Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:34
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here - our rabbit is house broken and uses a litter box in his pen. I promise our house is clean and orderly š. Yes - it will be chaotic and we have a large home to fit everyone.
I offered the pen to go on the small tile floor in the basement next to the door to go outside where they are staying. MIL is just mad because she wants to the puppy ānear all the actionā during the day.
I cannot imagine a dachshund puppy for whom this would be a good idea.
+1 I have two labs that arenāt 1 year old yet and they sleep so much. A crate in MILās room away from the action would be a godsend for everyone including the puppy. Make sure someone is responsible for letting him out to potty then play every hour, then he goes back in the crate.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:30
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Where are all those people sleeping?
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:28
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We will be hosting 18-23 for a week for Christmas (I know - insane š). 10 small children and we have three house pets ourselves (all very good with kids). This will be a massive undertaking for DH and I, but we are happy to have family here. MIL will have a 3 month old dachshund puppy she wants to bring to the house. We feel obliged to say yes since she always lets us being our large, German shepherd when we travel (we used to board her when she was younger and never brought her along as a puppy for obvious reasons). We agreed, but because our house is mostly carpet, said the puppy needs to stay crated or can run around outside and not run around the house.
Mil is very upset with this and is throwing a fit. Are we being cruel here? She wants to put pee pads down and let it run around the house, but we have a dog, cat and free roam rabbit as well. I donāt see how the puppy will truly be potty trained by then, and we really donāt want pee/poop in the house. There will be so much chaos already going on, this just seems so unkind to also put on us.
Iām firmly standing my ground here right now, but need a reality check as to if this is fair or not.
So she allowed you to do it with your dog but now you're bringing down the hammer on her? Do you know how much you save on boarding?
You are entitled to do whatever you want. But you're kind of being a dick about it. I'd tell MIL to use a crate but when the dog is in the house, she's responsible for any messes. Plus, it's a small dog, not a great dane. How big of an issue can it be? Plus, not all puppies pee everywhere. I have a puppy now and she doesn't.
But if you stick with your plan, I'd be prepared not to bring my dog to her next time.
There's a huge difference between bringing a housebroken and a non-housebroken dog to someone else's home. OP is not telling her to board the dog, just that the dog cannot roam freely until it is housebroken. This seems eminently fair.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:21
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:3 months at xmas.... has this puppy even been born yet? I would table this highly hypothetical discussion until ~ Thanksgiving when your MIL might actually have the dog and know a little about its temperament. What if it hates being carried? What if it is terrified of kids or nips a lot? I don't see the point in fighting over something that you don't even know you need to fight about yet.
Kind of agree. Also, this is a tough situation for all. She will not be able (or she shouldn't) to board a puppy that young and holidays are near impossible to get dog sitters.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:18
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
3 months at xmas.... has this puppy even been born yet? I would table this highly hypothetical discussion until ~ Thanksgiving when your MIL might actually have the dog and know a little about its temperament. What if it hates being carried? What if it is terrified of kids or nips a lot? I don't see the point in fighting over something that you don't even know you need to fight about yet.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:08
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
I must be in the minority here, but I canāt imagine leaving my three month old puppy in a cage for a week! And only letting it out to go to the bathroom outside in the winter. No thanks.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:06
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Hypocrite. You bring your dog there, but they cannot bring a puppy?
Anonymous
09/21/2023 12:03
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
I think the compromise of the pen on the wood floor nearby is reasonable. Or even let the puppy roam free but your mom is responsible for cleaning up, and if itās peeing all over the place, it goes in the pen nearby. Your house already has a bunch of animals and kids, and she always let you bring your huge dog, I would let it go. Someone could spill wine or food on carpet, a kid could have a potty accidentā¦I would just plan to clean the carpets after and not be such a downer at Christmas. Plus with all those kids, they will probably LOVE having the puppy around. Leaving it in a pen in the basement seems like a pretty sad way to spend Christmas.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:46
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:Op here - itās 13 kids actually. So yes - I told her this is too much. Either crate her puppy while in the house or donāt bring it. She wants to put it into a carrier and wear her (I said thatās fine), but no free running around my house. She is bringing a playpen for it too and wants it set up on the main floor since there a hallway with wood floor. With pads down for when it goes. Iām not a fan of this either, but maybe Iām being difficult here. I also feel like our shepherd is going to go nuts trying to get into the soft, collapsible sided penā¦.
Yes, you're being difficult. This is an excellent compromise.
And if you're going to say no, which is your right, you had best be prepared to be told you can't bring your dog next time. She does you a solid on saving boarding fees (not to mention potential dog viruses) by letting you bring your BIG dog to her home.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:44
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:We will be hosting 18-23 for a week for Christmas (I know - insane š). 10 small children and we have three house pets ourselves (all very good with kids). This will be a massive undertaking for DH and I, but we are happy to have family here. MIL will have a 3 month old dachshund puppy she wants to bring to the house. We feel obliged to say yes since she always lets us being our large, German shepherd when we travel (we used to board her when she was younger and never brought her along as a puppy for obvious reasons). We agreed, but because our house is mostly carpet, said the puppy needs to stay crated or can run around outside and not run around the house.
Mil is very upset with this and is throwing a fit. Are we being cruel here? She wants to put pee pads down and let it run around the house, but we have a dog, cat and free roam rabbit as well. I donāt see how the puppy will truly be potty trained by then, and we really donāt want pee/poop in the house. There will be so much chaos already going on, this just seems so unkind to also put on us.
Iām firmly standing my ground here right now, but need a reality check as to if this is fair or not.
So she allowed you to do it with your dog but now you're bringing down the hammer on her? Do you know how much you save on boarding?
You are entitled to do whatever you want. But you're kind of being a dick about it. I'd tell MIL to use a crate but when the dog is in the house, she's responsible for any messes. Plus, it's a small dog, not a great dane. How big of an issue can it be? Plus, not all puppies pee everywhere. I have a puppy now and she doesn't.
But if you stick with your plan, I'd be prepared not to bring my dog to her next time.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:37
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:Op here - our rabbit is house broken and uses a litter box in his pen. I promise our house is clean and orderly š. Yes - it will be chaotic and we have a large home to fit everyone.
I offered the pen to go on the small tile floor in the basement next to the door to go outside where they are staying. MIL is just mad because she wants to the puppy ānear all the actionā during the day.
So she wants to carry the puppy like an accessory all day. Those people are the worst IMO.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:36
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Anonymous wrote:Op here - our rabbit is house broken and uses a litter box in his pen. I promise our house is clean and orderly š. Yes - it will be chaotic and we have a large home to fit everyone.
I offered the pen to go on the small tile floor in the basement next to the door to go outside where they are staying. MIL is just mad because she wants to the puppy ānear all the actionā during the day.
I cannot imagine a dachshund puppy for whom this would be a good idea.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:05
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Oh gawd, my in-laws had a dachshund and that thing was never completely potty trained. They would just show up with it and let it roamāI would find pee stains or poop in rooms the dog shouldnāt have been in after theyād left, or when we went to their house weād find surprises in the guest room. Awful dog.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:03
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Just tell them not to come. They cannot board the dog at that age.
Anonymous
09/21/2023 11:01
Subject: Bringing puppy to Christmas
Your Shepherd might think the wiener dog is a snack.