Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 20:53     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:DS was planning to attend and miss his soccer game, but now they are short on players and he really needs to go. He was planning to attend just the afternoon celebration which will be at farm. So not a super-fancy sit down dinner. Is it extremely rude to change the RSVP? Not a close friend of his. I know kids invite lots of friends and classmates and I doubt he would be missed, but I also appreciate that numbers are given to venues well in advance.


For SOCCER? Please give me a break.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 20:52     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:So why is the soccer team short players? Others who had signed up did not commit. So why is it this players responsibility - but no one else bears the burden?
. I was going to say something along these lines. If the soccer game were that important then there wouldn’t be so many kids missing (unless there was a team norovirus event or something).
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2023 20:40     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
This is literally an exact post of why we decided to move away from the DC area. I have never seen an obsession with sports for kids like I have there. That is absolutely horrible behavior and a really crappy thing to teach your kid.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2023 15:02     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
It’s fine to choose the soccer game over the bar mitzvah… just not after already RSVPing yes.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 16:17     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
In terms of rudeness this is like canceling on a wedding or quinceneira 2 days before.

Only you can decide if it would be justified.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 16:08     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:So why is the soccer team short players? Others who had signed up did not commit. So why is it this players responsibility - but no one else bears the burden?


This
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 13:45     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:You should never have planned to miss a soccer game.


Never miss a soccer game? Is this Cristiano Ronaldo we’re talking about or a pimply 13 year old? We always choose birthday parties over games, especially big ones like bar mitzvahs. Personally, I think it’s rude to miss any event you rsvped yes to unless there’s an emergency. Your recreational amateur kids soccer team being short a player is not such an emergency. I cannot believe that people are this rude and flaky.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 11:10     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes you are rude and being anti-Semitic


Bull! Soccer is a team and when your child is a part of a team then that takes precedent over any kind of party. Are you anti Christian if a Jewish or Muslim child cancels attendance at a Catholic child's birthday party. Ludicrous.


Racist
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 11:01     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:So why is the soccer team short players? Others who had signed up did not commit. So why is it this players responsibility - but no one else bears the burden?


Probably cause half the team is going to the Bar Mitzvah!
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 10:46     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
Anonymous wrote:Yes you are rude and being anti-Semitic


🙄
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2023 10:42     Subject: Can I change Bar Mitzvah RSVP 2 days before?
I’m pretty sure OP’s son already attended the bar mitzvah.