Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:its a bad idea right?

Seeing it tonight is

It’s not a bad idea

Anonymous wrote:its a bad idea right?

Seeing it tonight is

Of course it is ok., heck if he is tired the next day I would even let him sleep in and go into school late or skip school all together.

Anonymous wrote:its a bad idea right?

yes it seems to be.

its a bad idea right?

Anonymous wrote:Wait a few years don’t rush this

Agree

Anonymous wrote:Good God. First time mom questions.

Yes, of course, OP. Go with your kid and have fun.

I'm a first time mom and we definitely push bedtime for special events.

Wait a few years don’t rush this

Will he just snuggle in sleepily or will he start whining and cause a scene? If the former, fine - just let him sleep late the following day. If the latter, don't ruin things for others - he can wait a few years for the event to roll around again.

Anonymous wrote:There’s an event I’d love to attend but it’s on a Sunday evening and I’ve struck out with all my sitters. It starts at 7:30pm and DS usually heads to bed around 7:30-8pm. He’s in 1st grade.

Would it be ok for DS to attend? Event is relevant to his enrichment activity (music), and doesn’t happen again for at least a few years.

I think the event ends around 9pm and then it would probably be another half hour to get home.

No he will be damaged for life

He's in 1st grade, not PK. I took my 2nd grader and a friend to Hamilton at the KC last year, which ended around 10 (home around 11), with no problem at all. No real need for adjustment the next day even. I think you're way overthinking this and if he usually gets enough sleep, he'll be fine. If he falls asleep in the second half of the concert, whatever if you can afford it & the 1st half would be a good experience.

He'll probably fall asleep on the way home. Skip any after school activities that next day, and do an early bedtime. Have fun!

OP, I'm impressed about your commitment to bedtime, but I'm sure you can already see around you that this is not likely to hold much longer as soon as interesting activities start to heat up. DC is getting older, and you are starting to think about other things that might be worthwhile in the evening. Go for it. As long as DC is not disruptive and is age-appropriate for the event, it will be fine (some concert venues have age minimums, though, and you definitely need to adhere to them or risk being kept from entering, believe it or not).

Bear in mind that you also need to find out how flexible DC's sleep schedule really is, and it's far better to experiment on this now than when, for example, grandparents are coming for a special visit or DC has to hold it together for a big thing at school after a late night at a sporting event. DC won't break and neither will you!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have him attend the concert, knowing the next day will be hard, and he'll need to go to bed earlier.

My kids attended concerts and events related to their older siblings' activities from a young age, and we had to adjust bedtimes and have them catch up on sleep the following night. As long as your usual routine is healthy, a few exceptions won't matter.

Thanks… yes I’m a mom of one kid and I’ve been very protective of his sleep so far! I also wonder if it’s worth taking him or whether he will just sleep at the concert (will people be offended?). Tickets are $140 each and the artist does not perform often.

PP you replied to. The ticket price is a separate consideration. As long as your child is not disruptive, no one should be offended. I brought my toddler to see her brother perform in a Wolf Trap production of Carmen, and she fell asleep right at the end, before Carmen is stabbed to death (good timing!). No one batted an eye, because she was quiet the whole night, and that is all that is expected of a child attending an event.

Anonymous wrote:Yes I would do this for a one-off event.

I'd also be prepared to let him sleep in the next day and go to school late, even if this would be viewed as an "unexcused tardy" because I think missing an hour of 1st grade is not a big deal, there is benefit in attending events like this, and also I don't view the school as the boss of me. I get to make the decisions I think are best for my kid, within reason.

BTW, cool it with the "oh my god, first time moms" or "ugh is he an only" comments, fellow PPs. OP felt unsure, she asked. You can answer or not, you don't have to criticize entire categories of moms in the process. I know moms of multiples with older kids who would question this choice too.

I agree with all of this. I let my kids go in late 2-3 times a year when they’ve been up late. Also it’s a perfectly reasonable question!