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Anonymous wrote:I definitely just fell into this rabbit hole.

If you are Southern, you'll understand these two. Both are that crusty upper of Southern, Episcopalian, three or four generations deep and with the cool names to prove it. Though I'm surprised by the 8-year age difference.

Tinsley seems to me like a slightly more fashionable, media-hungry version of the rich, blond Southern mom/wife that exists in abundance in Atlanta, Charlotte, Richmond, etc. Husbands are always brunette, in some kind of family business, and ignore them.

They are both chasing the marriages they were hoping to get with Mr. Mortimer and #1 Mrs. Bovard.

This seems like an attempt at round two, with three convenient blond children wrapped up in the package that Tinsely didn't have to wreck her body to create. Easy peasy.

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Anonymous wrote:Men re-marry quickly. This isn't even that crazy fast. They have many resources. We don't know them, but all indications are good. They are not Britney and K-Fed or something. Please stop with the hysterical "Wont' someone PLEASE think of the children!?" It's so dumb. Just stop.

Uh, the most hysterical post in the thread so far is yours.

Anonymous wrote:Men re-marry quickly. This isn't even that crazy fast. They have many resources. We don't know them, but all indications are good. They are not Britney and K-Fed or something. Please stop with the hysterical "Wont' someone PLEASE think of the children!?" It's so dumb. Just stop.

Anonymous wrote:I definitely just fell into this rabbit hole.

If you are Southern, you'll understand these two. Both are that crusty upper of Southern, Episcopalian, three or four generations deep and with the cool names to prove it. Though I'm surprised by the 8-year age difference.

Tinsley seems to me like a slightly more fashionable, media-hungry version of the rich, blond Southern mom/wife that exists in abundance in Atlanta, Charlotte, Richmond, etc. Husbands are always brunette, in some kind of family business, and ignore them.

They are both chasing the marriages they were hoping to get with Mr. Mortimer and #1 Mrs. Bovard.

This seems like an attempt at round two, with three convenient blond children wrapped up in the package that Tinsely didn't have to wreck her body to create. Easy peasy.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I've read a little more about the fiance and I hate that I have some reservations.

His wife only died in summer 2021. It's now fall 2023 and they're getting married? How long did he wait after his wife passed before he started dating? 6 months if that? And based on timing I'm guessing Tinsley is the first person he dated, and now they're getting married? And there's 3 kids involved that lost their mom? This doesn't seem like it's necessarily a recipe for success. Which is too bad, because I really was happy for Tinsley, and obviously these kids have lost enough already.

My mom's mother died of cancer when she was six. By the time she was eight my grandpa had married a new woman. They stayed happily married until his second wife (my grandma) died suddenly.

I don't think anyone is saying it can't work out, but it often doesn't when it's this fast. Not to mention, I don't know what your mother's experience was, but the children in my life whose parents remarried quickly after the death of the other parent were not happy about it/resented the stepparent and the existing parent for "replacing them" so quickly and went on to have a host of issues related to it.

Is two years really that fast?

When I did grief counselling, they recommended not making any big changes for the first year. Starting to date, especially with kids, counts as a big change. Then think about how long it takes to date to decide you know someone well enough to marry, then introducing them to the kids, then getting engaged, then planning a wedding. I think two years is VERY fast. I know people who didn't date for a year after their divorce because they were focused on themselves and their kids and therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I've read a little more about the fiance and I hate that I have some reservations.

His wife only died in summer 2021. It's now fall 2023 and they're getting married? How long did he wait after his wife passed before he started dating? 6 months if that? And based on timing I'm guessing Tinsley is the first person he dated, and now they're getting married? And there's 3 kids involved that lost their mom? This doesn't seem like it's necessarily a recipe for success. Which is too bad, because I really was happy for Tinsley, and obviously these kids have lost enough already.

We don’t know if she died suddenly or if she was sick. If the latter, oftentimes one has already grieved the person.

She died of a brain tumor in June 2021. She & Robert lived in DC for a bit post-college.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I've read a little more about the fiance and I hate that I have some reservations.

His wife only died in summer 2021. It's now fall 2023 and they're getting married? How long did he wait after his wife passed before he started dating? 6 months if that? And based on timing I'm guessing Tinsley is the first person he dated, and now they're getting married? And there's 3 kids involved that lost their mom? This doesn't seem like it's necessarily a recipe for success. Which is too bad, because I really was happy for Tinsley, and obviously these kids have lost enough already.

My mom's mother died of cancer when she was six. By the time she was eight my grandpa had married a new woman. They stayed happily married until his second wife (my grandma) died suddenly.

I don't think anyone is saying it can't work out, but it often doesn't when it's this fast. Not to mention, I don't know what your mother's experience was, but the children in my life whose parents remarried quickly after the death of the other parent were not happy about it/resented the stepparent and the existing parent for "replacing them" so quickly and went on to have a host of issues related to it.

Is two years really that fast?

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I've read a little more about the fiance and I hate that I have some reservations.

His wife only died in summer 2021. It's now fall 2023 and they're getting married? How long did he wait after his wife passed before he started dating? 6 months if that? And based on timing I'm guessing Tinsley is the first person he dated, and now they're getting married? And there's 3 kids involved that lost their mom? This doesn't seem like it's necessarily a recipe for success. Which is too bad, because I really was happy for Tinsley, and obviously these kids have lost enough already.

My mom's mother died of cancer when she was six. By the time she was eight my grandpa had married a new woman. They stayed happily married until his second wife (my grandma) died suddenly.

I don't think anyone is saying it can't work out, but it often doesn't when it's this fast. Not to mention, I don't know what your mother's experience was, but the children in my life whose parents remarried quickly after the death of the other parent were not happy about it/resented the stepparent and the existing parent for "replacing them" so quickly and went on to have a host of issues related to it.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I've read a little more about the fiance and I hate that I have some reservations.

His wife only died in summer 2021. It's now fall 2023 and they're getting married? How long did he wait after his wife passed before he started dating? 6 months if that? And based on timing I'm guessing Tinsley is the first person he dated, and now they're getting married? And there's 3 kids involved that lost their mom? This doesn't seem like it's necessarily a recipe for success. Which is too bad, because I really was happy for Tinsley, and obviously these kids have lost enough already.

My mom's mother died of cancer when she was six. By the time she was eight my grandpa had married a new woman. They stayed happily married until his second wife (my grandma) died suddenly.

I don't think anyone is saying it can't work out, but it often doesn't when it's this fast. Not to mention, I don't know what your mother's experience was, but the children in my life whose parents remarried quickly after the death of the other parent were not happy about it/resented the stepparent and the existing parent for "replacing them" so quickly and went on to have a host of issues related to it.

It really depends on how the stepparent handles things. Insisting all pics of the real mom be put away? Not a good move. Embracing the importance of her existence? Great move. Handled delicately, it can work out. Let's hope for the kids' sake, and Tinsley's sake, this does. The twin girls look pretty young, so they may not really remember their mom very much. https://realityblurb.com/2023/10/17/photo-tinsley-mortimers-fiance-is-identified-as-robert-bovard-read-all-about-the-rhony-alums-beau-and-details-of-their-upcoming-wedding/

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I've read a little more about the fiance and I hate that I have some reservations.

His wife only died in summer 2021. It's now fall 2023 and they're getting married? How long did he wait after his wife passed before he started dating? 6 months if that? And based on timing I'm guessing Tinsley is the first person he dated, and now they're getting married? And there's 3 kids involved that lost their mom? This doesn't seem like it's necessarily a recipe for success. Which is too bad, because I really was happy for Tinsley, and obviously these kids have lost enough already.

My mom's mother died of cancer when she was six. By the time she was eight my grandpa had married a new woman. They stayed happily married until his second wife (my grandma) died suddenly.

I don't think anyone is saying it can't work out, but it often doesn't when it's this fast. Not to mention, I don't know what your mother's experience was, but the children in my life whose parents remarried quickly after the death of the other parent were not happy about it/resented the stepparent and the existing parent for "replacing them" so quickly and went on to have a host of issues related to it.