I agree with reporting to the school counselor or principal, but also talk to your kid about befriending the kid being bullied. If your kid is up for it they could try standing up to the bullies. I realize most middle schoolers are not going to stick their neck out like that, but even inviting the kid being bullied to sit with them at lunch would likely be welcomed. The kid being bullied probably feels all alone. Don't ignore this. So many kids who commit suicide have a history of being bullied.

This is bananas. You don't know she is bullied. DD doesn't know either. Neither of you saw or heard anything or have any first hand knowledge about the girl in question.

DD heard it from some other girls who say they heard it? This is a bad game of telephone.

You are going to call the counselor and say, "My daughter told me that someone told her that someone is being bullied?" Ok...but this is not at all credible. There is likely 1-2 counselors and hundreds of kids and they are buried up over their eyeballs in work. This will be a very low priority to investigate.

Report to the school counselor. What would you want another parent to do if they found out your daughter was being bullied?

Anonymous wrote:What would you do?
DD told me that she was told a 7th grader girl is “severely bullied” by two 7th grader girls. DD was told specific examples of bullying, which she shared with me. They are horrible if they in fact had happened.

As a mom, I am worried about the girl who has been allegedly bullied. I say allegedly because neither DD or I know bullying has been happening for a fact.

What would be the best action to make sure that the girl who has been allegedly bullied is okay? Reach out to the girl’s parents? Reach out to school counselor? Reach out to the patents of the alleged bullies?

Please don’t look the other way. You can easily call the school and speak to the school principal or counselor. This young lady needs you to step in. They won’t disclose how they know, but will pull this young lady in to understand what’s going on and go from there.

Anonymous wrote:OP. Thanks for responses. I will report to school counselor.

Good. It can’t hurt and they may have more information. Your kid can also tell any teacher they trust and have a relationship with. That teacher can follow up for them. - teacher

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. This has nothing to do with my kid.

You're a jerk. I mean that.

+1 What a jerk.

And if your kid is bullied and doesn’t tell you and people see it and hear about it and do nothing…that’s cool?

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid this age and I would encourage her to tell the school counselor. There are ways to do this discreetly where they won't get "caught" ratting out other kids (which can be social suicide) or at least there are at our school.

Kids are committing suicide because of bullying. Yes, you say something to the school.

File a bullying report or email thr guidance counselor.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Thanks for responses. I will report to school counselor.

Thank you, OP! You're a good person.

Yes, this! I hope it goes well and the kid gets the assistance that they need.

Anonymous wrote:OP. Thanks for responses. I will report to school counselor.

Thank you, OP! You're a good person.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing. This has nothing to do with my kid.

You're a jerk. I mean that.

+1 What a jerk.

OP. Thanks for responses. I will report to school counselor.

Please let the school know. Make the report anonymously so the mean girls cant come after her.

I’d report to the counselor. It may make the difference if the girl comes in or reports it- her complaints would be less likely to be just brushed off

Don’t wait. Tell your daughter she was right in telling you about it. Explain that it is always better to get things looked at even if it is just to find there is no problem. Tell her you will call the school principal and inform them. Be detailed. Tell your daughter you will tell the principal that your daughter heard, second hand, the following. Repeat what your daughter told you. Clarify any issues and ask if your daughter would like to listen to the call.

Then make the call.

Bullying is not something that we leave to 12/13 year olds to address. Be an adult.

You can also tell your daughter that reporting problems is a very good way to help people in need. No, you don’t have to tell that your younger brother stayed up past his bedtime. Yes, you do have to tell if someone is hurting someone else.