My spouse does this. He loves having people over for holidays... especially if they don't follow him on social media, because then it's a whole new audience to test out his monologues.

I just stay in the kitchen away from it all. I used to interrupt him at parties so I could ask someone else a (related) question, try to let someone else talk about themselves for once (or give people a chance to escape). But after years of it, no more. I let everyone else see it in all its glory, without trying to put a coat of paint on it!

Anonymous wrote:I think that you are going overboard with calling it a narc conversationalist.
Narcissists are horrible people who use every opportunity or create opportunities out of nothing to cause drama, put people down, humiliate people, and are so toxic that they ruin every event, every birthday, and every hour of the day for those who live with them.
She sounds a bit needy, and sad, but benign.

I don't think it's going overboard. Not one person wants to be around her. She has literally ruined the holidays and all relationships. -OP

There are narcissists and there are malignant narcissists. The former make everything about themselves, including dominating conversation, the latter—in addition—have a need to tear other people down. Both are toxic and can entirely wreck a family holiday.

I think that you are going overboard with calling it a narc conversationalist.
Narcissists are horrible people who use every opportunity or create opportunities out of nothing to cause drama, put people down, humiliate people, and are so toxic that they ruin every event, every birthday, and every hour of the day for those who live with them.
She sounds a bit needy, and sad, but benign.

I just came here to vent about the same behavior. My mother hasn’t stopped talking about herself since she walked in the door and has pretty much ruined the holiday for everyone. I just get up and leave the room or go for walks. I’m getting ready to walk the dog for the third time today.

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Anonymous wrote:Tantrum bingo card is the only solution! Everyone gets a prize if she storms off in a huff.

I love this.

Don’t make it a drinking game, you will die.

Lol can you elaborate on what goes on the bingo card?

My MIL does this too. And she always tells stories I've heard 50 times already. I know the stories so well I could start my own bingo just for her stories.

Anonymous wrote:OP any update did you try any of the suggestions?

Nope. Sad to say I bit my lip and am biding my time which is almost over.
For my marriage, I am not willing to confront and I don't believe it will ever change her behavior anyways. It's going to be even less received coming from her DIL. However I told my husband he had to deal with her so I will respect what he chooses which is ignoring it and just went to my room. Sorry to disappoint!

OP any update did you try any of the suggestions?

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my sister. She's probably mentally ill. Try to be kind.

Mental illness isn’t your fault. But it is your responsibility. Saying “be kind” is super toxic.

I think PP meant that the person who is mentally ill is not at fault for their illness, but it is their responsibility to manage. Asking others to be kind and accommodate them can become toxic if there are no boundaries.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my sister. She's probably mentally ill. Try to be kind.

Mental illness isn’t your fault. But it is your responsibility. Saying “be kind” is super toxic.

What?
Need more explanation please!

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my sister. She's probably mentally ill. Try to be kind.

Mental illness isn’t your fault. But it is your responsibility. Saying “be kind” is super toxic.

Yes, I didn’t know what to call it but one of my siblings does this.

They talk so LOUD. When I went to another conversation circle, they raised their voice more to start a conversation over my head.

They speak constantly and I can’t get a word in edgewise so I have done what you mentioned. I started 1-1 conversations on the side. That’s the best solution I’ve found so far.

This sibling is away without the internet for several days and I am thankful for that.

I was talking 1-1 with someone and heard my sibling start speaking loudly. They like to interrupt so I keep focusing on the person in front of me and ignore the sibling when they do that.