Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 09:37     Subject: RSVP WWYD
You’re being petty. Take the high road here. Nothing bad every happens if you just let some things go. Focus on having a good time.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 09:04     Subject: RSVP WWYD
You don't need to call the venue to change the headcount. You invited this girl! All you need to say is "Glad she can join us! Time is: X at Location: Y"
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:59     Subject: Re:RSVP WWYD
I’ll be the outlier. You snooze, you lose. Too late for kid to join.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:57     Subject: RSVP WWYD
You're making a lot assumptions here.

Just be the nice guy.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:57     Subject: RSVP WWYD
You lost me at RSVP by phone. It’s not 1980. Of course you let the child attend. For all you know, the mom received a horrible health diagnosis this week, and your son’s party invitation was not at the top of her mind. It’s zero effort on your part to include the child.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:55     Subject: Re:RSVP WWYD
They are 9.

I can’t understand why you are fact checking a 9 yr old’s story to a busy Mom to you by text! This isn’t a trial! Maybe the invitation ended up somehow on the playground. Like the kid took out of folder. Or it was a conversation on playground and then the invitation got lost.

A paper invite. I imagine the other parents are annoyed to have to look for paper.

Not too late for you to learn the kindness that kids should be learning.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:48     Subject: RSVP WWYD
Anonymous wrote:You are overthinking this and sound insufferable. Of course the girl can come! Someone else won’t be able to make it, I don’t think I have ever thrown a party where at least one kid who RSVPed yes ended up not showing up. Also, venues really don’t care.

I have never heard of putting papers into kids backpacks and asking for a phone call. I hate calling people! I’m shocked more kids didn’t lose them. The mom probably asked the kid where it came from and she probably said playground because they must have talked about it there. Or maybe the teacher didn’t actually put them in folders and your son passed them out on the playground? Who knows! But seriously let all of this go, they are kids!!

You don't call, you text.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:32     Subject: RSVP WWYD
I’m stuck on the invite part. How do you know the teacher put them in the folder? Did all the others confirm this detail? Maybe your son did pass them out on the playground. Our school they are already saying how overworked teachers are, I can’t imagine then having to have them manage party invites for the class.

But advice - be a gracious host.



Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:42     Subject: RSVP WWYD
Anonymous wrote:You sound absolutely crazy OP, especially the Googling part. I’d be happy the mom reached out rather than ignoring entirely and I’d have her kid come.

This wouldn’t take up much brain space at all for me but you really do seem unhinged.


Another vote for Next Level Crazy.
Please keep us updated, OP!
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:41     Subject: RSVP WWYD
What the heck is wrong with you- the more the merrier.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:32     Subject: RSVP WWYD
Anonymous wrote:I love these ladies acting like they don’t google people!

I’ve never googled my prek kids parent because I didn’t like their rsvp. But what is really hilarious is that OP is like - how on earth do she find my email; that’s so intrusive and then, “so I googled her….” She probably did the same thing!
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:29     Subject: RSVP WWYD
Anonymous wrote:You sound absolutely crazy OP, especially the Googling part. I’d be happy the mom reached out rather than ignoring entirely and I’d have her kid come.

This wouldn’t take up much brain space at all for me but you really do seem unhinged.


+1

OP you sound mean. This feels like such a trivial thing to get upset over. I don’t know why you’d alienate a friend’s parent just to be petty over nothing. It will take you literally one minute to call the venue. This sort of thing is not that uncommon and if you can’t be even the slightest bit accommodating you shouldn’t be hosting anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:26     Subject: RSVP WWYD
I love these ladies acting like they don’t google people!
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:23     Subject: Re:RSVP WWYD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Glad you recognize your extreme level of pettiness because it is extreme. Of course I’d add the kid.


+1 op give grace. Unanimous responses here. This doesn’t seem too much of an issue, things happen and sending invitations home that way is inherently risky. I don’t really understand why you’d be upset or think this is so rude to be honest.


If the venue allows it, add her.

PPs—if there is no class directory, how else would op send invitations other than this way? Genuinely curious.

I’m so alarmed that this pp does not find this “rsvp” rude. Of course it was. Absolutely. But you still let the child come.

OP—are you new to the area? People here have very bad manners but they’re ok. You’ll learn to let the normal niceties go.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 07:22     Subject: RSVP WWYD
You are overthinking this and sound insufferable. Of course the girl can come! Someone else won’t be able to make it, I don’t think I have ever thrown a party where at least one kid who RSVPed yes ended up not showing up. Also, venues really don’t care.

I have never heard of putting papers into kids backpacks and asking for a phone call. I hate calling people! I’m shocked more kids didn’t lose them. The mom probably asked the kid where it came from and she probably said playground because they must have talked about it there. Or maybe the teacher didn’t actually put them in folders and your son passed them out on the playground? Who knows! But seriously let all of this go, they are kids!!