Anonymous
Post 11/16/2023 08:47     Subject: Re:Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
Anonymous wrote:Just want to point out that you're a healthy weight. Why do you need to lose 15 lbs?


She told you: Her clothes don’t fit. Cheaper to lose weight than buy new clothes.

I imagine she is also unhappy with how she looks
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2023 08:42     Subject: Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
Anonymous wrote:Hm, I would take a different approach. Include a reasonable amount of sweets into your meal plan for the day. Portion it out in the morning when your willpower is still high, and pack it with your lunch. When the craving strikes that afternoon, eat it. And then be done. There's no "failure" since it was part of the plan all along. And since you haven't strayed from your meal plan, you can tell yourself "good job, you're doing great today! Keep it up!" Instead of falling the rest of the way off the wagon.

Attempting to reach 100% success has never worked for me, but if I set reasonable goals I can meet them consistently.


Agree with this. Just allow yourself a candy bar every day. The average candy bar is about 250 cal which really isn’t that much.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2023 08:07     Subject: Re:Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just want to point out that you're a healthy weight. Why do you need to lose 15 lbs?


Thanks. This weight isn't right for me. My stomach is big and gross and I just feel disgusting after all the crap food I eat. Everything tight. I'm small boned. I know I am not considered overweight but I am heavier than is best for me. If I could just stop the binging I think I would naturally be a better weight. I feel out of control.


Buy bigger clothes. Maybe you are trying to squeeze yourself into too small clothes.
Your fixation on being perfect is the root of the problem. Talking to eating disorder specialists could help.

Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2023 07:36     Subject: Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
You are at my goal weight (same height), so keep in mind it's all relative.

One thing that helps me is that I know I feel so much better when I eat well. I sleep better, I make better daily/life choices. So, that's my motivation. I do want to look good, but more importantly, I want to feel good.

Also, one donut can be just one donut.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2023 07:30     Subject: Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
I think you need to front load your calories and protein earlier in the day. Instead of oatmeal have 3 eggs with cooked vegetables. Have the fruit with 1/4-1/3 c of almonds for a snack. Add some beans and avocado to your lunch salad. I bet you'll feel more satisfied and not as ravenous.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2023 21:40     Subject: Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
Hm, I would take a different approach. Include a reasonable amount of sweets into your meal plan for the day. Portion it out in the morning when your willpower is still high, and pack it with your lunch. When the craving strikes that afternoon, eat it. And then be done. There's no "failure" since it was part of the plan all along. And since you haven't strayed from your meal plan, you can tell yourself "good job, you're doing great today! Keep it up!" Instead of falling the rest of the way off the wagon.

Attempting to reach 100% success has never worked for me, but if I set reasonable goals I can meet them consistently.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2023 21:25     Subject: Re:Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
Read the book “Eat It!” by Jordan Syatt. He does a great job explaining how weight loss isn’t linear and why you’ll be more successful if you aim for eating well 80% of the time vs. striving for 100% perfection. It changed the way I think and made it much easier for me to stick with eating and workout plans.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2023 20:46     Subject: Stopping the all-or-nothing attitude
WW helped me with this. You can borrow and earn points, so even if you fall behind you can make up for it. I used to do all or nothing too. WW helped me stay on the wagon.