I just read your previous post. I would have fired her sooner for cause, and definitely would not have paid more severance than the contract required. I'm shocked she had good references, she frankly sounds like a terrible employee.

Do your employees at your job do this? She's late, she's unreliable, she inconveniences her boss, does the bare mininum that is required...good grief.

Anonymous wrote:You cried for 20 minutes after giving someone a month’s pay. Are you okay?

Drop the fake concern.

Don't feel bad. There is so much work out there right now. She can work for herself as a delivery person with more flexible hours.
Most restaurants are hiring and the pay has never been better as we have more table per server.
If she has hard time showing up, she deserves the inconvenience of looking for a new job.
I worked at a school one year. Comes out I was the only person who hadn't been late or taken a day off. That came from the front office and I got a $25 gift card for that. I did not know that showing up every day was so rare.
I took working with children even more seriously than serving food.

Anonymous wrote:Gut up and be the boss. You have to do what's right for your kids

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You are doing her a service by letting her know kindly and giving severance. You pay for a job and she didn't do her job.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the reality check everyone. I guess I just really don’t like being the bearer of bad news, even if it is what needed to be done.

You gave her multiple chances and ample severence pay. She is the one who should feel badly for losing a great job with a great employer.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny who was constantly late. Drove me crazy. Talked to her about it several times. She said she'd do better, but she didn't. Finally, I let her go. Paid her a week's severance. She was pissed off at us, but it was insanely disruptive. I don't know why she couldn't show up on time. She was great with the baby, but her unreliability was too much to take. Why take a job if you can't show up on time? We were fair employers, I thought. Found her through an agency. She had great references. It was upsetting, but had to be done.

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Same. It is a job, not a luxury. We pay you more than well, you have no qualifications, be grateful.

We hired a nanny with a bachelor’s degree with early childhood coursework and five years of experience.

Yea that’s not qualifying for anything. Also, they count babysitting for family as years of experience.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny who was constantly late. Drove me crazy. Talked to her about it several times. She said she'd do better, but she didn't. Finally, I let her go. Paid her a week's severance. She was pissed off at us, but it was insanely disruptive. I don't know why she couldn't show up on time. She was great with the baby, but her unreliability was too much to take. Why take a job if you can't show up on time? We were fair employers, I thought. Found her through an agency. She had great references. It was upsetting, but had to be done.

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Same. It is a job, not a luxury. We pay you more than well, you have no qualifications, be grateful.

We hired a nanny with a bachelor’s degree with early childhood coursework and five years of experience.

I cannot believe you paid her 4 weeks severance for a job poorly done.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t feel bad…she should feel bad but probably doesn’t as you hooked her up with 4 weeks of pay. You all had an agreement and presumably you were clear with expectations. You upheld your end of agreement while she continually did not. Firing a nanny should not come as a surprise to them if they are failing to do the job they were hired for.

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This. We had one that we paid top dollar for SLEEPING kids. The nanny would not so much as fold laundry. When it came time - guess what? Buh-bye.

Don’t feel bad…she should feel bad but probably doesn’t as you hooked her up with 4 weeks of pay. You all had an agreement and presumably you were clear with expectations. You upheld your end of agreement while she continually did not. Firing a nanny should not come as a surprise to them if they are failing to do the job they were hired for.

Anonymous wrote:4 weeks severance? She has inconvenienced you, multiple times and you feel bad? You might as well throw cash out the car window.

So true. Many nannies take advantage - they know you rely on them - shame on them. Their loss.

Anonymous wrote:Consider daycare. I absolutely hated the personnel management side of having a nanny, and it’s why we’ve been a daycare family ever since.

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Same. hated having someone in my house day after day. Daycare is fine, OP - especially for those of us who do not have the free help of local family.

Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny who was constantly late. Drove me crazy. Talked to her about it several times. She said she'd do better, but she didn't. Finally, I let her go. Paid her a week's severance. She was pissed off at us, but it was insanely disruptive. I don't know why she couldn't show up on time. She was great with the baby, but her unreliability was too much to take. Why take a job if you can't show up on time? We were fair employers, I thought. Found her through an agency. She had great references. It was upsetting, but had to be done.

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Same. It is a job, not a luxury. We pay you more than well, you have no qualifications, be grateful.

It’s like having a bad boyfriend. If you stay with him, you’ll never have the chance to meet someone really great.

Consider daycare. I absolutely hated the personnel management side of having a nanny, and it’s why we’ve been a daycare family ever since.