Anonymous wrote:I’m a beauty (all men on OLD tell that after date 1 and nearly everyone wants date 2). After divorce to an ugly rich man who cheated on me profoundly I only date hot men. In a relationship now with super hot man who is crazy about me. He is gainfully employed and only 5 years older than me. My ugly exH was 16 years older and I thought I chose personality. I was very wrong !

The 16 years part sticks out as the obvious problem.

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty man your wife.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a beauty (all men on OLD tell that after date 1 and nearly everyone wants date 2). After divorce to an ugly rich man who cheated on me profoundly I only date hot men. In a relationship now with super hot man who is crazy about me. He is gainfully employed and only 5 years older than me. My ugly exH was 16 years older and I thought I chose personality. I was very wrong !

Ok. Well, by all means you seem to have it figured out now ... so.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a beauty (all men on OLD tell that after date 1 and nearly everyone wants date 2). After divorce to an ugly rich man who cheated on me profoundly I only date hot men. In a relationship now with super hot man who is crazy about me. He is gainfully employed and only 5 years older than me. My ugly exH was 16 years older and I thought I chose personality. I was very wrong !

Lol you thought you chose personality? More likely $$$$

He had a professional job and was very driven but not wealthy when we met . We built wealth working together but it changed him for worse - he completely went off rails in his 50s. Im happier divorced - have a wonderful younger and hot partner now. He’s not as wealthy as my ex but he is firmly on his feet and I’m totally happy

Anonymous wrote:I’m a beauty (all men on OLD tell that after date 1 and nearly everyone wants date 2). After divorce to an ugly rich man who cheated on me profoundly I only date hot men. In a relationship now with super hot man who is crazy about me. He is gainfully employed and only 5 years older than me. My ugly exH was 16 years older and I thought I chose personality. I was very wrong !

Lol you thought you chose personality? More likely $$$$

Anonymous wrote:And then the dead bedroom starts and it’s a mess.

+1. You MUST be attracted to them. You can only fake it for a few years.

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

No.

We know a ton of high school sweethearts who married their good looking professional sports player boyfriends, not husbands.

They prioritized the total package - nice, smart, respectful, hard worker, talented, athletic, and good looking.

I hit on him at a bar because he was hot, married him because it turned out I also really liked him as a person and because we are compatible and have similar life goals.

I know people who pretty much only dated hot people but they only married the one they loved and were compatible with and it’s worked out so far. I don’t know anyone who married for looks alone.

Nope, all women I know who married for looks are now divorced. If you are married to a super good looking man, it's harder to keep them around. And, you might be ignoring what you don't have in common.

I’m a beauty (all men on OLD tell that after date 1 and nearly everyone wants date 2). After divorce to an ugly rich man who cheated on me profoundly I only date hot men. In a relationship now with super hot man who is crazy about me. He is gainfully employed and only 5 years older than me. My ugly exH was 16 years older and I thought I chose personality. I was very wrong !

Honestly I don't know any women who chose looks over personality and other qualities. I think men are guiltier of this more often than women are. Women are looking for future fathers to their children.

I know a couple (relatives) who were pretty shallow about liking each other for their looks and materialistic as well. They both grew into the opposite of that over their very long marriage. I found it fascinating though sometimes it was like talking to college sophomores who have just realized the wider world, rather than 50 year olds.

The other person I knew who was like this has been married and divorced three times. I definitely think she picked people for the wrong reasons but they were all good looking and so was she. I know her mother emphasized the importance of being good looking and dating good looking people over everything elseI don’t think any of her marriages were happy but I think she has other personality problems too.

Anonymous wrote:My wife married a nerd...I'd say it worked out.

+1

Yeah but outsiders claim otherwise. LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the most persistent copes on this board is that attractive people can't be smart, successful, deep, etc.

+1

The other favorite cope is settling for uggos to get a ring and then wanting to drag everyone else into the same predicament.

+2

Uggos who think they are hot - then the men think oh shit.......

Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know who goes after mainly the good looking guys ends up perpetually single while the women who go for less hot looking guys who are better in the money/career department tend to settle down, get married, and have families. Anyone else notice this?

What about the men of any kind of look or finances who are kind, caring, loving and supportive partners with high EQs? That is what I want/have.