is about $150,000 a year. Many rich families use illegals and pay off the books.
Maybe you’re a professional sports person but in family office advisory capacity that is 1.5-2x higher than anything I see unless there is no more staff or you are in London or NYC.
They are paying their housekeeper well to keep her, obviously. When you find a special person that "gets" you and your staff, you pay them whatever it takes to keep them.
I assume they lying and exaggerating.
We have a fantastic American woman paid $112k on the books plus benefits and have had her for over a decade. So have all of our friends.
We do pay our tax advisor $250k and our estate attorney $1k an hour. And our family office runs on 1.5% of AUM.
But we would not pay a “house manager” $200-300k.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 10:21
Subject: Re:Household manager?
I'll do this job for $100k or more a year. Where do you find these jobs?
Anonymous
12/15/2025 10:18
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:I was a household manager for 12 years and have been recruiting, screening, and placing them with families for 6+ years through my agency.
It depends if this will be a nanny/household manager hybrid role or strictly household manager, but in general the duties encompass everything to keep the home running and organized outside of actual deep cleaning (which is housekeepers/cleaning lady duties). Typical duties includes:
Errands
Organizational tasks (cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage)
Booking appointments
Managing routine home and car maintanence
Groceries/stocking household items
Meal prep
Planning and booking (vacations, kids activities, vendors, contractors, etc)
Seasonal tasks (Christmas cards, gift shopping, wrapping, decorating, making sure kids have seasonally appropriate gear)
Vets/grooming appts/feeding/walking pets
Sorting and donating clothes/toys
Managing family/school calendars
Packing lunches/laying out clothes for the next day
Generally putting things back in their places
Laundry
Can you provide more details? I am trying to see what exactly each task includes. For example, laundry: does it include folding, hanging, ironing, dry cleaning drop off pick ups, putting sheets on the beds?
Meal prep -- did you cook all meals for the family?
Laying out clothes - I presume this is for children only? Or were you to prepare the outfits for the adults?
Cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage - why these tasks were not done by cleaning lady/crew?
Thank you!
Anonymous
12/15/2025 10:03
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:I was a household manager for 12 years and have been recruiting, screening, and placing them with families for 6+ years through my agency.
It depends if this will be a nanny/household manager hybrid role or strictly household manager, but in general the duties encompass everything to keep the home running and organized outside of actual deep cleaning (which is housekeepers/cleaning lady duties). Typical duties includes:
Errands
Organizational tasks (cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage)
Booking appointments
Managing routine home and car maintanence
Groceries/stocking household items
Meal prep
Planning and booking (vacations, kids activities, vendors, contractors, etc)
Seasonal tasks (Christmas cards, gift shopping, wrapping, decorating, making sure kids have seasonally appropriate gear)
Vets/grooming appts/feeding/walking pets
Sorting and donating clothes/toys
Managing family/school calendars
Packing lunches/laying out clothes for the next day
Generally putting things back in their places
Laundry
[/quote
What does meal prep included? Do you also worked as a full time chef, making 3 meals per day? That sounds like a lot of work for $130,000.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 09:29
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this a job in modern day America? Sounds like a natural fit for me after staying home to handle all this and more for my family. How much do they make?
Ours $300,000 a year plus benefits, approximately.
We are very lucky to have such a lovely human working for us that we consider family now as well.
This is not normally the case.
Average pay is about $150,000 a year. Many rich families use illegals and pay off the books.
Maybe you’re a professional sports person but in family office advisory capacity that is 1.5-2x higher than anything I see unless there is no more staff or you are in London or NYC.
They are paying their housekeeper well to keep her, obviously. When you find a special person that "gets" you and your staff, you pay them whatever it takes to keep them.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 09:28
Subject: Household manager?
We have a housekeeper. They do essentially what is listed above.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 09:08
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this a job in modern day America? Sounds like a natural fit for me after staying home to handle all this and more for my family. How much do they make?
Ours $300,000 a year plus benefits, approximately.
We are very lucky to have such a lovely human working for us that we consider family now as well.
This is not normally the case.
Average pay is about $150,000 a year. Many rich families use illegals and pay off the books.
Maybe you’re a professional sports person but in family office advisory capacity that is 1.5-2x higher than anything I see unless there is no more staff or you are in London or NYC.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 09:07
Subject: Household manager?
$100k for HNW family now in healthcare and benefits plan year 10+. Children are launched so helping the older parents mainly. Runs the house, repairs, food, shopping, manages cleaning crew, budget, comms to adult children, driving,
Anonymous
12/15/2025 09:06
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:You mean housekeeper?
Too many people here calling their weekly cleaning crew their housekeeper. lol. That’s incorrect.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 08:52
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:Is this a job in modern day America? Sounds like a natural fit for me after staying home to handle all this and more for my family. How much do they make?
Ours $300,000 a year plus benefits, approximately.
We are very lucky to have such a lovely human working for us that we consider family now as well.
This is not normally the case.
Average pay is about $150,000 a year. Many rich families use illegals and pay off the books.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 08:49
Subject: Household manager?
Anonymous wrote:If you have one, what duties to they tend to?
LOL look up Reddit lunatics, you will find all the information you need.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 08:45
Subject: Household manager?
Bump, we have a nanny that is transitioning to this as the kids don't need her but I am wondering if it is better to get a real manager that doesn't need to be taught. What is the rate and their hours?
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:12
Subject: Re:Household manager?
Are you still life a House Manager