^ And I have zero intention of remembering or acknowledging my kids’ anniversaries when they are that age!

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL does and I think that’s totally normal.

I thought this post was about the couple and how I always am the one to remind my husband that our anniversary is approaching LOL. Not sure he would ever remember on his own.

That is so sad. He doesn’t own a calendar, or know how to use one?

Was he raised to believe (by seeing it modeled) that family relationships and celebrations are “women’s work”? I mean, MIL remembers his anniversary, and he doesn’t? Sad. I hope you aren’t modeling that for your kids.

It’s all good. We aren’t anniversary people and even when I remind him, we don’t do anything for it. It’s right around my birthday and that’s a day he wouldn’t forget because we are more serious about birthdays in this household.

People are different.

No one, not even us recognizes our anniversary. But my MIL always recognizes her older daughter’s anniversary. It’s weird.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL does and I think that’s totally normal.

I thought this post was about the couple and how I always am the one to remind my husband that our anniversary is approaching LOL. Not sure he would ever remember on his own.

That is so sad. He doesn’t own a calendar, or know how to use one?

Was he raised to believe (by seeing it modeled) that family relationships and celebrations are “women’s work”? I mean, MIL remembers his anniversary, and he doesn’t? Sad. I hope you aren’t modeling that for your kids.

Agree. Yuck.

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’m glad I’m not the only one who is bothered by this, even though it’s so minor. My in laws always send us wishes in the family group chat, which results in cascading wishes. And then calls us also. I think of it as something my husband and I celebrate and would not mind being left alone. But it’s sweet and I guess it is what it is.

Why on earth does this bother you? This is the same generation who are offended by phone calls. They’re even doing it in a group chat which is so unobtrusive. Sheesh.

Anonymous wrote:DCUMers are so antisocial. I’m old enough to remember when Hallmark had a dozen anniversary cards to send to happy couples (as in not for the people in the marriage to extend) and I’m a decade younger than the OP. This is totally normal.

This. I think it used to be more common back in the day. Both my mom and my ils used to send us a card. I usually made a card for my parents. Op you’ll be stunned to know lots of us used to spend time shopping for nice stationery just to write one another for no reason. We’d buy cute cards and send them to one another.

I can’t understand the point of your post unless someone is complaining that you aren’t recognizing their anniversary.

I find this to be an odd thing to be annoyed about.

DH and I are in our 40s, married for 19 years, and literally no one recognizes or acknowledges our anniversary.

I think plenty of them remember the general length, though. It's just not something they want to acknowledge and that's fine by me.

Gosh, it's thoughtful. What a thing to be annoyed about!

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so bizarre to me. I absolutely can’t understand why anyone would be even slightly bothered by these well wishes.

After spending far too much time on this site, I’m generally no longer surprised by the bizarre things people are bothered by, but this one is definitely up there.

This thread is so bizarre to me. I absolutely can’t understand why anyone would be even slightly bothered by these well wishes.

Anonymous wrote:My MIL does and I think that’s totally normal.

I thought this post was about the couple and how I always am the one to remind my husband that our anniversary is approaching LOL. Not sure he would ever remember on his own.

That is so sad. He doesn’t own a calendar, or know how to use one?

Was he raised to believe (by seeing it modeled) that family relationships and celebrations are “women’s work”? I mean, MIL remembers his anniversary, and he doesn’t? Sad. I hope you aren’t modeling that for your kids.

Anonymous wrote:Both sets of parents do, and I kind of wish they wouldn’t, but it’s fine. We don’t recognize anyone’s anniversary—that’s their day, for them!

You'll miss it when they stop coming. I didn't think I would but the day came when neither mother could remember birthdays or anniversaries.

My mom does, I’d probably forget if she didn’t mention it.

Sometimes my husband. Ironically it’s his dads bday and he forgets both. Not so ironic since he’s asd and adhd.