Update: we kissed on the 3rd date!

We didn't see each other for a little over a week since her sister came into town and I started a new job, but we hung out all day Saturday! I didn't do anything too big for her bday, sent her a delivery with a cupcake and chocolate (she's a big on chocolate). When we planned the date, I gave a few ideas, one of them being hanging out at my place and walking to a Mexican restaurant, luckily she chose that one, it told me she wanted to be in a more private place and she felt comfortable with me.
We had more discussion about dating during the date, and she let me know that she's into me and gets nervous with the first moves because she's a newbie with women. She said she's happy I'm also new to it. It was the best day. Usually after dinner and one movie I'm ready for a guy to get going (if we even finish the movie). But we watched one, plus started a new show. I am hoping we will progress more physically soon, we didn't even cuddle, but I'm happy with the kissing for that date! She pulled me in for another one after our first one.
Thanks everyone for the advice.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use your words with her, OP. Ask her. Talk to her.

I am this PP again. OP - use your words in a direct AND flirty/sexy way! Text or say: "i'd really like to kiss you again. May I (or what do you think?)" Or "i've been thinking about our kiss, and wish I had tasted you again on our 2nd date. Can we try again when we see each other next?"

Especially given the novice nature of this budding interaction, you really NEED to be talking about these things!

Thank you! I'll use one of those lines

Awesome! Please report back. And - even if she doesn't respond in a way you'd like - you have "won" because you are clarifying what you want, and it will become easier to communicate this way (and filter out people who don't) the more you do it. Speaking from my own personal experience post-divorce and about a year later from "getting back out there" - clearly communicating about s&x etc., has made it soooo much more fun and satisfying! But it definitely has been a learning curve with some bumps (though none due to STIs )

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use your words with her, OP. Ask her. Talk to her.

I am this PP again. OP - use your words in a direct AND flirty/sexy way! Text or say: "i'd really like to kiss you again. May I (or what do you think?)" Or "i've been thinking about our kiss, and wish I had tasted you again on our 2nd date. Can we try again when we see each other next?"

Especially given the novice nature of this budding interaction, you really NEED to be talking about these things!

Thank you! I'll use one of those lines

Anonymous wrote:Use your words with her, OP. Ask her. Talk to her.

I am this PP again. OP - use your words in a direct AND flirty/sexy way! Text or say: "i'd really like to kiss you again. May I (or what do you think?)" Or "i've been thinking about our kiss, and wish I had tasted you again on our 2nd date. Can we try again when we see each other next?"

Especially given the novice nature of this budding interaction, you really NEED to be talking about these things!

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Anonymous wrote:She is going to be insufferable sharing about this period of her life when she's married to man and volunteering at the PTO for her kids' school.

She doesn't want kids. I'm the PTA mom myself lol, I have two kids, which she said she likes because in her ideal lesbian relationship they would foster, adopt, or the other person already has kids.
She has also said she doesn't want to date men anymore.
Of course she could change her mind, but she seems very set on being child free so far.

I should have said "she doesn't want a biological child."