Anonymous wrote:Then we went to eat at our kitchen island-grilled steak and chicken.

This was critical to the story.

Your friends are your guests not his. While it's not ideal, she had absolutely no business correcting him - even the beer comment was out of line.

I have a friend like this . She drives me nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's rude for anyone to tell anyone else, especially an adult, that they shouldn't look at their phone, anywhere. I don't tolerate that kind of weird desire to control others in my life.

This.

He was a 21 year old in his own home. She's a busy body helicopter mom, who patrols other people's adult kids. I wouldn't be hanging out with her moving forward.

Talk about a control freak. Your friend had no right to correct your son. Would she have corrected you, also an adult, if you had picked up your phone? I would 100% drop her like a rock. No need for someone like that you your life. You are also 100% correct in calling her out. The only way she might understand what is ok and what is not is by setting that boundary.

She should have used the belt on him like the old days

Your son I see as a great son in law one day

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's rude for anyone to tell anyone else, especially an adult, that they shouldn't look at their phone, anywhere. I don't tolerate that kind of weird desire to control others in my life.

This.

He was a 21 year old in his own home. She's a busy body helicopter mom, who patrols other people's adult kids. I wouldn't be hanging out with her moving forward.

Talk about a control freak. Your friend had no right to correct your son. Would she have corrected you, also an adult, if you had picked up your phone? I would 100% drop her like a rock. No need for someone like that you your life. You are also 100% correct in calling her out. The only way she might understand what is ok and what is not is by setting that boundary.

That would have been rude but acceptable if it had been at her home. Her home, her rules. But it was at your home so it’s just rude. We have a no phone or baseball hat rule at our house and I enforce it but very politely with teen guests.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's rude for anyone to tell anyone else, especially an adult, that they shouldn't look at their phone, anywhere. I don't tolerate that kind of weird desire to control others in my life.

1 million times this.

How bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:He was rude. Your friend taught him a good lesson on the risks of being rude in social contexts. Sometimes you’ll be called out.

NP. Nope, there's a way to be gracious about it. "Matt, would you mind putting your phone away? That will help me reinforce the rule for my kids."

Except her kids weren’t with her at OP’s house and they’re middle school aged and OP’s son is an adult. OP could have said something to her own son. The friend was outside her boundary.

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Anonymous wrote:He was rude. Your friend taught him a good lesson on the risks of being rude in social contexts. Sometimes you’ll be called out.

NP. Nope, there's a way to be gracious about it. "Matt, would you mind putting your phone away? That will help me reinforce the rule for my kids."

Except her kids were at a totally different house.

Anonymous wrote:He was rude. Your friend taught him a good lesson on the risks of being rude in social contexts. Sometimes you’ll be called out.

NP. Nope, there's a way to be gracious about it. "Matt, would you mind putting your phone away? That will help me reinforce the rule for my kids."

Sorry, she can set the rules in her own house. OP can set the rules in her house. Relative WTA.

Anonymous wrote:YTA

ESH: Your son was rude to have a phone at dinner
Your friend needed to stay in her lane -- not her kid + not her house = no right to comment repeatedly
You need to perfect your breezy calming down of people who are out of line. You don't justify why he's allowed to have a beer; act surprised at the question: "Of course he's allowed!" Phone thing: "He's got two parents. You can step back."

I would give her a pass if she also reached over and cut up his meat for him and reminded him to put his napkin in his lap. She's suffering from deranged mommy syndrome.

He was rude and so were you.