Most Americans do not hire tutors for their kids unless their child is simply not performing or not up to grade level.

OP, Your son sounds like he is a self driven high achiever as it is. He has friends. He is happy. He is not doing drugs or alcohol. It sounds like he is well balanced.

In my opinion top tier colleges in the US are losing their cachet due to their support of Hamas and due to the extreme level of anti semitism at the top tier colleges. I'm talking the Ivys, GW etc.

My employer hires from the state institutions, has for a long time and we will continue to do so.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

PP you replied to. I am European and I am indeed talking about a real governess, one who teaches and lives with the family. And my dear PP. Parents who can afford it hire tutors for their kids as early as elementary school, for remedial and enrichment purposes. Today, in the DC area.

Well, sure, people in DC now hire tutors for everything. But it wasn't a thing a generation ago in UMC families in my experience.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

PP you replied to. I am European and I am indeed talking about a real governess, one who teaches and lives with the family. And my dear PP. Parents who can afford it hire tutors for their kids as early as elementary school, for remedial and enrichment purposes. Today, in the DC area.

NP and I know. But I don’t want to be like you. Like, at all.

Like, so wise of you to say that. Brings much to the thread, unlike the PP, who actually replied to OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

PP you replied to. I am European and I am indeed talking about a real governess, one who teaches and lives with the family. And my dear PP. Parents who can afford it hire tutors for their kids as early as elementary school, for remedial and enrichment purposes. Today, in the DC area.

I am also European, from London. Your terminology is archaic. There is no one in the whole of Europe who has a governess because they no longer exist. You might have a live-in tutor though.

So you can't read? I said my mother had a governess. And that nowadays, people shouldn't scoff at tutors, which are essentially a continuation of that.

I see several posters have responded to my post and side-tracked the thread. In your (jealous) haste to excoriate someone you perceive to be part of the elite, you're getting sloppy.

Anonymous wrote:Curious as to which sport you keeping referring as "intense" ? (wrestling ? gymnastics ? or ???)

Figure skating? Dance?

Just ask him what he wants. I don’t think you need to change much, but a little tutoring and a little resume padding won’t hurt.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

PP you replied to. I am European and I am indeed talking about a real governess, one who teaches and lives with the family. And my dear PP. Parents who can afford it hire tutors for their kids as early as elementary school, for remedial and enrichment purposes. Today, in the DC area.

I am also European, from London. Your terminology is archaic. There is no one in the whole of Europe who has a governess because they no longer exist. You might have a live-in tutor though.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

PP you replied to. I am European and I am indeed talking about a real governess, one who teaches and lives with the family. And my dear PP. Parents who can afford it hire tutors for their kids as early as elementary school, for remedial and enrichment purposes. Today, in the DC area.

NP and I know. But I don’t want to be like you. Like, at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

PP you replied to. I am European and I am indeed talking about a real governess, one who teaches and lives with the family. And my dear PP. Parents who can afford it hire tutors for their kids as early as elementary school, for remedial and enrichment purposes. Today, in the DC area.

So while you peruse the responses of more laissez-faire parents, please be aware that now is the time some parents hire a private college consultant. Some parents freak out when their kids are juniors and seniors, but college consultant reserve more spots and more of their interest to shepherding the high school careers of 9th graders. They can tease out student interest, advise on which courses to pick all four years of high school (that's if you hire one for an 8th grader), weigh pros and cons of various extra curriculars for which colleges, suggest a list of colleges tailored to student interest and achievement, and finally edit essays and manage deadlines and stress for the actual application season.

The best ones are very expensive, of course. And sometimes parents look back and wonder whether it was all worth it.

But I'm just telling you that NORMAL parenting runs the gamut between hands-off and hands-on, and it's ALL FINE. It depends on parent and student personalities, and available funds.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

Not that PP. I think she means nannies. Governesses did indeed go out with Queen Victoria.

Do not equate intellectually exceptional kids with tiger parenting, although it's an easy excuse.

Anonymous wrote:I am not a Tiger Parent, but do consider As to be expected. My son, who has learning disabilities but is a methodical, hard-working person, had straight As in most of his dozen APs and other courses taking in high school. He had tutors for some subjects, which I consider part of a normal education (my mother and siblings had governesses and tutors at home, why not this generation of kids?).

Please retire the Tiger Parent concept and parent according to your lights and the kid you have.

Really??? Are you from the US? Growing up I never knew anyone with a tutor who didn't have severe academic issues and I only heard about governesses in books.

Anonymous wrote:Curious as to which sport you keeping referring as "intense" ? (wrestling ? gymnastics ? or ???)

My guess is swimming.