Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:50     Subject: Re:Nanny’s car is falling apart
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Buy, lease or rent a car for her to use when she is with the kids. Although she prefers to use her own car, explain that while she is welcome to use it when she is on her own, you are not comfortable with her driving your kids in the old car due to the issues that is has been having. Until she can resolve the maintenance issues, she should use the car you provide when driving the kids.

Options 1 and 4 are non-starters. Unless you are paying for it entirely, you do not get to dictate that an employee must replace their car.[/quote]

This is the best solution. We have done this with our nanny successfully for many years and she is an insured driver on our policy. It allows us to have a safe and well-maintained vehicle for our nanny to drive our children around. It's not an "annoying" expense if you think of the alternatives. [/quote]

Thanks for this, it’s helpful to hear from people who have done this.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:47     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Op if you tell her to buy a new car, what will you do when she refuses?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:47     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



Not to defend first PP but you did say "1. Tell her to buy a new car."

If you buy a used car, who pays the insurance? Under her name or your name. I assume title will be under your name. That may get conflicted.

What if have HER lease a car and you make the payment as long as she is employed by you?


Hard no. OP will fire her and then she will be stuck with an expensive payment? Not reasonable.

But really, what would have happened if the kids had been with her during the key issue? They’d get an Uber. Not a big deal.

The appropriate response is to do nothing. It doesn’t appear the car is unsafe.


OP said the AC is malfunctioning. The car is having problems starting. How is this not unsafe especially when you have young children in the car?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:36     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Agreed!

When you update her contract include the fact that her vehicle needs to be maintained.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:36     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



And yet you still listed as an option (moreover as option #1 on your list.)

Pp’s reading comprehension is just fine and is correct that you are extremely entitled to even suggest that directing your nanny to buy a new car is within the realm of possible options.


Lol. Sorry, DCUM hall monitor, for posting options in the order that they occurred to me.

I only listed asking her to buy a new car as an option because when we hired this nanny, one of the pros was that she had her own car, said that she would use it to drive our kids, and assured us that she has always done so with her nanny families.

Maybe she did and the car wasn't having as many problems with the former employers. Maybe she didn't need to drive them as much?

Have you thought of asking the nanny what she thought a solution could be?



Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:36     Subject: Re:Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:I don't know that you can do any of these things as long as her contract says she can/will drive her own car.


There are always situations that come up that are not in a nanny contract so you discuss it with the nanny and come up with a solution that works for both parties.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:32     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Don’t lease a car. They are sticklers for condition when the lease is up. Buy a used one, be straight with the insurance company, and be prepared for her to want to either have you give it to her for full use, allow full use, or want to buy it off you on a payment plan.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:31     Subject: Re:Nanny’s car is falling apart
I don't know that you can do any of these things as long as her contract says she can/will drive her own car.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:27     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



Not to defend first PP but you did say "1. Tell her to buy a new car."

If you buy a used car, who pays the insurance? Under her name or your name. I assume title will be under your name. That may get conflicted.

What if have HER lease a car and you make the payment as long as she is employed by you?


Hard no. OP will fire her and then she will be stuck with an expensive payment? Not reasonable.

But really, what would have happened if the kids had been with her during the key issue? They’d get an Uber. Not a big deal.

The appropriate response is to do nothing. It doesn’t appear the car is unsafe.


She would have gotten an Uber that had 2 car seats?


If you weren’t Ok with that as a one time thing she could wait for you to pick them up with your car. It’s not a big deal.

These are such minor car problems…most people with older vehicles occasionally need them repaired. That doesn’t mean they are unsafe. It’s a minor inconvenience.


My point was more that I don’t know if it’s even possible to get an Uber with two car seats.

The day that this happened, it was over 100 degrees outside. I had our car for a client meeting about an hour outside of DC.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:17     Subject: Re:Nanny’s car is falling apart
[quote=Anonymous]Buy, lease or rent a car for her to use when she is with the kids. Although she prefers to use her own car, explain that while she is welcome to use it when she is on her own, you are not comfortable with her driving your kids in the old car due to the issues that is has been having. Until she can resolve the maintenance issues, she should use the car you provide when driving the kids.

Options 1 and 4 are non-starters. Unless you are paying for it entirely, you do not get to dictate that an employee must replace their car.[/quote]

This is the best solution. We have done this with our nanny successfully for many years and she is an insured driver on our policy. It allows us to have a safe and well-maintained vehicle for our nanny to drive our children around. It's not an "annoying" expense if you think of the alternatives.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:15     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



Not to defend first PP but you did say "1. Tell her to buy a new car."

If you buy a used car, who pays the insurance? Under her name or your name. I assume title will be under your name. That may get conflicted.

What if have HER lease a car and you make the payment as long as she is employed by you?


Hard no. OP will fire her and then she will be stuck with an expensive payment? Not reasonable.

But really, what would have happened if the kids had been with her during the key issue? They’d get an Uber. Not a big deal.

The appropriate response is to do nothing. It doesn’t appear the car is unsafe.


She would have gotten an Uber that had 2 car seats?


If you weren’t Ok with that as a one time thing she could wait for you to pick them up with your car. It’s not a big deal.

These are such minor car problems…most people with older vehicles occasionally need them repaired. That doesn’t mean they are unsafe. It’s a minor inconvenience.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:12     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



And yet you still listed as an option (moreover as option #1 on your list.)

Pp’s reading comprehension is just fine and is correct that you are extremely entitled to even suggest that directing your nanny to buy a new car is within the realm of possible options.


+so much 1

Op,

If you have an extra car, have her use that car or tell her she can’t drive your kids anymore. But you can’t tell her to buy a new car and you can’t tell her to lease a car. Maybe lease one for her but under your name or buy her her used car or give her money to buy car.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:12     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



And yet you still listed as an option (moreover as option #1 on your list.)

Pp’s reading comprehension is just fine and is correct that you are extremely entitled to even suggest that directing your nanny to buy a new car is within the realm of possible options.


Lol. Sorry, DCUM hall monitor, for posting options in the order that they occurred to me.

I only listed asking her to buy a new car as an option because when we hired this nanny, one of the pros was that she had her own car, said that she would use it to drive our kids, and assured us that she has always done so with her nanny families.





Breaking down twice in 6 months really that bad? AC won't be an issue pretty soon. Sounds like those issues were minor issues.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:12     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



Not to defend first PP but you did say "1. Tell her to buy a new car."

If you buy a used car, who pays the insurance? Under her name or your name. I assume title will be under your name. That may get conflicted.

What if have HER lease a car and you make the payment as long as she is employed by you?


Hard no. OP will fire her and then she will be stuck with an expensive payment? Not reasonable.

But really, what would have happened if the kids had been with her during the key issue? They’d get an Uber. Not a big deal.

The appropriate response is to do nothing. It doesn’t appear the car is unsafe.


She would have gotten an Uber that had 2 car seats?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2023 12:10     Subject: Nanny’s car is falling apart
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot force her to go into debt and buy a new car! You are ridiculous. If you don't like her car then you BUY a car for her to use. Your entitlement is beyond comprehension.


Your reading comprehension needs some work. I said I didn’t want to tell her to buy a new car, so I’m looking for another solution.



And yet you still listed as an option (moreover as option #1 on your list.)

Pp’s reading comprehension is just fine and is correct that you are extremely entitled to even suggest that directing your nanny to buy a new car is within the realm of possible options.


Lol. Sorry, DCUM hall monitor, for posting options in the order that they occurred to me.

I only listed asking her to buy a new car as an option because when we hired this nanny, one of the pros was that she had her own car, said that she would use it to drive our kids, and assured us that she has always done so with her nanny families.