Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 12:08     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:This is a really odd thread!

Why? You all have young adults that clean? Makes me more of a failure.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 12:05     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
This is a really odd thread!
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 12:03     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why have your young adults live in the US if you’re culturally unwilling to have them take care of their own clothes? That kind of domestic employee is rare in the US not least because it’s seen as shameful.

Is it shameful to have someone come and clean once a week, just so things are somewhat clean?


In this country we tend to have housecleaners, but they don’t do any handling of personal belongings. Except maybe doing laundry, but from an organized area, not piles on the floor. People on dcum will confirm that they scurry to tidy their houses before the cleaners come. Cleaners aren’t there to pick up toys or put things away.

I get that. That is why I was asking if anyone knows a cleaner for hoarders.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 12:00     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why have your young adults live in the US if you’re culturally unwilling to have them take care of their own clothes? That kind of domestic employee is rare in the US not least because it’s seen as shameful.

Is it shameful to have someone come and clean once a week, just so things are somewhat clean?


In this country we tend to have housecleaners, but they don’t do any handling of personal belongings. Except maybe doing laundry, but from an organized area, not piles on the floor. People on dcum will confirm that they scurry to tidy their houses before the cleaners come. Cleaners aren’t there to pick up toys or put things away.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 12:00     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anyway, I got them to clean now. I have cleaned a ton so far. It is embarrassing for me as we live in the neighborhood where people know us and friends of kids come here.
And I am mad, I am so mad that they are so disrespectful to me, DH, and our house.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:58     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.

Depends on the week. Three bedrooms and the garage full of clothes everywhere. moved from the dorm here and just sitting there since August.
This time, the bathtubs were gross, but cleaned within a day by me. I took care of it. So far no vermin, but that is my fear. No food in clothing yet. I had tried to tell them I would throw everything away, but that caused some hysteric meltdowns.


Why do they have so many clothes?

DD has some mental health issues and was attacked(horrifically) in college. She buys impulsively when she feels bad thinking it will make her feel better.



Then she is not well enough to work so many hours that she doesn’t have time for therapy.

osted wrong so here it is. Don't take that away from her. She loves her job and is good at it. And the fact that she is keeping her job is impressive.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:57     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Time to cut the strings….


Why don't you offer suggestions that the op asked? They didn't ask for opinions! Sorry Op I clean by my own house!
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:57     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:They need to donate at least half their clothes. Three rooms of clothes is way too many. It’s too much to keep organized.

Amen! I am of the mind to just chuck them. I mean, they would not actually notice, right?
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:57     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.

Depends on the week. Three bedrooms and the garage full of clothes everywhere. moved from the dorm here and just sitting there since August.
This time, the bathtubs were gross, but cleaned within a day by me. I took care of it. So far no vermin, but that is my fear. No food in clothing yet. I had tried to tell them I would throw everything away, but that caused some hysteric meltdowns.


Why do they have so many clothes?

DD has some mental health issues and was attacked(horrifically) in college. She buys impulsively when she feels bad thinking it will make her feel better.

Don't take that away from her. She loves her job and is good at it. And the fact that she is keeping her job is impressive.

Then she is not well enough to work so many hours that she doesn’t have time for therapy.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:55     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
They need to donate at least half their clothes. Three rooms of clothes is way too many. It’s too much to keep organized.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:55     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.

Depends on the week. Three bedrooms and the garage full of clothes everywhere. moved from the dorm here and just sitting there since August.
This time, the bathtubs were gross, but cleaned within a day by me. I took care of it. So far no vermin, but that is my fear. No food in clothing yet. I had tried to tell them I would throw everything away, but that caused some hysteric meltdowns.


Why do they have so many clothes?

DD has some mental health issues and was attacked(horrifically) in college. She buys impulsively when she feels bad thinking it will make her feel better.


Then she is not well enough to work so many hours that she doesn’t have time for therapy.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:49     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.

Depends on the week. Three bedrooms and the garage full of clothes everywhere. moved from the dorm here and just sitting there since August.
This time, the bathtubs were gross, but cleaned within a day by me. I took care of it. So far no vermin, but that is my fear. No food in clothing yet. I had tried to tell them I would throw everything away, but that caused some hysteric meltdowns.


Why do they have so many clothes?

DD has some mental health issues and was attacked(horrifically) in college. She buys impulsively when she feels bad thinking it will make her feel better.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:48     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Why have your young adults live in the US if you’re culturally unwilling to have them take care of their own clothes? That kind of domestic employee is rare in the US not least because it’s seen as shameful.

Is it shameful to have someone come and clean once a week, just so things are somewhat clean?
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:21     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Why have your young adults live in the US if you’re culturally unwilling to have them take care of their own clothes? That kind of domestic employee is rare in the US not least because it’s seen as shameful.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2023 11:18     Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Strongly recommend Merry Maids or some
service like that because if it gets so bad that an individual person you hire in your own doesn’t want to come, then you are out of luck.
But with merry maids (or similar service) they’ll make sure the job is covered…even if it’s a different person every week.

I will give them a call! Many thanks. We had Well-paid maids a couple of times, but they are really pricey to have on a regular basis.