Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:43     Subject: Re:Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
I know a couple that’s moved every few years snd based on the stories snd what they’ve shared, they move every time the marriage is on the rocks. He cheats, they move. So maybe they’re onto something. Refresh the housing to save the marriage. Maybe that’s what OP’s observing but it doesn’t always work.,
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:37     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
My last kid started college a few months ago. DH and I sold our McLean 4M SFH and moved into a luxury condo and we’re very happy with the decision. I retired two months ago and am extremely happy with our lifestyle. YMMV
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:35     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:This reads like DCUM mad libs.


Had the exact thought!
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:34     Subject: Re:Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes it’s because it’s someone that tries to be happy by gathering new things, changing locations/moving, remodeling, etc., but it’s THEM. They can’t run from themselves. They are perpetually unhappy and once the thrill of the new place fades, they are looking for something new to try to be happy.

Sometimes it’s the stress of $$.


This. My exDH was like this. After our perfect home was renovated and built (so much stress), he decided it was too big and wanted us to move to a tiny condo in an exotic locale.

For me, I realized it's not a dream home if it's built on a weak foundation of sand.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:33     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This doesn't have to do with a new home build. I am staying married because my husband would make custody total hell. But I completely plan to divorce when the kids leave.


Ditto


Yeah, it's just a common exit point, I think. So many people I know had parents who split up once the kids left home.


I thought the OP was talking new builds and divorce in a short period of time.

The ones I listed were new builds when kids were already nearing empty nest—and they were only in new build/reno a year to a couple years. You think if things were rocky they wouldn’t buy a knockdown and rebuild—-that’s shady on one partner’s part.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:24     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This doesn't have to do with a new home build. I am staying married because my husband would make custody total hell. But I completely plan to divorce when the kids leave.


Ditto


Yeah, it's just a common exit point, I think. So many people I know had parents who split up once the kids left home.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:03     Subject: Re:Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Sometimes it’s because it’s someone that tries to be happy by gathering new things, changing locations/moving, remodeling, etc., but it’s THEM. They can’t run from themselves. They are perpetually unhappy and once the thrill of the new place fades, they are looking for something new to try to be happy.

Sometimes it’s the stress of $$.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 13:01     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen anything related to building a dream house, but a lot of divorce when kids are in high school/college is because once the kids are out of the house the couple no longer needs to stay together for them and realizes they really don't have much in common.


More like the wife did everything, launched the kids and now is done propping up the deadweight husband.


Time to get her half and then marry someone new and disown his childen to get another half.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:57     Subject: Re:Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:OMG--I know of 4 families where this has happened!!

In two cases, a spouse was having an affair.

I think it is a last ditch effort. One case, the woman used the new expansive guest room to bang other men while spouse was at work.



Okay- 5 actually. But we are a wealthy neighborhood with a lot of rebuilds. One was not our neighborhood but in N.Bethesda.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:56     Subject: Re:Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
OMG--I know of 4 families where this has happened!!

In two cases, a spouse was having an affair.

I think it is a last ditch effort. One case, the woman used the new expansive guest room to bang other men while spouse was at work.

Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:31     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There's a certain chemical in new drywall that causes erectile dysfunction.

Going to crush some drywall into dh's pillow!


Hahaha
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:21     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen anything related to building a dream house, but a lot of divorce when kids are in high school/college is because once the kids are out of the house the couple no longer needs to stay together for them and realizes they really don't have much in common.


This. But also, home building is super stressful, so if you’re already realizing you have nothing in common once the kids leave, you hate your spouse even more when you add this stress.


Maybe building a house is like having kids - it puts a stress on your marriage but the good ones survive just fine.

We built our dream house when our kids were in ES. It was stressful, but not between the two of us. Kind of like having kids.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:09     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Only person I know like this built the dream house with the new wife after divorce.

Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:08     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen anything related to building a dream house, but a lot of divorce when kids are in high school/college is because once the kids are out of the house the couple no longer needs to stay together for them and realizes they really don't have much in common.


More like the wife did everything, launched the kids and now is done propping up the deadweight husband.


Time to get her half and then marry someone new and disown his childen to get another half.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 12:07     Subject: Why do so many high school parent new construction home builds end in divorce?
Anonymous wrote:There's a certain chemical in new drywall that causes erectile dysfunction.


Ah yes, the Chinese One-Child Policy Drywall.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_drywall