Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:35
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
So, you are really not sure if you intend this, but you are testing your feelings by asking others?
My kids had a 2.8 and a 3.7 and each is seriously gainfully employed. College grad years 2014 and 2020.
Let go.
My kids had a 2.8 and a 3.7 and each is seriously gainfully employed. College grad years 2014 and 2020.
Let go.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:33
Subject: Re:I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My son has already had his chance its why he's a rising sophomore in a fall semester. He started college last year had some trouble took some time off. We've paid for tutoring, therapy and all other kinds of support. The GPA requirement was to ensure that he wouldn't just try to skate by. Truthfully I'd be happy if just graduated.
Now he's making the same mistakes again! I'm not up for this nonsense anymore. His classes are fairly easy, this is a matter of taking his work seriously. I want the best for him, but I also can't throw my money away. We're not wealthy people, this is a huge expense for us.
Are we talking about getting C+ grades in his classes or is he doing well in most of his classes but failing one? How do you know his classes are easy? What is he studying and what type of school is it?
And what are these “mistakes” he’s repeating?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:31
Subject: Re:I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My son has already had his chance its why he's a rising sophomore in a fall semester. He started college last year had some trouble took some time off. We've paid for tutoring, therapy and all other kinds of support. The GPA requirement was to ensure that he wouldn't just try to skate by. Truthfully I'd be happy if just graduated.
Now he's making the same mistakes again! I'm not up for this nonsense anymore. His classes are fairly easy, this is a matter of taking his work seriously. I want the best for him, but I also can't throw my money away. We're not wealthy people, this is a huge expense for us.
Does he have adhd or a learning disability?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:27
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm with you OP. There are tons of scholarships that have GPA requirements this is no different. Your stance will get hate from typical DCUM posters that claim "you need to treat your kid like an adult", "they won't talk to you in 10 years".
My kids know the deal, I don't have to pay for college I have other things I would rather do with my money. If they want to threaten me with estrangement then go for it. I can always have another kid.
As long as you've made the expectations clear and your son has an avenue to seek academic help your stance is very reasonable.
You can always have another kid???
There are other things you would rather do with your money (than try to secure a sound future for your offspring??)
Talk about someone who is emotionally abusive and not at all suited to raising a human being. I feel great pity for your child, if you actually have one.
Yes these are facts. I can have another child. I have better things to do with my money. I love my kids but I also have ambitions of my own. Raising them required sacrifice.
I've laid out very clear expectations. My 3 kids know that. If they want to screw it up that's on them
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:17
Subject: Re:I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
OP here. My son has already had his chance its why he's a rising sophomore in a fall semester. He started college last year had some trouble took some time off. We've paid for tutoring, therapy and all other kinds of support. The GPA requirement was to ensure that he wouldn't just try to skate by. Truthfully I'd be happy if just graduated.
Now he's making the same mistakes again! I'm not up for this nonsense anymore. His classes are fairly easy, this is a matter of taking his work seriously. I want the best for him, but I also can't throw my money away. We're not wealthy people, this is a huge expense for us.
Now he's making the same mistakes again! I'm not up for this nonsense anymore. His classes are fairly easy, this is a matter of taking his work seriously. I want the best for him, but I also can't throw my money away. We're not wealthy people, this is a huge expense for us.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:13
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Everyone I knew in college whose parents had this policy (in the mid-90s) is now estranged from those parents.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:11
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Cs get degrees OP.
He might not get into grad school or med school, but that's fine.
He might not get into grad school or med school, but that's fine.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:05
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:I'm with you OP. There are tons of scholarships that have GPA requirements this is no different. Your stance will get hate from typical DCUM posters that claim "you need to treat your kid like an adult", "they won't talk to you in 10 years".
My kids know the deal, I don't have to pay for college I have other things I would rather do with my money. If they want to threaten me with estrangement then go for it. I can always have another kid.
As long as you've made the expectations clear and your son has an avenue to seek academic help your stance is very reasonable.
You can always have another kid???
There are other things you would rather do with your money (than try to secure a sound future for your offspring??)
Talk about someone who is emotionally abusive and not at all suited to raising a human being. I feel great pity for your child, if you actually have one.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 15:01
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:I'm with you OP. There are tons of scholarships that have GPA requirements this is no different. Your stance will get hate from typical DCUM posters that claim "you need to treat your kid like an adult", "they won't talk to you in 10 years".
My kids know the deal, I don't have to pay for college I have other things I would rather do with my money. If they want to threaten me with estrangement then go for it. I can always have another kid.
As long as you've made the expectations clear and your son has an avenue to seek academic help your stance is very reasonable.
“Threaten me with estrangement?” Where did that come from? And more importantly, what is wrong with you that you think a college student who is struggling would tell their parent that they will never talk to them if the parent doesn’t foot their college tuition? Come back to Earth. Maybe someone can give you a badly needed hug.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:58
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DS graduated with a 2.8. He got a job paying 80K+ and is completely supporting himself. No regrets. He did not put a gpa on his resume and they never asked for his transcript.
Engineer?
Why is it that100% of dcum boys majors is engineering?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:52
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Is his high school schedule too difficult? At least consider that could be a possibility. Btw, .. FOR YOU ... a young adult *with a college degree* is a far better outcome -- for you -- than a young adult without a college degree.
You don't want to be supporting them for years into adulthood.
Another thought. It's a d*ck move that many parents make. They wait until HS and then throw a hissy fit over the cost of college. Parents should have known the expense was coming but now somewhat their kid isn't good enough for college. This happens way too often.
You don't want to be supporting them for years into adulthood.
Another thought. It's a d*ck move that many parents make. They wait until HS and then throw a hissy fit over the cost of college. Parents should have known the expense was coming but now somewhat their kid isn't good enough for college. This happens way too often.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:40
Subject: Re:I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
It's a good rule. Maybe build-in a few work arounds if they have a terrible semester or struggle with a class.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:40
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
Anonymous wrote:My son is having a hard time accepting this rule. He's a rising sophomore and somehow thinks that he can just get a blank check for school. My wife seems to want to side with him. This is going to be a rough Thanksgiving!
This came up because his grades have been slipping. I reminded him of our deal and he now thinks I'm trying to "control" him.
Are parents really just writing a blank check for their kids? Am I so out of touch to have standards?
What are the student's grades? B-, or D?
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:39
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
What's the GPA for honor rolls at that school?
What's that GPA for graduating with a college degree?
What is the student actual learning, regardless of GPA?
We have had US Presidents with C GPA.
What's that GPA for graduating with a college degree?
What is the student actual learning, regardless of GPA?
We have had US Presidents with C GPA.
Anonymous
11/18/2023 14:38
Subject: I'll only pay for college if GPA stays above 3.0
So many good responses here about middle ground and exploring the root cause. OP sounds like a very black and white thinker.