Anonymous wrote:We did this!
Things that helped:
We changed out the door handles and drawer pulls for matte black, simple ones.
We had that slate gray blacksplash that everyone had, and I added a coating that made the color much less black and more colorful.
We added under cabinet lighting from Ikea.
I would change out your ceiling light if you can, but it sounds like that's beyond the possibility of changing in one day.
I got rid of dated looking wall hangings and went for textural ones.
The bolded is your answer, OP. Under cabinet lighting makes a huge difference, especially when you have dark countertops.