Op I hope you read this- your baby needs to be checked for Laryngomalacia. If your pediatrician isn't knowledgeable about it, ask for a referral to a specialist. Both of my friends who had failure to thrive babies were diagnosed with this.

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Anonymous wrote:In addition to whatever your doctor recommends, I would lay my baby on my chest naked skin to skin and let them constantly nurse. I'd be on the couch all day eating oatmeal cookies and drinking coconut water. Try to watch a comedy to relax.

Spouse or family member handles all other kids. All housekeeping. You only focus on you and the baby. Now is time to call all helpers.

So sorry you are experiencing this OP! Big hugs.

It doesn’t do any good if they don’t get anything while nursing…I had low supply and tried that and it didn’t work to increase it. My baby just couldn’t suck anything out of nipple, not for lack of trying, there just wasn’t anything in there. Plus he couldn’t suck enough to tell my body to make it. Some of us just cannot nurse. Pumping didn’t work either, even with a hospital grade pump. Fed is best. And when it’s been a month and they’re still not growing, it’s time to go ALL formula. Strip them down to their diaper, take your shirt off and feed the baby from a bottle. A kind lactation consultatnt told me to do this and baby.s growth finally took off. Good luck Ige been there OP and I feel for you, but it’s time to feed baby what they can easily eat.

I could’ve written this. Plus I would’ve gone full on PPD if I had RM be sitting there for hours on end like a nursing machines it wasn’t going to be for me. Formula is safe and effective.

How often are you feeding? My jaundiced baby was like this - would not take formula, was happy to nurse, but just took in very little and very sleepy for her first 3-4 weeks. I had plenty of milk and it was my second child (first was an enthusiastic nurser who never went through the newborn sleepy phase) so it wasn't lack of experience. We wound up feeding every 90 minutes until she worked through it. She would take an ounce or so over 30 minutes, and then refuse more. But an hour or at most two later, she would do it again. Put it on repeat and did that. Exhausting, but it wroked.

She was also very slow to gain weight until close to 8 weeks. Remained a grazer for a long time, probably until age 4. She would eat small amounts often, and still prefers that mode if permitted.

Pp — and yes +1 tongue tie is an urgent thing in this case. Have your pediatrician office make calls for you to get you in asap

are they telling you to feed every two hours bc of weight? I’m curious if your baby is fussing/rooting/crying every two hours (showing signs of wanting to eat), or if they are having you wake up and feed a sleeping baby every 120 mins. I am not trying to get in the way of your doc advice, but this was me and my DS once.
at 1 month or being told to do this he was exhausted and never wanted to eat. My next pediatrician said to let him wake up at night on his own. I started letting him go longer and when he woke up hungry, he was ready to eat and took in more at each feed.
is it possible your baby is getting very tired out by this, or not going long enough to get hungry cues in the frequent feedings?

Go to the hospital

I had a very sleepy, very small baby that was similar. We just kept at it, took her clothes off to wake her up, wet washcloth on the feet, sooo much time feeding. A nipple shield helped a lot (otherwise she tired out too much trying to feed), tongue tie release as well, and by around 7 weeks she was improving enough that we dropped 3 hour feeds and by 9 weeks she was all caught up. It was a long slog but I was living in a country where formula was highly discouraged. I still kick myself for not just telling the medical folks to f right off with that. I almost drove myself insane pumping and feeding. She also turned out to be pretty lactose intolerant so that likely didn’t help. Hugs, OP. Don’t be afraid to just go formula if needed and you guys will get there.

If exclusively breastfeeding something to watch out for is green watery poop in the diapers. It means that the baby isn't getting the fatty milk because of switching breasts too often. Easy to do with a sleepy baby that take a long time to nurse. Something I wish I had known then. Best wishes and hugs to you and your baby!

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Anonymous wrote:What is going on, the baby is falling asleep and not finishing the bottle?

Almost always asleep, takes a long time to drink an ounce. Hard to wake to feed.

My jaundiced baby was like that, but I'm guessing at 3 weeks that's been ruled out. Some of the same tricks might help though.

This is from: https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/jaundice/

How to Wake a Sleepy Baby
• It’s easier to wake a baby in the stage of light sleep: eyes are moving under the eyelids, baby is making sucking motions or moving his arms and legs.
• Dim the lights so that baby will open his eyes.
• Undress baby down to just a diaper.
• Hold baby in an upright position. Talk to the baby. Gently rub his back, hands, and feet. Walk your fingers up and down baby’s spine.
• Wipe baby’s forehead and cheeks with a cool, damp cloth.

All this including tickle the feet. You have to be mean. Keep baby dressed very warm or on your bare chest with a blanket on top (other than some cold to wake the baby up). Have you heard of a supplemental nursing system? Do you see fat in your pumped milk? Some women make "skim" milk

More formula as others have said. Change diaper before feeding. Bright lights. Music

You can still pump but would stick to bottles until weight is gained

And def look at tongue tie issue asap

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Anonymous wrote:What is going on, the baby is falling asleep and not finishing the bottle?

Almost always asleep, takes a long time to drink an ounce. Hard to wake to feed.

I assume baby has been checked for tongue tie?

Anonymous wrote:Ask other people about lip and tongue tie - I assume someone has checked but get a second and third opinion.

She does have a lip tie and a consultation scheduled. Trying to get it moved up and potentially seeing someone else sooner.

My son had jaundice and a tongue tie so we’ve been through all that.

No signs of an allergy—no spitting up, no reflux, no colic, no problems with poop.

It all comes down to not enough intake of formula/breastmilk. I just can’t get her to take more.

Ask other people about lip and tongue tie - I assume someone has checked but get a second and third opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Go all formula. Truly. You’ve done your best, time to go all formula.

Yeah I agree. It’s ok op. Just take care of your baby. Fwiw, this happened to my sister and she turned out to be allergic to milk.

This could definitely be possible. My second child rejected formula and ended up being allergic to milk (has since outgrown it.) try formula + dairy free formula (my baby liked Hipp HA.)

Op if you at every concerned call your pediatrician and you can always go back
To the hospital you delivered at. Trust your instinct. Good luck Op, newborns + hormones can be very frightening.

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Anonymous wrote:Go all formula. Truly. You’ve done your best, time to go all formula.

Yeah I agree. It’s ok op. Just take care of your baby. Fwiw, this happened to my sister and she turned out to be allergic to milk.

I’ve been pumping and giving bottles of breast milk so it can be measured but also offering formula. It’s basically an all you can eat buffet. I spent an hour feeding her and it was an ounce. She takes breast milk better than formula but it’s still slow. The type of milk isn’t the issue as far as I can tell. It’s quantity and she’s being offered plenty of both.