It’s even in the title of the thread. So tired of these troll posts.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not trying to win her back. It would just help to hear other stories of what others in my situation went through? How did they heal? How did their spouse attempt to make amends? How long did it take?

Then why did you write asking this?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not trying to win her back. It would just help to hear other stories of what others in my situation went through? How did they heal? How did their spouse attempt to make amends? How long did it take?

I HIGHLY recommend the forum Surviving Infidelity. Those people have all been there, done that, and they will have your back.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DW had an affair for over a year. We have two kids and I don't want to blow their lives up. I also love DW. I'm trying hard to not just divorce in a knee jerk reaction. I need to hear how this has gone for others. How did you get through it? What did your spouse do to help?

Does she want to reconcile?

Yes, otherwise I would not be considering it.

Does she want to reconcile the marriage or keep a bond with her kid's father?

Both

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DW had an affair for over a year. We have two kids and I don't want to blow their lives up. I also love DW. I'm trying hard to not just divorce in a knee jerk reaction. I need to hear how this has gone for others. How did you get through it? What did your spouse do to help?

Does she want to reconcile?

Yes, otherwise I would not be considering it.

Does she want to reconcile the marriage or keep a bond with her kid's father?

OP here. I'm not trying to win her back. It would just help to hear other stories of what others in my situation went through? How did they heal? How did their spouse attempt to make amends? How long did it take?

How did she meet him? Is she a stay at home mom or does she work? How old are the kids?

Women are better liars than men. She’s likely lying about the timeframe and if it’s her first time cheating.

My buddy’s wife had a decade long history beginning around the time his kids were in elementary school. The affair she did disclose was multi-year(but she told him 1 year) and it wasn’t her first time at the rodeo. She was fairly prolific at finding partners online.

Read state of affairs by perel

Not your choice, it is the choice of the spouse that was cheated on.