Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 09:27     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Anonymous wrote:Friend of mine send flowers to his GF all the time. I personally think flowers are overrated, kind of lazy, requires no thought, or effort. I’d much rather show my appreciation for someone by getting them something thoughtful, or doing something for them that takes effort like a homemade gift. I still get my GF flowers occasionally but not all the time. Just seems a little cliche. I’m constantly doing, showing, and saying how much I care for her in ways that take way more effort than picking up flowers but maybe I’m misjudging the flower power.

Thoughts on getting flowers often (like weekly or monthly). Like it? Meh? Waste of money?


It depends. If your GF genuinely loves flowers then its a good and thoughtful gift for her. If she likes flowers like everyone else but would be more thrilled with a variety and effort in gifts, its not a good gift for her.

That being said, what kind of gifts your girlfriend gives you? It has to be a two way street, its not 1945.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 09:22     Subject: Re:Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Years ago I would send flowers to myself weekly at my office because I liked having flowers around. Now I don’t like them because they quickly die plus I grow plenty of flowers. I can’t recall the last time my husband sent me flowers but he knows how I feel about them. But, to be surprised would be nice!
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 09:13     Subject: Re:Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I just think it’s easy and doesn’t require much thought. I didn’t mention that my friend is currently cheating on her so feels like an empty gesture.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 09:10     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I love getting flowers. But every person is different; you can not like flowers yourself without denigrating people who do, or thinking your friend is lazy.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 09:07     Subject: Re:Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Omg- my husband used to travel frequently when dating as a consultant and I’d swoon when flowers and a note showed up at my office.

I miss getting flowers. My dad used to bring my mom flowers every Friday after work- entire marriage.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 09:04     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Op here. I’m not comparing myself to my friend. I was questioning my opinion of flowers bc his GF seems to love.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 08:37     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Anonymous wrote:Friend of mine send flowers to his GF all the time. I personally think flowers are overrated, kind of lazy, requires no thought, or effort. I’d much rather show my appreciation for someone by getting them something thoughtful, or doing something for them that takes effort like a homemade gift. I still get my GF flowers occasionally but not all the time. Just seems a little cliche. I’m constantly doing, showing, and saying how much I care for her in ways that take way more effort than picking up flowers but maybe I’m misjudging the flower power.

Thoughts on getting flowers often (like weekly or monthly). Like it? Meh? Waste of money?


Gifts should always be for the benefit of the recipient. Maybe his GF loves flowers, so really, your judgment of them being lazy and crowdsourcing validation on that is moot. And just because he picks her up flowers doesn’t mean he isn’t doing other things…. Flowers and thoughtful gifts aren’t completely mutually exclusive things in the context of a relationship. It’s weird how much you’re pumping your gift giving prowess vs his here.

I’m not a big “flower girl” myself, but I also can see that there is a sweet and beautiful simplicity to getting flowers often. Let them do their relationship and gift giving their way.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 08:23     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Anonymous wrote:Complete waste of money. No thanks. (Woman, age 46).

I hope you are my 46-year-old wife
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 08:22     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I adore them!
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 08:14     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
Complete waste of money. No thanks. (Woman, age 46).
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 08:11     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I find them to be a waste of money and told DH that early on. He will buy a nice arrangement on special occassions but even the grocery store boquets seem over priced to me. Instead of flowers, DH will get me my favorite coffee or bring home my favorite lunch. I like that better. But everyone is different and if you find flowers a waste of money, you probably shouldn't be with someone who enjoys getting them.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 08:03     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I love flowers and enjoy getting them for special occasions. I feel bad when they fie, so i also like flowering plants. I love high end flower bouquets but never get them.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 07:44     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I love beautiful bouquets, but I don’t let my DH spend money on it except on really special occasions because it’s too expensive!
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 07:36     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
I get it they’re overpriced and die quickly, but a single rose or flower (picked from the neighbor’s garden of course) for no particular reason will almost always be appreciated.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2023 07:32     Subject: Thoughts on regularly getting flowers from significant other
What? How old are you? I want flowers. I was too broke to buy them in my 20s, but now they are part of my little luxuries.
They make my house pretty. They are not waste other than the plastic part. I don't want stuff. I can't even find things I like so I can't expect my partner to figure them out.
Most of the flowers are from Colombia by the way, and mine are brought to my house by Colombian.
I also like great soy candles. I want stuff that is used up and won't clog up my home.
That said, I understand what you are saying. You do you.