DH does his own laundry and the kid's laundry (with them, so they learn). I do other things, plus my own laundry. He would do mine but he once shrunk a silk shirt so badly it would fit a doll, so I don't trust him. It's been 15 years and I still get a kick out of that one.

Anonymous wrote:Ha ha! I've done this. He never learned - just had no clothes, re-wore dirty clothes, did laundry while blaming me. People on here say "use your words", "show him", "go on strike"... yeah. When you're dealing with someone who doesn't want to do better, well, they're never going to do better.

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You actions will speak so loud he won't hear what you say anyway.

DH doesn’t do laundry or cook, or really anything, so I am divorcing him. Finances are an issue but there is always an answer to that if you want out bad enough.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH does not do laundry. He used to sort of do it, but wouldn’t switch clothes to the dryer or put away clean clothes. I finally made it my official chore out of annoyance with his unwillingness to follow through. Three weeks ago he came home from a trip and had to quickly leave for another, so he ran multiple partial loads of just his clothing even though I also had a lot of dirty laundry that could have completed the loads.

I’ve decided to only do my laundry from now on, since that’s what he did. The hamper is overflowing with just his clothing and he is acting like he hasn’t noticed. Based on the jeans he’s wearing from 2004, I’m sure he is aware that he is running out of clothing.

For the record, every other chore that he owns as “his” are ones that I pick up and complete if he can’t finish them or is traveling. If I am gone, chores that are “mine” are left until I return.

Anyway, bets on how long this goes on before he says something or does his laundry?[/quote]

How old are your children?[/quote]
OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Ha ha! I've done this. He never learned - just had no clothes, re-wore dirty clothes, did laundry while blaming me. People on here say "use your words", "show him", "go on strike"... yeah. When you're dealing with someone who doesn't want to do better, well, they're never going to do better.

If my husband seriously could not wash clothes and do the bare minimum to not stink in order to maintain employment, I would consider divorce.

Oh, I’ve considered it. Finances are complicated.

He is a grown man. If he wants to wear rewear clothes, he has a right to do that. If it bothered him, he'll wash them, ask you why you stopped or sent it out to a laundry service. There isn't much for you to do. If it bothers you, throw it in the machine. Its no big deal, certainly not worth picking a fight.

[quote=Anonymous]DH does not do laundry. He used to sort of do it, but wouldn’t switch clothes to the dryer or put away clean clothes. I finally made it my official chore out of annoyance with his unwillingness to follow through. Three weeks ago he came home from a trip and had to quickly leave for another, so he ran multiple partial loads of just his clothing even though I also had a lot of dirty laundry that could have completed the loads.

I’ve decided to only do my laundry from now on, since that’s what he did. The hamper is overflowing with just his clothing and he is acting like he hasn’t noticed. Based on the jeans he’s wearing from 2004, I’m sure he is aware that he is running out of clothing.

For the record, every other chore that he owns as “his” are ones that I pick up and complete if he can’t finish them or is traveling. If I am gone, chores that are “mine” are left until I return.

Anyway, bets on how long this goes on before he says something or does his laundry?[/quote]

How old are your children?

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Anonymous wrote:Ha ha! I've done this. He never learned - just had no clothes, re-wore dirty clothes, did laundry while blaming me. People on here say "use your words", "show him", "go on strike"... yeah. When you're dealing with someone who doesn't want to do better, well, they're never going to do better.

If my husband seriously could not wash clothes and do the bare minimum to not stink in order to maintain employment, I would consider divorce.

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Gross.

I totally get it. I stopped cooking. Guess what? After a few rough days husband stepped in and started making meals. Problem solved.

Does he do other things around the house like I do laundry and my husband cooks. He will let me know when he's low on socks and underwear it's not a problem because he does other things to help out.

Anonymous wrote:#teamopforsure

OP, plz provide us all an update this wknd. 😂

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It would never in a million years occur to me to put DH’s clothes in with mine. He was washing his own clothes during a short turn around and you expected him to wash yours also? Did you ask him? This seems really immature. You can each do your own laundry without all the drama.

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Anonymous wrote:Imagine going through life thinking this sort of petty stuff is the way to solve problems.

I don't think that's what OP is doing here. I think they're just sick of the bs. We all have a breaking point whether or not *you* think that breaking point is "good enough" or not.

Maybe try not to act holier than thou all the time or remove that stick before you respond to the next post.

It’s more she has some script in her mind of how he supposed to respond/react and expects he will “learn his lesson.”

Real life rarely plays out the way your fantasies do.

Oh, so true. Probably won't get the response she wants. But in the meantime, just enjoy the ride, boys.

I don’t have a script. I just don’t want to do laundry for him anymore.

#teamopforsure

OP, plz provide us all an update this wknd. 😂

I mean, he clearly thinks it's fine to just do one's own laundry, even if doing someone else's at the exact same time would not require appreciable additional work or time. So why not just do yours? He's obviously fine with that division of labor. Better than seething about it and getting resentful.