You treat them both exactly the same -- meaning, well. You do not hold one kid's accomplishments over the head of the other. Ever. No matter how sorely temped.

Unless you want your kids to hate each other when they grow up, you never compare or utter some version of "why can't you be more like your sibling?". You are always Switzerland. You are neutral.

If you keep going down this road, you could make the one who isn't in AAP the family scapegoat.

We had this issue. My oldest has a learning disability (slow processing speed) and my youngest is exceptionally gifted at math. We had a lot of conversations in our household about how different brains function. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses (including mom and dad) and how different types of learning environments can be better for different people.

Then we really emphasized kindness. It was tough. Our oldest found therapy helpful at some points to deal with it. So hard for them to be so bright with a learning disability and I’m sure to see their brother and other kids not t have that struggle.

Oldest is in college right now and seems to be doing well. Youngest really needed the advanced classes in elementary, middle, and high school. We all love each other and get along so I think it worked out ok. You just have to give each kid what they need.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - in our case, my oldest will likely get into AAP. Our youngest has some learning disabilities so it is pretty unlikely for him. Our school is not the center.

FWIW, my DC has very severe dyslexia and dysgraphia and was in AAP. Having an LD doesn't mean they will not qualify for AAP.

Anonymous wrote:I would wait until my oldest gets in before worrying about it.

This. Don’t borrow trouble.

My oldest was in. My youngest wasn't. Bottom line is they both received the education they needed and are now in college doing quite well. There were no issues.

I would wait until my oldest gets in before worrying about it.

Anonymous wrote:Op here! Thanks for all the comments. I don't really have anyone I feel comfortable discussing this with IRL because people are very touchy about AAP it seems.

Hopefully, I don't sound like a tool, but my oldest is an exceptional and intellectually curious student. Her teachers have told us she is one of the top kids in the grade and would thrive in AAP, so she seems like the kind of kid where making the switch might be worth it. Otherwise, I honestly wouldn't consider splitting them up, but I don't want to do her a disservice because of my sensitivity to her brother.

I am not sure if our center lets siblings come too. That's a good question. They don't have LLIV at our school (it is immersion, maybe that's why?).

Pulling a kid from a neighborhood school to be gen ed at a center school so that their sibling can thrive seems cruel

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Anonymous wrote:What do families do if one child gets into AAP and the other doesn't?

If only we had real equity, then all kids would have the same opportunity.

They do. All kids have the same opportunity to learn in school, to be engaged.

Only if they land in a gen ed without a large number of kids who need remedial help. In that case, the on grade level kids get no opportunity to be engaged

Op here! Thanks for all the comments. I don't really have anyone I feel comfortable discussing this with IRL because people are very touchy about AAP it seems.

Hopefully, I don't sound like a tool, but my oldest is an exceptional and intellectually curious student. Her teachers have told us she is one of the top kids in the grade and would thrive in AAP, so she seems like the kind of kid where making the switch might be worth it. Otherwise, I honestly wouldn't consider splitting them up, but I don't want to do her a disservice because of my sensitivity to her brother.

I am not sure if our center lets siblings come too. That's a good question. They don't have LLIV at our school (it is immersion, maybe that's why?).

OP, not in situation, but I feel for you. I would advocate for each child individually. Stay involved in both kids’ classrooms. Don’t discuss AAP at home or make big deal about it.

I think these situations are tough but not insurmountable. Many situations are going to arise where one sibling or friend excels where another doesn’t. We can teach that child to handle with grace.

Does your center not accept younger siblings?

You have two options, OP.
1. Keep your AAP kid at your home school where they are in the LLIV class.
2. Send your AAP kid to the AAP CEnter and ask if they will allow your younger child to attend the school, as well. Some schools have space, some don't. If they have space, great, both your kids will go to that school (but know they can kick your younger child out at any time). If they don't have space then you have to make the choice if you want them at different or same schools.

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Anonymous wrote:What do families do if one child gets into AAP and the other doesn't?

If only we had real equity, then all kids would have the same opportunity.

They do. All kids have the same opportunity to learn in school, to be engaged.

Not all kids can choose to go to a different school which Level 4 kids can. It is the most inequitable thing. Level 4 at all schools is the most equitable and which is why centers will eventually go away.

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Anonymous wrote:What do families do if one child gets into AAP and the other doesn't?

If only we had real equity, then all kids would have the same opportunity.

They do. All kids have the same opportunity to learn in school, to be engaged.

Anonymous wrote:What do families do if one child gets into AAP and the other doesn't?

If only we had real equity, then all kids would have the same opportunity.