Anonymous
Post 09/19/2023 06:09     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


I give closer to $200 for a cousin. I think we have $500 when a sib got married last year. Our HHI is $180k so don’t know if we are regular people or not. Pretty sure we are the poors on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2023 23:09     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:$200


So cheap.
4 people!!!
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2023 23:08     Subject: Re:How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
$1000
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2023 22:54     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


It has nothing to do with your league.

Regular people easily spend $500 for a couple's massage and dinner on Valentine's Day. So it is not a question of affordability. It is only a question of being generous to others. Only in a culture that is encouraged to be self-centered and individualistic will one balk at gifting $500 on the occasion of a cousin's wedding. Especially when 4 people are attending and the wedding is doubling as a family reunion. How much of a BOGO bargain do you want??

It is a very small amount for most of DCUM, but a huge amount for small people. It has nothing to do with how big is your wallet. It has everything to do with your mindset and how big hearted you are.


We do???
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2023 19:36     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
100
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2023 18:29     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


If you bring your kids, you should double the amount you're giving.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2023 18:28     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:i give nothing for a second wedding as I do not attend but even if I did attend, it would be a token gift. It is tacky to expect gifts for second weddings just as it is tacky to expect gifts for second or more babies.


Did I miss, is it a second wedding for both? I have never heard of people expecting gifts for a second wedding unless it's the first wedding for one person. usually if they have a really fancy wedding for the second time getting married it's because they are wealthy and if anything I have seen a list of their4 favorite charities if you chose to give. Are you sure they expect gifts? Is there a registry?
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2023 23:01     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
$200
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2023 22:57     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
i give nothing for a second wedding as I do not attend but even if I did attend, it would be a token gift. It is tacky to expect gifts for second weddings just as it is tacky to expect gifts for second or more babies.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2023 21:38     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


These are the top 1-2%-ers that make $250K or more HHI and consider themselves middle class because they buy million dollar houses and then can only go on European vacations once per year.

If you can afford it $200. If you can't $150 or $100. Those are more normal UMC and MC presents.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2023 21:33     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


It has nothing to do with your league.

Regular people easily spend $500 for a couple's massage and dinner on Valentine's Day. So it is not a question of affordability. It is only a question of being generous to others. Only in a culture that is encouraged to be self-centered and individualistic will one balk at gifting $500 on the occasion of a cousin's wedding. Especially when 4 people are attending and the wedding is doubling as a family reunion. How much of a BOGO bargain do you want??

It is a very small amount for most of DCUM, but a huge amount for small people. It has nothing to do with how big is your wallet. It has everything to do with your mindset and how big hearted you are.


Wow, you’re a peach.

We used to live 8n dc and yeah, I guess $300-$500 for close family. We now live in a smaller metro area, and a middle class family member recently married. The coed wedding shower involved a lot of $30-$50 trinkets from tjmaxx. Including from siblings, parents and “I’ve known little larlo since he was five years old” best friends of the family. I can’t imagine any of those folks spending more than $100 on the wedding gift. I think dcum people are out of touch with non coastal cities.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2023 17:33     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins? I'm way out of my league here.


We think weddings (and bar/bat mitzvahs) are special and even if we have to forego other things and save for several months, we pull together a nice gift.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2023 17:32     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We give $500.


Not for a second wedding.


We would give more for a first wedding.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2023 17:26     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


It has nothing to do with your league.

Regular people easily spend $500 for a couple's massage and dinner on Valentine's Day. So it is not a question of affordability. It is only a question of being generous to others. Only in a culture that is encouraged to be self-centered and individualistic will one balk at gifting $500 on the occasion of a cousin's wedding. Especially when 4 people are attending and the wedding is doubling as a family reunion. How much of a BOGO bargain do you want??

It is a very small amount for most of DCUM, but a huge amount for small people. It has nothing to do with how big is your wallet. It has everything to do with your mindset and how big hearted you are.


You’re showing your privilege pp.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2023 17:09     Subject: How much money is typical to give to a cousin for a wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, regular people really give $500 wedding gifts to cousins?

I'm way out of my league here.


It has nothing to do with your league.

Regular people easily spend $500 for a couple's massage and dinner on Valentine's Day. So it is not a question of affordability. It is only a question of being generous to others. Only in a culture that is encouraged to be self-centered and individualistic will one balk at gifting $500 on the occasion of a cousin's wedding. Especially when 4 people are attending and the wedding is doubling as a family reunion. How much of a BOGO bargain do you want??

It is a very small amount for most of DCUM, but a huge amount for small people. It has nothing to do with how big is your wallet. It has everything to do with your mindset and how big hearted you are.