Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 16:12     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
At that age I would absolutely tell the parents.
It was not appropriate behavior and you guys are in this together!


Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 16:04     Subject: Re:Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This somewhat happened to us. My son snuck a girl in. They had sex. They were caught. She ubered home. I don’t give a F about that girl. She can figure out how to sneak into my house then she can figure out how to get home.


She didn't sneak in your house. Your son let her in. They both had sex.


+1. Way to teach the son how to treat women!
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 15:20     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:Why did you confiscate the phone? What did that have to do with the transgression


You don't think they communicated via phone prior to girl coming over?
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 15:19     Subject: Re:Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:This somewhat happened to us. My son snuck a girl in. They had sex. They were caught. She ubered home. I don’t give a F about that girl. She can figure out how to sneak into my house then she can figure out how to get home.


She didn't sneak in your house. Your son let her in. They both had sex.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 15:14     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
I hope you won’t be a Grandma in 9 months! You need a big talk with your DS.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:59     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:I woke up last night to someone walking around downstairs with shoes on at 4:45am, so woke my husband to check. He found my 15 yr old son hanging out with a 14 yr old girl he is friends with in our basement. At the moment, the girl was downstairs and my son was in kitchen getting water, snacks.

The story is she was returning my daughter’s shoes and had just arrived. The shoe mix up is true. They had gotten mixed up with hers the evening before when I let him have friends over a few hours, but there was no reason for a middle of the night exchange!

My son is losing his phone for a few days, and grounded, but I’m concerned this Freshman girl was out at all all hours. She is probably a mile away and must have walked! We would have called her parents, driven her home but she ran out! I got her # from my son’s phone and confirmed she is ok.

Should I try to let her parents know or just worry about my own kid?


OP. Come on. She just arrived at 4:30 AM and he was in the kitchen getting snacks.
Because she just dropped in in the middle of the night to return shoes and obviously, the next thing you do is to start hanging out and collecting your snacks.

Like, please, tell me you understand what is happening here.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:58     Subject: Re:Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:This somewhat happened to us. My son snuck a girl in. They had sex. They were caught. She ubered home. I don’t give a F about that girl. She can figure out how to sneak into my house then she can figure out how to get home.


Don't be like this sorry excuse of a human being, OP. Tell her parents. I assume you would want to know about it if someone had this info about your son.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:56     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Why did you confiscate the phone? What did that have to do with the transgression
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:48     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
OP,

C’mon, are you that naive or part ostrich?

Yes, tell the parents. “I don’t have their contact information” is a cop out. And potential liability on you!

Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:47     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:Your main goal is to keep yourself and your son out of any trouble that might arise. Act accordingly.


No really sure what that means. Besides this girl’s safety, I am hoping letting her parents know will allow them to be alert she is doing this and hopefully I don’t see her in the early morning hours again.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:42     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:Are you in Arlington? If so I may know who you’re taking about and yes, please tell the parents.


No, MoCo and I don’t have their contact info as she is a new friend (she is a freshman) but I tried to reach the mom on Facebook messenger.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:16     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Are you in Arlington? If so I may know who you’re taking about and yes, please tell the parents.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:13     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:He probably went and picked her up or met her halfway. Why even mention the shoes? Ridiculous.

My daughter’ and her friends were doing that sort of thing at that age. Some of the worst ones were the ones with the toughest parents.


Protecting a child from abusive peers is tough
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:05     Subject: Re:Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Anonymous wrote:This somewhat happened to us. My son snuck a girl in. They had sex. They were caught. She ubered home. I don’t give a F about that girl. She can figure out how to sneak into my house then she can figure out how to get home.


What is wrong with you?
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2023 14:04     Subject: Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?
Your main goal is to keep yourself and your son out of any trouble that might arise. Act accordingly.