Anonymous
09/04/2023 20:23
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OMG YES I keep volunteering for more things and joining more things and getting more hobbies but that can't cure the deep soul boredom.
The only thing that will cure this kind of boredom is meditation.
+2
And or prayer
Anonymous
09/04/2023 20:02
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Only boring people get bored.
You’ve never had ADHD.
We're an inattentive ADHD family and we're never bored. There's so much to think about in our heads. Of course, nothing actually gets done.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 20:00
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Yes. It's kind of fun to sit with your kids eating chik fil a or whatever godawful things kids like, and remember your glitzy life. I love looking around the strip mall chairs and say "this is my life now". Seriously. It's so darn amusing!
At first it's scary, but then it's a relief to realize that there never was a pot of gold at the end of rainbow you spent years chasing.
Seriously. The pot of gold was what? Some good stories and photos? Eviable instagram posts? Who cares? That stuff is so ephemeral.
Parenting can be boring some days, and certain aspects of parenting are truly a grind. But guess what, travel is the same! When you travel a lot, it's easy to get bored sitting in an airport or on a plane, going out to restaurants, seeing sights, etc. Yes, there are more exciting travel experiences and that stuff can be worth it, but usually also involves doing a lot of the former too.
But the difference with parenting is that there's this long game that is interesting and worthwhile even when parenting is boring af in the moment. Like when I'm in one of the "sitting around the airport" moments of parenting, some part of still understands that I am getting a front row seat to watching a person... become a person. Like all it takes is thinking for a second about what my kids will be like at 17 or 22 or 35 and I get enthusiastic and super invested, because I get to have a bit of a role in who that person will be. What travel experience is that meaningful? Very, very few.
Thanks for this perspective. The next time I’m bored playing with the same set of toys with my baby (which will most likely be tomorrow), I’ll be thinking about this!
Anonymous
09/04/2023 13:20
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Only boring people get bored.
You’ve never had ADHD.
I have it and the greatest gift is myriad interests! The challenge is finishing anything.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 11:55
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:People in developing countries can also get bored, OP. Time to drop that offensive phrase.
Am I missing the part in OP’s post that specified developing countries? This is weird.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 11:30
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Yes. It's kind of fun to sit with your kids eating chik fil a or whatever godawful things kids like, and remember your glitzy life. I love looking around the strip mall chairs and say "this is my life now". Seriously. It's so darn amusing!
I have kids and I don’t do any of these. The problem here is you or where you live.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 11:07
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Yes. It's kind of fun to sit with your kids eating chik fil a or whatever godawful things kids like, and remember your glitzy life. I love looking around the strip mall chairs and say "this is my life now". Seriously. It's so darn amusing!
At first it's scary, but then it's a relief to realize that there never was a pot of gold at the end of rainbow you spent years chasing.
Seriously. The pot of gold was what? Some good stories and photos? Eviable instagram posts? Who cares? That stuff is so ephemeral.
Parenting can be boring some days, and certain aspects of parenting are truly a grind. But guess what, travel is the same! When you travel a lot, it's easy to get bored sitting in an airport or on a plane, going out to restaurants, seeing sights, etc. Yes, there are more exciting travel experiences and that stuff can be worth it, but usually also involves doing a lot of the former too.
But the difference with parenting is that there's this long game that is interesting and worthwhile even when parenting is boring af in the moment. Like when I'm in one of the "sitting around the airport" moments of parenting, some part of still understands that I am getting a front row seat to watching a person... become a person. Like all it takes is thinking for a second about what my kids will be like at 17 or 22 or 35 and I get enthusiastic and super invested, because I get to have a bit of a role in who that person will be. What travel experience is that meaningful? Very, very few.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 11:01
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Yes. It's kind of fun to sit with your kids eating chik fil a or whatever godawful things kids like, and remember your glitzy life. I love looking around the strip mall chairs and say "this is my life now". Seriously. It's so darn amusing!
At first it's scary, but then it's a relief to realize that there never was a pot of gold at the end of rainbow you spent years chasing.
Exactly. Or the gold was just a little bit different of a reward. What you need, not what you want.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 10:59
Subject: Re:Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Do you read? Reading more (everything -- novels, nonfiction, magazines, essays) is honestly a better way to stay engaged and be a more worldly, interesting person than travel. And not a knock on travel, which I love, but I know lots of people who travel a ton but read little and they are boring. Whereas I know people who read a ton but travel much less who are better conversationalists and more interesting thinkers.
+1.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 09:53
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Yes. It's kind of fun to sit with your kids eating chik fil a or whatever godawful things kids like, and remember your glitzy life. I love looking around the strip mall chairs and say "this is my life now". Seriously. It's so darn amusing!
At first it's scary, but then it's a relief to realize that there never was a pot of gold at the end of rainbow you spent years chasing.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 09:04
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Yes. It's kind of fun to sit with your kids eating chik fil a or whatever godawful things kids like, and remember your glitzy life. I love looking around the strip mall chairs and say "this is my life now". Seriously. It's so darn amusing!
Anonymous
09/04/2023 09:01
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
I used to be a work hard, party hard world traveler. Now I’m a SAHM. You get used to the kid life and it is fun. I have friends from all over. We hang out with the kids. It isn’t so bad.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 08:49
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Anonymous wrote:Only boring people get bored.
You’ve never had ADHD.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 08:49
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
People in developing countries can also get bored, OP. Time to drop that offensive phrase.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 15:03
Subject: Bored- 1st world prob
Only boring people get bored.