Anonymous wrote:A lot of Catholic hate from people with little experience.

American Catholics are very split on the Church's stance on many social issues, including LGBTQ. Your child may face some homophobia from more conservative Catholic students and teachers but will also get quite a bit of support from those who believe that the Church should evolve. That debate is happening even within the Synod happening in Rome.

I'd start by getting a sense as to whether the HS near you has a reputation of being more liberal or conservative. I.e. social justice-type Catholic or a more traditional or conservative take. Find families who go there and talk to them. Everyone must take religion, and the flavor of it will really depend on the teacher and what they want to focus on.

There will be little you can do to push back if you aren't happy, though.

that's the important part here. It will likely be fine, but, if there are issues, you will have no leg to stand on and be told tough luck, these are Catholic values, if you don't agree, you can choose to attend elsewhere. Is that worth the risk?

A lot of Catholic hate from people with little experience.

American Catholics are very split on the Church's stance on many social issues, including LGBTQ. Your child may face some homophobia from more conservative Catholic students and teachers but will also get quite a bit of support from those who believe that the Church should evolve. That debate is happening even within the Synod happening in Rome.

I'd start by getting a sense as to whether the HS near you has a reputation of being more liberal or conservative. I.e. social justice-type Catholic or a more traditional or conservative take. Find families who go there and talk to them. Everyone must take religion, and the flavor of it will really depend on the teacher and what they want to focus on.

There will be little you can do to push back if you aren't happy, though.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm just posing these questions for research on specific schools. Not trying to skirt any rules or reap benefits without respecting the Faith. We are a Catholic family with an LGBTQ (immediate) family member and we don't want our child to be exposed to homophobic rhetoric or practices. Public school isn't working and the tuition at liberal privates is too much. I'd like to believe there are a few schools, even just one or two, (like McNamara!) that are welcoming to the gay community.

So your question is confused. If your child is not gay, s/he shouldn’t have a problem. It’s not “homophobic” for a Catholic school to teach students who go there of their own free will the basics of the Catholic faith.

OP- you may want to search this thread. There have been many similar posts over the years.

FWIW I met same sex couple who sent DC to a catholic high school. They seemed pretty comfortable.

PP again, I obviously brain-farted when asking about your kid’s age because you’re asking about HS. Kid is old enough to hear and handle what people say, and s/he is going to hear some of that bs wherever you end up, but again, more from kids than from teachers. Homophobia isn’t explicitly taught in Catholic schools. Help your child think about how they might want to respond in various situations (overhears something, a friend says something, someone says something specific about your relative, etc).

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm just posing these questions for research on specific schools. Not trying to skirt any rules or reap benefits without respecting the Faith. We are a Catholic family with an LGBTQ (immediate) family member and we don't want our child to be exposed to homophobic rhetoric or practices. Public school isn't working and the tuition at liberal privates is too much. I'd like to believe there are a few schools, even just one or two, (like McNamara!) that are welcoming to the gay community.

This would have been helpful info to include upfront, because as you can see, the assumption was that the child attending was LGBTQ in some way. Understandable that if you have a LGBTQ family member, you don’t want child being taught that the relative is a sinner or going to hell or is a pedo or any of the other lovely rhetoric spouted. But that’s not going to come from the teachers, and there’s a chance of getting that same bs anywhere.

How old is your child? If old enough, you’d do better to prepare them for what they might hear and teach them ways to respond, deflect, or remove themselves from the situation, as appropriate.

Catholics don’t support LGBTQ+. Why would you even consider this for a kid who identifies as such? Ridiculous.

The pope says, ok sure be “gay” if you must. But you’d better be chaste! Any sexual act is a sin. double whammy if you’re gay.

The Catholic Church is a hypocritical mess. Always has been; always will be.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

+1. The answer is none, OP.

+2. I don't understand this as well. Your kid will be miserable. Other kids will most likely be uncomfortable and your kid won't be accepted. The Catholic Church secretly hates gays. And transgender kids. But yet, parents keep asking. Why do this? What point are you trying to prove? Send them to Sandy Spring Friends School or GDS where it's widely accepted and there are tons of other kids and staff like that.

+3. my kid was bullied. don't do it

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

+1. The answer is none, OP.

+2. I don't understand this as well. Your kid will be miserable. Other kids will most likely be uncomfortable and your kid won't be accepted. The Catholic Church secretly hates gays. And transgender kids. But yet, parents keep asking. Why do this? What point are you trying to prove? Send them to Sandy Spring Friends School or GDS where it's widely accepted and there are tons of other kids and staff like that.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you people who don't actually believe in Catholicism keep wanting to send your kids to Catholic schools. There are plenty of liberal privates out there. Pick any of them and leave the Catholic schools to people who actually want a space where they can be Catholics.

1) many want a traditional academic curriculum and are not into the “whole child,” SEL over all, or academic trend of the times.

2) cost

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Anonymous wrote:St. John’s
Holy cross
Good counsel

The all boys schools are pretty homophobic

This. I am not sure about Clubs but the girls and co-ed schools have girls in relationships and going to homecoming, prom, etc. I know at SJC there have been girl couples walk to senior saber arch at Reg Ball.

Of course all the boys are straight.

Actually some boys went to reg ball in dresses.

If your kid isn’t 🏳️‍🌈 it probably won’t come up.

Stone Ridge.

AHC has a club and lesbian couples are welcome at dances.

don't do it! my kid got bullied!