Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 07:16     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
Anonymous wrote:You need a new nanny and you also should take stock of how you are interacting with her as an employer and make sure you communicate very clearly your expectations moving forward. I’m in no way blaming you for her taking advantage. But people who are inclined to do that do it because they think they can get away with it. The laying down expectations part was the hardest thing for me about having a nanny, and I manage a big team at work so I’m not generally a push over. It’s just a hard relationship for many moms, especially when the child is a baby. Good luck Op!


Fixed my typo!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 07:16     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
You need a new nanny and you also should take stock of how you are interacting with her as an employer and make sure you communicate very clearly your expectations moving forward. I’m in no way blaming you for her taking advantage. But people who are inclined to do that do it because they think they can get away with it. The laying down expectations part was the hardest thing for me
About being a nanny, and I manage a big team at work so I’m not generally a push over. It’s just a hard relationship for many moms, especially when the child is a baby. Good luck Op!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 07:07     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need to tell the agency. So much of this is unacceptable (would your employer find tardiness/call outs acceptable)? For reference, I am in Chevy Chase with one toddler and a FT nanny paid on the books at $26/hr plus benefits. Yes, she has taken sick time, but always let us know she is under the weather the night before or morning of. And she has even offered to reach out to her nanny friends to substitute in when we are in a pinch! She washes her lunch dishes and our child’s dishes. She often will put our dirty dishes in the dishwasher too. I’m just saying that many nannys go above and beyond and you can do better especially at $30/hr through an agency!


Never heard of $26 hourly in today’s time. Most nannies in Bethesda/Chevy Chase are making $30-$35 with all benefits. In regards to nanny no showing up at her time, that’s not acceptable. Should talk to her and make it clear that she needs to be on time according to contract and you need somebody that’s reliable.
. Most I know in Bethesda are paid $20/hr cash or $25 on the books for 1. (Parent here, have spoken to multiple families about nanny pay).


Mom here. We live in Chevy Chase and the two nannies that work in our neighborhood are paid $32 before taxes. Both hired through well known agency in the area. 7 years ago we paid our nanny about $25 plus benefits and healthcare.


Are those long time employees with raises? Or more than 3 kids?

Because I’m a current parent and I’ve never met anyone who paid close to what we do for two kids, $27/hour. Rarely have I met anyone who paid over $22/hour. People would prefer daycare at that point considering the lack of reliable good nannies available. I know this because we are trying to find our nanny her next position and people are laughing in our faces at her rate.

It just seems weird you would have these data points if your kids are older.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2023 21:22     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need to tell the agency. So much of this is unacceptable (would your employer find tardiness/call outs acceptable)? For reference, I am in Chevy Chase with one toddler and a FT nanny paid on the books at $26/hr plus benefits. Yes, she has taken sick time, but always let us know she is under the weather the night before or morning of. And she has even offered to reach out to her nanny friends to substitute in when we are in a pinch! She washes her lunch dishes and our child’s dishes. She often will put our dirty dishes in the dishwasher too. I’m just saying that many nannys go above and beyond and you can do better especially at $30/hr through an agency!


Never heard of $26 hourly in today’s time. Most nannies in Bethesda/Chevy Chase are making $30-$35 with all benefits. In regards to nanny no showing up at her time, that’s not acceptable. Should talk to her and make it clear that she needs to be on time according to contract and you need somebody that’s reliable.
. Most I know in Bethesda are paid $20/hr cash or $25 on the books for 1. (Parent here, have spoken to multiple families about nanny pay).


Mom here. We live in Chevy Chase and the two nannies that work in our neighborhood are paid $32 before taxes. Both hired through well known agency in the area. 7 years ago we paid our nanny about $25 plus benefits and healthcare.
Anonymous
Post 09/30/2023 19:16     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
Agree with PP. Also, she should be washing baby bottles, not leaving her dirty dishes in the sink, and not expecting to get off 15 minutes early. If you are going to be an employer you need to be comfortable enforcing your requirements- otherwise she will continue to walk all over you like she’s doing now. Don’t be a pushover OP. Lots of other nannies would be good with and remained focused on the baby without the headaches of this selfish person. I cannot get past that she leaves her dirty dishes in your sink and no showed on you.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 19:16     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
More than one dealbreaker here. Chronic lateness (more than 5 minutes) and no call/no show without an excuse.

The time off is there for her to take but that I’m combo with the other stuff would be a no go for me. You can do better.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 18:20     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
pp, you get what you pay for
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 04:16     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need to tell the agency. So much of this is unacceptable (would your employer find tardiness/call outs acceptable)? For reference, I am in Chevy Chase with one toddler and a FT nanny paid on the books at $26/hr plus benefits. Yes, she has taken sick time, but always let us know she is under the weather the night before or morning of. And she has even offered to reach out to her nanny friends to substitute in when we are in a pinch! She washes her lunch dishes and our child’s dishes. She often will put our dirty dishes in the dishwasher too. I’m just saying that many nannys go above and beyond and you can do better especially at $30/hr through an agency!


Never heard of $26 hourly in today’s time. Most nannies in Bethesda/Chevy Chase are making $30-$35 with all benefits. In regards to nanny no showing up at her time, that’s not acceptable. Should talk to her and make it clear that she needs to be on time according to contract and you need somebody that’s reliable.
. Most I know in Bethesda are paid $20/hr cash or $25 on the books for 1. (Parent here, have spoken to multiple families about nanny pay).
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 03:14     Subject: Re:Do I have unreasonable expectations?
This Nanny is so transparent - she is clearly taking full advantage of you OP & has no work ethic.

First + foremost: Contact the agency where you found this subpar employee and ask them to send you someone more reliable or demand a refund.

Also, fire this Nanny today.
She does not have your child’s best interest at heart >> only her own.

For what you are paying her, you are entitled to someone who can do a much better job performance!!

Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2023 20:36     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
Anonymous wrote:You need to tell the agency. So much of this is unacceptable (would your employer find tardiness/call outs acceptable)? For reference, I am in Chevy Chase with one toddler and a FT nanny paid on the books at $26/hr plus benefits. Yes, she has taken sick time, but always let us know she is under the weather the night before or morning of. And she has even offered to reach out to her nanny friends to substitute in when we are in a pinch! She washes her lunch dishes and our child’s dishes. She often will put our dirty dishes in the dishwasher too. I’m just saying that many nannys go above and beyond and you can do better especially at $30/hr through an agency!


Never heard of $26 hourly in today’s time. Most nannies in Bethesda/Chevy Chase are making $30-$35 with all benefits. In regards to nanny no showing up at her time, that’s not acceptable. Should talk to her and make it clear that she needs to be on time according to contract and you need somebody that’s reliable.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 16:31     Subject: Do I have unreasonable expectations?
I am late to this chain, but you really do need a new nanny. There are so many wonderful, fabulous, reliable, proactive nannies out there who will not only nurture your child, but who will also feel compelled to make your life easier, too! Our nanny and our family have a ton of mutual respect for eachother, and I always try to maker her life easier, and she always tries to make my life easier. It is such a win win for all. You are paying $30/hour for one child so you should be able to find everything you want in a nanny. Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2023 15:11     Subject: Re:Do I have unreasonable expectations?
She's not a good nanny. She's taking advantage of you, and you can do much better.